I am completely stuck in a rut.

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I can’t utilize any advice given to me. My life rejects everything that isn’t failure and suffering.

"This too shall pass."
I'll bet KraftieK's left testicle on that.

I don’t think it will. The older I get, the worse the depression affects my mind.

Well, KraftieK,
It's off to the knackery with you, my man.

Could your depression be a chemical imbalance problem?
Do you take meds for it?

Just a little update on my end:

Last week on Thursday, best friend and I both quit our jobs. I still have my weekend job, but it’s only some $800 a month. We are now jobless. There’s no looking back. Either we line up some work IMMEDIATELY or we go hungry.

Only way we’re gonna change our lives is if we freakin’ commit. Quitting a job without a contingency is dangerous. It’s insane when you add pregnant wifey and 3 kids. But what do you do when you’d rather be starving and possibly homeless than stuck where you are?

I’m not seriously suggesting you quitting your job is the right answer. What you and I have in common is buying into the lie that there’s nothing else we can do about our situation. We’re scared to death over here. But feeling miserable is no longer an option for us. You know it’s bad when we’ll take scared out of our minds over misery. It’s not that being scared is any better. It’s just that it’s anything except what we’ve had. And if there’s even a slight chance, no matter how remote, that things will get better, we’ll take it!

The advantage you have over us is that you’re younger and less attached. If you fail at something, you have more options. If I fail, there are five other people who suffer the consequences.

Accept the old job's contract, Rho, before you lose it too.

I wish I could leave my job without trouble. I also wish I had the skills to get another job.

this is probably a very bad times in the economie to be having to look for other work .

For me, that’s a negatory on both counts. I’m already in trouble, and I have zero actual working experience with what I’m applying for.

It gets worse. Tomorrow we’re house hunting and moving some of my heavy gear into a storage unit. In another town. On the opposite side of the state.

But there are positives. I had a meeting with a guy who’s retiring. I wanted to get some advice and details on a job I put in for. Looks encouraging. Like I said, I can’t say 100% it would work for you if you followed my example. That’s not my point. The point is that you have the courage to take some calculated risk and see if at all possible you can get yourself free. I could be miserable at my job or I could be miserable on the street. How pathetic do things have to get when the street looks better than the job? That’s where I am at the moment. If we don’t get a little crazy, things are never gonna work out for us.

I’ve NEVER seen it this bad before. NEVER. People in my line of work network all the time. Jobs can be found. You just have to know where to look and who to talk to. The story I keep getting back is the positions are already filled, and that’s when I call/email within days of a listing. That in and of itself isn’t that unusual. It’s just that NOBODY out there is trading jobs right now. Some of the jobs I was predicting and counting on opening up are just giving me total silence. The other jobs that have been listed usually draw from green college grads. I don’t stand a chance against these kids. But at the same time they’re the only gigs available that I could even apply for.

Most people are following Boo’s advice. If I were anyone else, I’d completely agree. But I’m afraid circumstances don’t allow me that luxury!

Boo: I suppose, worst case scenario, I could grovel and get my job back. But at this point that’s gonna have to be a pretty exceptional case of suck for me to do that.