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17 Jun 2019, 1:37 pm

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Dont de-rail the thread markins.


And yet it was ok for you to post your own feelings in my threads but somehow it's a horrible thing when I do it. :roll:



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17 Jun 2019, 1:39 pm

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Women in my area generally hate men who don't have tattoos, drink beer, smoke cigarettes, call women "Sluts", "whores", or "b*****s", and punch them in the face. The ones who don't still get upset if you don't call yourself a Christian.


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There’s nothing women love more than being sworn at, physically abused, and the smell of beer and cigarettes on a lover’s breath. What a turn on!

Oddly enough, I’ve never observed this behavior when I visited family down South.


It's common in my family and for rednecks and hip-hop thugs.



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17 Jun 2019, 1:45 pm

Don't engage him. He can't be reasoned with.



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17 Jun 2019, 1:58 pm

Brother Marknis, I have family living in the South (Oklahoma and Tennessee just to be clear) and whenever my grandmother visits or calls, she is okay with me refusing to behave like gender stereotypes.

However, my uncle loves acting like a d-bag whenever he visits and expects me to behave the same way towards the opposite sex. It's a good thing he doesn't know I am already in a relationship, but if he ever meets my girlfriend, he would try and force me to do something awful to her. In fact, my uncle loves picking up women, getting drunk, eating donuts, and watching TV all day whenever he's not at work.

You have every right NOT to comply with stereotypes people expect from you. People who love giving you a hard time just because you are on the spectrum just don't want to understand themselves. You are you and the people who don't want to understand you are themselves.

The irony about my uncle? He has a girlfriend himself.


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17 Jun 2019, 2:34 pm

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Brother Marknis, I have family living in the South (Oklahoma and Tennessee just to be clear) and whenever my grandmother visits or calls, she is okay with me refusing to behave like gender stereotypes.

However, my uncle loves acting like a d-bag whenever he visits and expects me to behave the same way towards the opposite sex. It's a good thing he doesn't know I am already in a relationship, but if he ever meets my girlfriend, he would try and force me to do something awful to her. In fact, my uncle loves picking up women, getting drunk, eating donuts, and watching TV all day whenever he's not at work.

You have every right NOT to comply with stereotypes people expect from you. People who love giving you a hard time just because you are on the spectrum just don't want to understand themselves. You are you and the people who don't want to understand you are themselves.

The irony about my uncle? He has a girlfriend himself.


I wish I could punch that uncle for you and I hope his girlfriend leaves him. It's guys like him that contribute to the social divide between the sexes in the Vile Belt.



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17 Jun 2019, 3:43 pm

Stop. Derailing. The. Thread.


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17 Jun 2019, 4:33 pm

I find the majority of neurotypical people to be distant.
But yes, I'd say that the opposite sex is even more distant.



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17 Jun 2019, 5:55 pm

IMO, it should not matter if someone of the opposite sex is a distant person.


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17 Jun 2019, 6:17 pm

It's more of an issue that the entire blasted world is acting distant, per se.


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17 Jun 2019, 7:01 pm

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It's more of an issue that the entire blasted world is acting distant, per se.


I believe this to be true... As now everybody grows up interacting digitally with others, fewer and fewer people know how to be around others in person.


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17 Jun 2019, 7:11 pm

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Do you find the opposite sex quite distant?
1. I'm married, so of course women keep their distance, especially at church.

2. I do notice that the Marvelous Mrs. Fnord may act a little 'distant' when I've said or done something wrong, but a sincere apology usually corrects that situation.

3. I do remember my female classmates keeping their distance in high school, but that had to do with a lot of social factors not under my control. Once I got away from that environment, my "luck with the ladies" vastly improved.

4. In all social situations, however, the more interesting you are, the more interest you will attract.



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17 Jun 2019, 7:16 pm

Fnord wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
Do you find the opposite sex quite distant?
1. I'm married, so of course women keep their distance, especially at church.

2. I do notice that the Marvelous Mrs. Fnord may act a little 'distant' when I've said or done something wrong, but a sincere apology usually corrects that situation.

3. I do remember my female classmates keeping their distance in high school, but that had to do with a lot of social factors not under my control. Once I got away from that environment, my "luck with the ladies" vastly improved.

4. In all social situations, however, the more interesting you are, the more interest you will attract.


How would you define “interesting” in this context?



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17 Jun 2019, 7:23 pm

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IMO, it should not matter if someone of the opposite sex is a distant person.


Makes things a bit more difficult if you want to date them though ;)




And by "a bit", I mean a lot.



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17 Jun 2019, 7:32 pm

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How would you define "interesting" in this context?
In the context of attracting the opposite sex, intelligence, education, talent, wealth and "good looks" (not necessarily in that order) are the main areas of interest. Evaluate these assets and compare them to what you know of your target demographic (e.g., the kind of person you want to attract). Then develop and emphasize the relevant assets.

It takes time, and there are no guarantees, but doing nothing accomplishes nothing, so why not make the effort when the rewards are so great?



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17 Jun 2019, 7:34 pm

Fnord wrote:
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How would you define "interesting" in this context?
In the context of attracting the opposite sex, intelligence, education, talent, wealth and "good looks" (not necessarily in that order) are the main areas of interest. Evaluate these assets and compare them to what you know of your target demographic (e.g., the kind of person you want to attract). Then develop and emphasize the relevant assets.

It takes time, and there are no guarantees, but doing nothing accomplishes nothing, so why not make the effort when the rewards are so great?


I agree. If nothing else, personal improvement is good for one’s self. It’s not like it’s wasted time.



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17 Jun 2019, 7:36 pm

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Fnord wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
How would you define "interesting" in this context?
In the context of attracting the opposite sex, intelligence, education, talent, wealth and "good looks" (not necessarily in that order) are the main areas of interest. Evaluate these assets and compare them to what you know of your target demographic (e.g., the kind of person you want to attract). Then develop and emphasize the relevant assets. It takes time, and there are no guarantees, but doing nothing accomplishes nothing, so why not make the effort when the rewards are so great?
I agree. If nothing else, personal improvement is good for one’s self. It's not like it’s wasted time.
Self-improvement is never wasted.