Don't get it if teenager girls start to flirt with me.

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were you trying to get her attention, with um, prolonged eye contact?

I looked to her eyes but rather short before she was passing me. Why not as long as a girl looks nice?


Not even few do once I look at them. I think they do once they aren't in a relationship and a guy seems interested. I think it's just flirting and means kind of 'I like you!' or 'Hello!'. Can't say it for sure because they are NTs and I don't getting them emotionally.


Wrong. I should have leave my wife and take her. She was funny, nice and really into me. But at this time I was still a bit naive.

Young women sometimes smile because they are nervous not because they like your looks.
If they stare at you they are only validation seeking, young women don't fancy older men.
Your sperm is defunct and your skin is baggy and you ought to feel like s**t.
You are abusing your privilege.
You are an emotionally stunted man.
You are trying to regain the last vestiges of youth by validation seeking.

I mean, there are some reasons, just off the top of my head. Would you like me to continue?
These are the invaluable lessons that were passed down to me during my last relationship.

I use to work retail for 11 years. The only young women i would ever pay attention too, were ones that work for various wine companies. I knew they were in their 20's. Whoever is with them are lucky dudes.

You are a womanizer who knows the girls huh? Why should any girl get in touch for letting me know how her breasts are once she doesn't like me? Sorry but it's a really nice way of flirting as really really many girls do towards guys who are a little bit attractive. If you aren't attractive at all for women then you can't know this of course.
Sorry for you!

I'll give you the benefit of the doubt this really happened which would be quite arousing.

I think there's a certain mindset you have to consciously enter when you get married (which you are) where you control your urges when you get unwarranted attention from young attractive girls (something I will admit I never got so I can't pretend to know what it's like). If for nobody else do it for your wife.

Show us your pic, Mr. extreme.

I'm not sure what he is trying to tell us.
On the one hand he doesn't want to attract teenagers, on the other hand he like to flirt with women of all ages.
Can anyone help this guy out?

If she's considered to look 20 and it's just looking or if you're in an open marriage or single, that's fine. In fact it's normal to stare at 20 somethings of the appropriate sex/sexes.

I'm specifically condemning weirdos who look at a girl (or boy), think she's 15 and 'go there', doing any kind of flirting with 15 year olds is wrong. Telling someone she looks like jailbait and she must love that is wrong.

I mean what are you going to have in common with a 15 yo other than finding 15 yos attractive...

But 20 somethings is just a type. A fairly common type too. My type is 18-21 or so. Youth is attractive and nobody's going to criticise you for that.

Maybe stick to talking about girls over the age of consent in the USA though. Considering this site is mostly American.

And make sure you know they're above the age of consent before you start flirting, whether that age is 15 or 21. Easier to do that with older women. Myself, I check out guys when school is in session and nobody in a school uniform, they leave school proper at 16 which is our age of consent so it's a nice indicator that they're young men and not underage boys. I check out guys that hang about the local uni. You might want to do the same with girls who do that (if you're single/in an open relationship/let your wife flirt too). In doing that, you have to focus your mind as well - go on a course yourself.

I certainly wouldn't go on a website, read an American young man describe himself as 'I look about 17 but am actually in my 30s' and say 'I bet you want me to be your cougar boy'. Because to him, I'd be describing a criminal act.

And no. I really am not attracted to old men. I'm not even attracted to guys my age. Women have types too.

duh, wrong thread.

Quite an extreme you are a very colourful character and I like you. Here are my observations for what they are worth:

I am wondering if you are in a male mid-life crisis yearning to be a free spirited juvenile again. Is it possible that you have a pre-occupation with young girls bordering on the obsessive? You post alot about how you tease them.

Women and young girls do not usually go around rubbing their breasts on strangers unless they are (excuse the expression no judgement intended) sluts or sex workers, though t..ts do tend to get in people's faces and mine also have a habit of being in the wrong place at the wrong time. Once when I was teaching I turned round to the white board and my male adult student turned my way and got bashed in the face by my bosom. He was bright red and was clearly embarassed. It was obviously unintentional on my part but maybe he was also misguided and thought I was smothering him on purpose? Probably so, though it never would have occurred to me before this thread that men could distort reality to suit their fantasies to such an extreme and have these misconceptions.

You are a sex addict maybe? again, no judgement.

Problems with recognising and respecting personal boundaries? One aspie friend of mine has this problem.

I am a smiley person, I "flirt" with everyone if flirting means being amenable and friendly.
I saw a documentary once that was illustrating the point that men often misinterpret women's smiles and body language and think she's saying "come have sex with me." The women when interviewed said that they use the same smile for pensioners or kids, it's just their social smile.
Finally......
Sometime's a girl stands next you because there is a vacant space.I think your fantasies are clouding your judgement.

No, women aren't this way to strangers. Except of course they are looking for a relationship and there is a guy who seems to be really nice and special and they want him to know that they like him before he is after another girl ... Right? Of course the more brave/naive girls wait until Santa Claus comes with the right guy may be. What would be the right way that gals who aren't just sluts should be towards guys in your opinion?

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Girls who want relationships don’t rub their breasts on strangers. Doing so is sexual harassment and could get a person into a lot of trouble!

Women who are looking for relationships express interest through talking while using subtle nonverbal cues like smiling, looking into someone’s eyes, playing with their hair, and laughing at the guys dumb jokes. Occasionally, a girl might touch him on the arm or shoulder with her hand, but a girl who’s looking for a relationship (not just sex) doesn’t go much farther than that, especially with a stranger (even if the girl finds him incredibly desirable for whatever reason)!

Engaging in such behavior would signal an interest in sex but nothing else. Anyway, I don’t believe this happened the way you think it did without alcohol, drugs, or outside of a club where, apparently, such things happen.

We seem to live on quite different planets. Why on earth should a guy become upset once a girl that he likes is this way towards him? Are there still any Americans who mate or is the last train already gone?

What if the guy is gay or asexual? What if he’s married and his wife is right there? What if he’s been abused by a woman and is made uncomfortable by such a forward act? What if he’s religious and is saving such a touch for marriage? All of these are valid reasons why such an act could make someone feel uncomfortable or upset.

Plenty of Americans “mate.” It’s just not this over-the-top or obvious. I doubt it is all that obvious in Germany, either, most of the time. Or has Germany become some sort of sexual fantasyland? I’m expecting a mass exodus to Germany from the males in this forum if that is the case.

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I know you're joking but I can assure you the OP's attitudes are in no way representative or typical for German people.


To the OP: plenty of (autistic) people dislike being touched by strangers regardless of the size of their boobs.