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23 Jun 2020, 9:08 am

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Bender you are a knight in shining armour, galloping forth to rescue the damsels in distress. How sweet you are! :heart: I took Cybers' compliment as humorous not sarcastic, NT humour I suppose. How complex we all are!! I understand the need to be protective of feelings just now. I wouldn't be here had Fnord not defended me when I first joined.


Hehe, not really, just grateful. You have defended people on the spectrum like a lioness, many times - that doesn't happen too often. What goes around, comes around :P


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23 Jun 2020, 11:03 am

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Me. I'm in a relationship.


Was gonna say, "Just kidding" but nobody enquired...


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23 Jun 2020, 11:26 am

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Me. I'm in a relationship.


Was gonna say, "Just kidding" but nobody enquired...


So...so...you broke up with me??! 8O :|



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23 Jun 2020, 8:04 pm

Teach51 wrote:
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I suppose it's about being open to different cultures and mindsets. That's a good thing. You are devoid of prejudice Kraftie. Those of you with aspie partners maybe aspie/aspie relationships are easier. I am so happy to hear when people find great partners, it is quite miraculous these days, or am I wrong?


You are are way smarter than you let on!

Boo's hypothesis relates to a personality trait - openness to new experiences....


8O

I guess one needs to be NT to master the art of the backhanded compliment :roll:

The rest of us pay attention to her posts and know how bright she is.


Bender you are a knight in shining armour, galloping forth to rescue the damsels in distress. How sweet you are! :heart: I took Cybers' compliment as humorous not sarcastic, NT humour I suppose. How complex we all are!! I understand the need to be protective of feelings just now. I wouldn't be here had Fnord not defended me when I first joined.


Fnord helping someone else?
"Pigs arse!" :P :mrgreen:

Sorry,
I couldn't help myself.
I am secretly in luv with the man.
It is the unrequited luv that is driving me to say these bitter words. :( :mrgreen:



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23 Jun 2020, 8:10 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
BenderRodriguez wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
I suppose it's about being open to different cultures and mindsets. That's a good thing. You are devoid of prejudice Kraftie. Those of you with aspie partners maybe aspie/aspie relationships are easier. I am so happy to hear when people find great partners, it is quite miraculous these days, or am I wrong?


You are are way smarter than you let on!

Boo's hypothesis relates to a personality trait - openness to new experiences....


8O

I guess one needs to be NT to master the art of the backhanded compliment :roll:

The rest of us pay attention to her posts and know how bright she is.


Bender you are a knight in shining armour, galloping forth to rescue the damsels in distress.




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I find what Teach said about Fnord much funnier. :mrgreen:

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23 Jun 2020, 8:19 pm

Teach51 wrote:
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Pepes' compliment is well received :)


"You have been weighed,
You have been measured,
And you have been found" to be most "adequate". :wink:


And you Pepe are a delightful cheeky bug.er who elevates my mood instantly. :heart:


Please dear,
Don't fall in luv with me,
I'm already in a relationship,
With myself. :mrgreen:

The irony is,
An English teacher at skool said the same about me when I was around 14.
She called me a "Mischievous Monkey".
It was my destiny to make jokes,
And make everyone else suffer. :twisted:
Now where did Fnord go? :scratch:



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23 Jun 2020, 8:23 pm

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Me. I'm in a relationship.


Was gonna say, "Just kidding" but nobody enquired...


Are you serious?!

Err,
Too late now, I guess. :wink:



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23 Jun 2020, 9:09 pm

Bender, Teach and Boo! (and apologies for temporarily hijacking this thread topic)

A few reasons for why Aspies could benefit from finding a foreign partner
- Open to new experiences (this personality type overrides autism and the Aspie could find the new experience stimulating both intellectually and emotionally).

- The foreigner partners are more likely to associate "weird" quirks to cultural differences. This is a very good point Boo, foreign people are much more accommodating for individual differences since they themselves are learning to read the new culture and are aware they are different as well.

- The foreigner partners come for cultures which are more introvert-friendly (and most of the mentioned ones here come from far/south Eastern cultures). Possibly true of some eastern cultures but they do tend to be more collectivist and can be antagonistic toward individual differences and not conforming (certainly the wider Indian community isn't exactly disability friendly).

- The status and looks, as a foreigner to the partner, may compensate the AS-related "flaws", an add-value that catch their eyes (most aspie men struggle in getting dates, acquiring good first impressions - not the maintaining of relationships).

This is really controversial and (yes) there are foreign girls who would be like this but I would never wish a "gold digger" type girl on an aspie guy. My own wife is certainly not in this category as she is socially conservative and I had to pursue her over a number of years against the wishes of her family.



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25 Jun 2020, 1:17 am

cyberdad wrote:
Bender, Teach and Boo! (and apologies for temporarily hijacking this thread topic)

A few reasons for why Aspies could benefit from finding a foreign partner
- Open to new experiences (this personality type overrides autism and the Aspie could find the new experience stimulating both intellectually and emotionally).

- The foreigner partners are more likely to associate "weird" quirks to cultural differences. This is a very good point Boo, foreign people are much more accommodating for individual differences since they themselves are learning to read the new culture and are aware they are different as well.

- The foreigner partners come for cultures which are more introvert-friendly (and most of the mentioned ones here come from far/south Eastern cultures). Possibly true of some eastern cultures but they do tend to be more collectivist and can be antagonistic toward individual differences and not conforming (certainly the wider Indian community isn't exactly disability friendly).

- The status and looks, as a foreigner to the partner, may compensate the AS-related "flaws", an add-value that catch their eyes (most aspie men struggle in getting dates, acquiring good first impressions - not the maintaining of relationships).

This is really controversial and (yes) there are foreign girls who would be like this but I would never wish a "gold digger" type girl on an aspie guy. My own wife is certainly not in this category as she is socially conservative and I had to pursue her over a number of years against the wishes of her family.




I don't mean they're interested in you as a foreigner in gold-digging way, but in an exotic way - for instance a lot of Asian girls told me that they like my "narrow nose" which is actually a typical Caucasian trait - maybe it's your accent, looks, manners...etc. You know there's so much competition among men in the dating scene, so anything could be a one big "+" point.



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25 Jun 2020, 1:25 am

Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
BenderRodriguez wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
I suppose it's about being open to different cultures and mindsets. That's a good thing. You are devoid of prejudice Kraftie. Those of you with aspie partners maybe aspie/aspie relationships are easier. I am so happy to hear when people find great partners, it is quite miraculous these days, or am I wrong?


You are are way smarter than you let on!

Boo's hypothesis relates to a personality trait - openness to new experiences....


8O

I guess one needs to be NT to master the art of the backhanded compliment :roll:

The rest of us pay attention to her posts and know how bright she is.


Bender you are a knight in shining armour, galloping forth to rescue the damsels in distress.




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I find what Teach said about Fnord much funnier. :mrgreen:

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Fnord is like a Royal Guard.
No matter what jokes you tell him, he won't even blink. :mrgreen:

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25 Jun 2020, 1:29 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
BenderRodriguez wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
I suppose it's about being open to different cultures and mindsets. That's a good thing. You are devoid of prejudice Kraftie. Those of you with aspie partners maybe aspie/aspie relationships are easier. I am so happy to hear when people find great partners, it is quite miraculous these days, or am I wrong?


You are are way smarter than you let on!

Boo's hypothesis relates to a personality trait - openness to new experiences....


8O

I guess one needs to be NT to master the art of the backhanded compliment :roll:

The rest of us pay attention to her posts and know how bright she is.


Bender you are a knight in shining armour, galloping forth to rescue the damsels in distress.




Image


I find what Teach said about Fnord much funnier. :mrgreen:

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Fnord is like a Royal Guard.
No matter what jokes you tell him, he won't even blink. :mrgreen:

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:mrgreen:
I've seen his X-rays.
He is missing both "Funny Bones". 8O



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25 Jun 2020, 1:45 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I don't mean they're interested in you as a foreigner in gold-digging way, but in an exotic way - for instance a lot of Asian girls told me that they like my "narrow nose" which is actually a typical Caucasian trait - maybe it's your accent, looks, manners...etc. You know there's so much competition among men in the dating scene, so anything could be a one big "+" point.


My wife has Indian features which are broadly overlapping with middle eastern but I dated one east Asian girl back in the 1990s with a fairly typical "Asian face" and she did tell me "she would kill to get my nose" (I have a narrow roman nose). At the time I thought it was a compliment but now that I think back I might have been exotic for her.



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25 Jun 2020, 1:56 am

Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
BenderRodriguez wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
I suppose it's about being open to different cultures and mindsets. That's a good thing. You are devoid of prejudice Kraftie. Those of you with aspie partners maybe aspie/aspie relationships are easier. I am so happy to hear when people find great partners, it is quite miraculous these days, or am I wrong?


You are are way smarter than you let on!

Boo's hypothesis relates to a personality trait - openness to new experiences....


8O

I guess one needs to be NT to master the art of the backhanded compliment :roll:

The rest of us pay attention to her posts and know how bright she is.


Bender you are a knight in shining armour, galloping forth to rescue the damsels in distress.




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I find what Teach said about Fnord much funnier. :mrgreen:

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Fnord is like a Royal Guard.
No matter what jokes you tell him, he won't even blink. :mrgreen:

[img]https://images.fineartamerica.com/images/artworkimages/mediumlarge/1/royal-guard-paul-tagliamonte.jpg[/img


:mrgreen:
I've seen his X-rays.
He is missing both "Funny Bones". 8O


You should donate some to him!



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25 Jun 2020, 2:09 am

cyberdad wrote:
Bender, Teach and Boo! (and apologies for temporarily hijacking this thread topic)

A few reasons for why Aspies could benefit from finding a foreign partner
- Open to new experiences (this personality type overrides autism and the Aspie could find the new experience stimulating both intellectually and emotionally).

- The foreigner partners are more likely to associate "weird" quirks to cultural differences. This is a very good point Boo, foreign people are much more accommodating for individual differences since they themselves are learning to read the new culture and are aware they are different as well.

- The foreigner partners come for cultures which are more introvert-friendly (and most of the mentioned ones here come from far/south Eastern cultures). Possibly true of some eastern cultures but they do tend to be more collectivist and can be antagonistic toward individual differences and not conforming (certainly the wider Indian community isn't exactly disability friendly).

- The status and looks, as a foreigner to the partner, may compensate the AS-related "flaws", an add-value that catch their eyes (most aspie men struggle in getting dates, acquiring good first impressions - not the maintaining of relationships).

This is really controversial and (yes) there are foreign girls who would be like this but I would never wish a "gold digger" type girl on an aspie guy. My own wife is certainly not in this category as she is socially conservative and I had to pursue her over a number of years against the wishes of her family.

Downside is you’ll never meet up in person.


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25 Jun 2020, 2:11 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Bender, Teach and Boo! (and apologies for temporarily hijacking this thread topic)

A few reasons for why Aspies could benefit from finding a foreign partner
- Open to new experiences (this personality type overrides autism and the Aspie could find the new experience stimulating both intellectually and emotionally).

- The foreigner partners are more likely to associate "weird" quirks to cultural differences. This is a very good point Boo, foreign people are much more accommodating for individual differences since they themselves are learning to read the new culture and are aware they are different as well.

- The foreigner partners come for cultures which are more introvert-friendly (and most of the mentioned ones here come from far/south Eastern cultures). Possibly true of some eastern cultures but they do tend to be more collectivist and can be antagonistic toward individual differences and not conforming (certainly the wider Indian community isn't exactly disability friendly).

- The status and looks, as a foreigner to the partner, may compensate the AS-related "flaws", an add-value that catch their eyes (most aspie men struggle in getting dates, acquiring good first impressions - not the maintaining of relationships).

This is really controversial and (yes) there are foreign girls who would be like this but I would never wish a "gold digger" type girl on an aspie guy. My own wife is certainly not in this category as she is socially conservative and I had to pursue her over a number of years against the wishes of her family.




I don't mean they're interested in you as a foreigner in gold-digging way, but in an exotic way - for instance a lot of Asian girls told me that they like my "narrow nose" which is actually a typical Caucasian trait - maybe it's your accent, looks, manners...etc. You know there's so much competition among men in the dating scene, so anything could be a one big "+" point.

Foreign women find handsome western men handsome. I watched video about Japanese women interviewed about why they like western men.They like western celebrities, but not average American like me. Also most said they thought there’d be too much culture differences for a relationship to work.


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sly279 wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Bender, Teach and Boo! (and apologies for temporarily hijacking this thread topic)

A few reasons for why Aspies could benefit from finding a foreign partner
- Open to new experiences (this personality type overrides autism and the Aspie could find the new experience stimulating both intellectually and emotionally).

- The foreigner partners are more likely to associate "weird" quirks to cultural differences. This is a very good point Boo, foreign people are much more accommodating for individual differences since they themselves are learning to read the new culture and are aware they are different as well.

- The foreigner partners come for cultures which are more introvert-friendly (and most of the mentioned ones here come from far/south Eastern cultures). Possibly true of some eastern cultures but they do tend to be more collectivist and can be antagonistic toward individual differences and not conforming (certainly the wider Indian community isn't exactly disability friendly).

- The status and looks, as a foreigner to the partner, may compensate the AS-related "flaws", an add-value that catch their eyes (most aspie men struggle in getting dates, acquiring good first impressions - not the maintaining of relationships).

This is really controversial and (yes) there are foreign girls who would be like this but I would never wish a "gold digger" type girl on an aspie guy. My own wife is certainly not in this category as she is socially conservative and I had to pursue her over a number of years against the wishes of her family.

Downside is you’ll never meet up in person.


Have you considered teaching English in Japan? you meet all their requirements