Broke men are hurting American women’s marriage prospects

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Leon_Trotsky
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20 Nov 2019, 2:05 am

314pe wrote:

Your view of Europe seems very idealistic, but life is short. You should move to Europe if you want to.

How is it idealistic? I already spent a few years in the UK, so I have first-hand experience there. And continental Europe always felt more comfortable to me than the UK.

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20 Nov 2019, 2:48 am

Leon_Trotsky wrote:

314pe wrote:

Your view of Europe seems very idealistic, but life is short. You should move to Europe if you want to.

How is it idealistic? I already spent a few years in the UK, so I have first-hand experience there. And continental Europe always felt more comfortable to me than the UK.

I've lived all my life in Europe. There is plenty of shallow, selfish, materialistic, hypocritical Europeans. Moving here will not solve all your dating problems. It's just going to be different new problems.

But it doesn't mean that you should not try. Who knows where you will find love.

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20 Nov 2019, 4:58 am

SecretOpossumCabal wrote:

Sly, there's something called the Hierarchy of Love.

Man
Woman
Child
Puppy

That's the hierarchy of love -- women don't date DOWN. Men do, hence the lower pines for the higher, this establishes order.

But the Hierarchy often omits one thing, that it's actually more like

God
Man
Woman
Child
Puppy

What women want from man is precisely what man wants from God, but you’ve got things reversed, you want from women what you’re supposed to receive from God. Which is why I say your problem is a spiritual one not a physical one. As you can’t turn the hierarchy of love upside down. Your comment on sex also makes me suspect that you mastubrate too much, which always makes male loneliness MUCH MORE acute.

Not only do you need to stop that visit http://www.reddit.com/r/nofap for help (will be VERY big struggle), you need to let the thought of women go. You remind me very much of myself from some years ago, which also reminds me of Bilbo and Gollum in Lord of the Rings.

Your reaction and obsession with women is precisely Bilbo’s/Gollum's reaction to the ring:

One of these characters were able to let their obsession go, while the other was consumed by it, slowly and bit by bit you are turning into Gollum.

People are telling you to keep trying but I’m telling you to let go of them. At this stage it’s an obsession and not a healthy longing. You’ve been obsessing over the ring for far too long. Lord of the Rings is also a Christian work, which is why you’ll find the answers you need in Christianity and not anywhere else. Don’t think your problem is physical at all – far from it.

The ring enslaves and needs to be destroyed.

Let them go.

So according to the above weird logic:

God loves man

Man loves woman

Woman loves child

Child loves cat

Cat loves ....tuna

I bet the tuna loves no one in this food chain.

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20 Nov 2019, 8:02 am

Leon_Trotsky wrote:

I already spent a few years in the UK, so I have first-hand experience there. And continental Europe always felt more comfortable to me than the UK.

I recall one study that indicated "attractiveness" is very different in different cultures. A more "effeminate" male form was attractive in countries with better healthcare. So from that perspective it makes sense to try one's "luck" elsewhere.

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20 Nov 2019, 5:50 pm

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Oh yea most people are screwed but small people like sly tend to be very receptive to it because they're small-natured and the world keeps them small. Most of the society is screwed because they're high-minded and love things that are large. In fact, speaking on Lord of the Rings I think this is why Tolkien worked the rings destruction through the hobbits, because the hobbits embody this kind of small-nature that is very appealing to God. But narrow is the way and few get in, but that's why it's actually a good thing that this world keeps him small and subdued, because now there is only one way out and that way is actually the BEST way out. The ONLY true way out in fact. So to the most hopeless goes the most hopeful. This world passes away but the next one will last forever. So giving the message to small people is very very good, as it's often only the small that are receptive to it, big people just don't want it.

That's just standard preaching. What about solutions? How is the Great Commission going to be fulfilled if they don't want to listen and won't even set foot inside a church to begin with?

It's how the story goes, God already said broad is the way that leads to damnation but narrow is the gate that leads to everlasting life and few will find it. "Many are called yet few are chosen". But as I say, that's why I think it's such a good message to bring to small-statured people, and the ones crushed by this world, as they have no choice but to look for another one. There's no room for them on the broad-way, so they have to find an alternative entrance.

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Sly is not a "small" person.

There's nothing wrong with being small-statured and he's clearly on the bottom of the totem pole no matter how many feel good nonsense you feed him. He's got the experience to back it up.

Now the thing to do, because he clearly doesn't want to make himself big, is for him to embrace his smallness, which is something that he can do through Christianity whose entire point is embracing humility. So it's the perfect way out for him and one that will turn him into a much better person. He'll no longer lives for women but for God and the promise of a new world.

Nothing wrong with being small-statured. I am small stature and I prefer it. What I'm suggesting him do is what I did about 2 years ago and to this day my life has gotten much better.

If the world wants nothing to do with you then it's time to find a better world. This world would make us believe this one is all that there is but that is a big fat lie.

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21 Nov 2019, 1:39 am

I’m not super religious and god hates me so i dont know why I’d devote my life to god.

When the time comes I finally give up hope I’ll kill myself. Screw Christianity and their hypocrisy. Jesus would be ashamed of them they nothing like what he said to be.

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21 Nov 2019, 2:17 am

sly279 wrote:

god hates me

How do you know it?

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21 Nov 2019, 5:58 am

^ He ghosted him.

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21 Nov 2019, 6:10 am

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^ He ghosted him.

Honest laugh for this! :lol:

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21 Nov 2019, 9:04 am

sly279 wrote:

Your judging God based on what humans are, when what humans are should be reason to trust God. Humans can't govern themselves that's the whole reason why we're here, to discover that fact that hard way.

In this world you're governed by humans and you see what its led to. God is our head and if he was in control we wouldn't be in this mess. This is our entire ordeal in this world and God's point, you DON'T want to be governed by humans because humans cannibalize themselves, hence your grief should point you towards heaven. Why do humans eat the small? Why do they crush those below them? Because humans would rather live like animals than angels, and we're discovering the hard way why the clouds rule over the earth.

The LORD is on my side; He is my helper. Therefore I will look in triumph on those who hate me. 8 It is better to take refuge in the LORD than to trust in man. Psalm 118:7-8

David answered Gad, “I am deeply distressed. Please, let us fall into the hands of the LORD, for His mercies are great; but do not let me fall into the hands of men.” 2 Samuel 24:14

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21 Nov 2019, 3:07 pm

magz wrote:

sly279 wrote:

god hates me

How do you know it?

God made me defective and unlovable. Then he made me desire and need love.
So that’s how I know.

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21 Nov 2019, 3:18 pm

sly279 wrote:

magz wrote:

sly279 wrote:

god hates me

How do you know it?

God made me defective and unlovable. Then he made me desire and need love.
So that’s how I know.

From what I know about Christianity (and mind it, I used to be a theology geek for years), there is no such construct as "unlovable person" for God.

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21 Nov 2019, 3:21 pm

magz wrote:

sly279 wrote:

magz wrote:

sly279 wrote:

god hates me

How do you know it?

God made me defective and unlovable. Then he made me desire and need love.
So that’s how I know.

From what I know about Christianity (and mind it, I used to be a theology geek for years), there is no such construct as "unlovable person" for God.

Unllovabe applies to women, women don’t see me as loveable, as worthy of love, good enough for love. I offer nothing tangible, Jesus wouldn’t be lovable today either, women today would see him as a worthless loser.

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21 Nov 2019, 3:21 pm

sly279 wrote:

magz wrote:

sly279 wrote:

magz wrote:

sly279 wrote:

god hates me

How do you know it?

God made me defective and unlovable. Then he made me desire and need love.
So that’s how I know.

From what I know about Christianity (and mind it, I used to be a theology geek for years), there is no such construct as "unlovable person" for God.

I think you have very bad opinion about women.

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21 Nov 2019, 3:29 pm

I'm not sure about that. I think Sly has a bad opinion of himself and attaches too much of his self-worth to being desirable to women. Low-self-esteem shines through, and he's not seen as attractive, which further lowers his self-esteem. Rinse and repeat. It's a pretty vicious cycle.

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21 Nov 2019, 3:30 pm

magz wrote:

sly279 wrote:

magz wrote:

sly279 wrote:

magz wrote:

sly279 wrote:

god hates me

How do you know it?

God made me defective and unlovable. Then he made me desire and need love.
So that’s how I know.

From what I know about Christianity (and mind it, I used to be a theology geek for years), there is no such construct as "unlovable person" for God.

I think you have very bad opinion about women.

It’s the one they present if themselves.
No one makes them require men who make good money. They decided that themselves.
Lady at work even calls her daughter Materialistic and superficial.
That’s how most women are todsy. Jesus was poor, and didn’t believe in making money as it selfish. He was about people and loving each other for them not their money.
So no I don’t think women today would see in value in Jesus. He’d be just about poor homeless guy to them not worth any of their time. Much like when a new pastor goes undercover as homless and his new church tries to kick him out. No that’s not what Jesus would do. Jesus wouldn’t reject men due to their income either, so no Christian women aren’t following god and Jesus. They’ve given in to the devil, greed is a sin. Desiring money is a sin. Valuing people based on their wealth is a sin. Non of that is what Jesus and christians are suppose to be.

Non of their wealth will go with their, and at the gates they will be judged in their deeds and actions not on how much they made.

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