auntblabby
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18 Jan 2020, 2:48 am
19 Jan 2020, 9:42 pm
20 Jan 2020, 6:59 pm
I'm the last to be aware of anything social about any countercultures or subcultures I inhabit, in some ways I'm just into the stuff I am because I'm used to the isolation.
For all the random stuff I can do in the material world, my personal life is a total mystery to me these days. I was too burnt out on people entirely to leave my house almost all weekend. There's no good way of showing love that I can find any time for. I'm working too hard lately & I just keep feeling more & more alienated.
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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos
20 Jan 2020, 8:55 pm
Mind you, at your age you are in the position that I was. It was as if most of the young ladies wanted the tough guys or the experienced guys... But then when one gets in ones late 30's to 40's, those ladies have been there and down that and mde their mistakes, and want to settle down with a nice sensiblw man. Is like they have learnt the lessons from their youth and want to make ammends... And sensible guys then start to be in high demand as there are so few singlw ones available.
But the inbetween stage is the difficult stage. I was 35 before I had my first girlfriend. Prior to this I was usually told I was too nice or too sensible... Usual stuff. Young girls just wanted the tough guys with bad reputations. (Boy did many of them later wish they hadn't! Haha!).
What I will say is to keep your eyes open andnot give up hope, but don't worry too much if you don't find a girl. The older you are, the more of a good catch you will get to be, and the more you will be in demand!
I'm too weird to live & too rare to die as I was thinking previously. I don't exactly know my reputation but I try to show affection regardless of my social status so hopefully that's good for something.
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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos
20 Jan 2020, 10:42 pm
21 Jan 2020, 2:24 am
Admittedly I've gotten myself into too much trouble over mundane ASD kind of things to trust myself around people anymore.
I'm thinking this will all work itself out if I manage to survive all the nonsense in the meantime. Ugh
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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos
21 Jan 2020, 3:22 am
21 Jan 2020, 4:31 am
21 Jan 2020, 9:26 am
I guess this explains why it feels so pointless. There's basically no more decisive way of being left behind, ignored, usurped etc.
It calls into question why I'm even alive in the first place.
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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos
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21 Jan 2020, 9:32 am
All I can think is that this is supposed to be giving people's lives purpose but I'm exempt.
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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos
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21 Jan 2020, 9:34 am
21 Jan 2020, 9:42 am
As far as I can tell there's too much disastrous stuff in my past that I don't feel like explaining constantly.
To be fair I can't imagine why I would even be considered an option by anyone. Everyone stereotyping me constantly makes for some very cold social interactions.
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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos
21 Jan 2020, 9:45 am
21 Jan 2020, 9:49 am
I guess it's no longer surprising that I'm late to every party at least. I'm productive, sure, but at the cost of forgetting how to do anything else.
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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos
21 Jan 2020, 10:10 am
21 Jan 2020, 3:36 pm
Here I was always thinking about ASD hobbies & obsessions as inevitable deal breakers, as if I'm already married to all my work & completely unavailable. I can get why being upfront about passions could help but I thought people always conflated engineering & computers with coldness & me being aloof.
There is no way whatsoever that this societal prescription of a nonexistent social life is sustainable for me & I'm probably also cutting friends off from any & all good things I might do for them, all because we failed to understand each other. It's harder to even think straight without anyone in my life checking my process.
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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos
