13 Jul 2020, 2:14 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Pepe wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
There are many women who are “inexperienced,” too.
The only way to gain experience.....is to gain experience. People have to make an effort to gain experience.
The only way to gain experience.....is to gain experience. People have to make an effort to gain experience.
In "Eve online", you can buy experience.
Maybe people should go there.
In WOW you just need to smash more heads.
You play/played WOW?
13 Jul 2020, 2:17 pm
Muse933277 wrote:
idntonkw wrote:
Muse933277 wrote:
Well the problem is that i'm 25 with no experience whatsoever. Iv'e never even kissed a girl, and i'm sure that's going to be pretty obvious and might actually hurt my chances down the line.
As you get older, you're sort of expected to know what you're doing. Sure, it might be forgivable to be inexperienced when you're a teenager but i'm a 25 year old grown man, and there's a good chance I may not even start dating until i'm in my thirties.
Say i'm 32 and I start dating, how am I supposed to explain to a grown ass woman who's probably had 10+ years of experience and been in several long term relationships, that i'm a virgin who's never even kissed a girl? When you're a thirty something old man, you're not expected to have the experience of a 13 year old! And that's probably the reality i'm going to have to face 5 years from now.
Some people just get dealt a crappy hand in the realm of dating. If my height doesn't scare women off, then it'll be my aspergers or lack of experience.
As you get older, you're sort of expected to know what you're doing. Sure, it might be forgivable to be inexperienced when you're a teenager but i'm a 25 year old grown man, and there's a good chance I may not even start dating until i'm in my thirties.
Say i'm 32 and I start dating, how am I supposed to explain to a grown ass woman who's probably had 10+ years of experience and been in several long term relationships, that i'm a virgin who's never even kissed a girl? When you're a thirty something old man, you're not expected to have the experience of a 13 year old! And that's probably the reality i'm going to have to face 5 years from now.
Some people just get dealt a crappy hand in the realm of dating. If my height doesn't scare women off, then it'll be my aspergers or lack of experience.
An older woman at work told me, 'Once a man is over 30 and single, women start to suspect something is wrong with him that he does not have a relationship and avoid dating him for that reason.' However, as an aspie, the little experience you do get with kissing and sex and relationships, may not be enough to make up for the difference between you and NT men to keep a woman interested. I think one relationship is the minimum to have the 'status' for a woman to be interested. A woman at work set up an NT guy with her daughter who never had a boy friend, and she mentioned that it was very important to her that the guy has had prior experience with other girls before her daughter.. it is like dancing with an experienced dancer - women want to experience all the good moves, and not the bad ones.
I say exercise, eating at home and healthy, hygiene, dressing, and clean house are the most attractive things you can do to get a girl.
That’s why people lie.
That’s why men lie about being gay or lie about being a virgin or about ever seeing a prostitute or why women lie about having a high partner count. There’s a certain social stigma attached to these things.
OK, it is official.
Pepe is *not* a man.
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13 Jul 2020, 3:15 pm
Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Pepe wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
There are many women who are “inexperienced,” too.
The only way to gain experience.....is to gain experience. People have to make an effort to gain experience.
The only way to gain experience.....is to gain experience. People have to make an effort to gain experience.
In "Eve online", you can buy experience.
Maybe people should go there.
In WOW you just need to smash more heads.
You play/played WOW?
Not really, but aren't how most RPG experience systems work (killing and quests)?
13 Jul 2020, 9:14 pm
13 Jul 2020, 10:08 pm
Pepe wrote:
Seriously frightening
13 Jul 2020, 10:09 pm
14 Jul 2020, 12:54 pm
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15 Jul 2020, 5:55 am
cyberdad wrote:
The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Muse933277 wrote:
Say i'm 32 and I start dating, how am I supposed to explain to a grown ass woman who's probably had 10+ years of experience and been in several long term relationships, that i'm a virgin who's never even kissed a girl? When you're a thirty something old man, you're not expected to have the experience of a 13 year old! And that's probably the reality i'm going to have to face 5 years from now.
A lot of NT christian women are in the same boat as you and are virgins.
And that's probably fine if you're also a Christian. Doesn't really help those of us who have ended up in this situation and are irreligious, though.
Take it from me, good christian girls ain't always that "pure"....
I have heard that "Baptists" have no trouble getting hot and heavy!
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15 Aug 2020, 7:40 pm
15 Aug 2020, 7:54 pm
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i feel this changed my mindset and perspective on talking to women, i got it from a different forum:
A guy was asking for advice on how to get better at talking to women, and people used the word practice
"It bothers and annoys, enrages me a lot, when people use the word practice, because for women, there is no such thing as practicing talking to men, because women's lives are on autopilot when it comes to talking to men since puberty, due to all of the constant attention they've been getting since then, women are forced to, have no choice but to learn how to talk to men, and they gain it right away by doing nothing since they don't have to open their mouth first."
I thought that was bang on, very dead on there, at the same time, its a reminder of my life-long hatred, resentment towards the gender role, social-norm, that guys have to be the initiators, open our mouth first in front of a woman, etc. Its probably the only thing i've always hated about being born male.
A guy was asking for advice on how to get better at talking to women, and people used the word practice
"It bothers and annoys, enrages me a lot, when people use the word practice, because for women, there is no such thing as practicing talking to men, because women's lives are on autopilot when it comes to talking to men since puberty, due to all of the constant attention they've been getting since then, women are forced to, have no choice but to learn how to talk to men, and they gain it right away by doing nothing since they don't have to open their mouth first."
I thought that was bang on, very dead on there, at the same time, its a reminder of my life-long hatred, resentment towards the gender role, social-norm, that guys have to be the initiators, open our mouth first in front of a woman, etc. Its probably the only thing i've always hated about being born male.
It is easier to "talk" to women on forums like this one, rather than in person.
I suggest you "practice" here and on other like forums.
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15 Aug 2020, 8:02 pm
Pepe wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
i feel this changed my mindset and perspective on talking to women, i got it from a different forum:
A guy was asking for advice on how to get better at talking to women, and people used the word practice
"It bothers and annoys, enrages me a lot, when people use the word practice, because for women, there is no such thing as practicing talking to men, because women's lives are on autopilot when it comes to talking to men since puberty, due to all of the constant attention they've been getting since then, women are forced to, have no choice but to learn how to talk to men, and they gain it right away by doing nothing since they don't have to open their mouth first."
I thought that was bang on, very dead on there, at the same time, its a reminder of my life-long hatred, resentment towards the gender role, social-norm, that guys have to be the initiators, open our mouth first in front of a woman, etc. Its probably the only thing i've always hated about being born male.
A guy was asking for advice on how to get better at talking to women, and people used the word practice
"It bothers and annoys, enrages me a lot, when people use the word practice, because for women, there is no such thing as practicing talking to men, because women's lives are on autopilot when it comes to talking to men since puberty, due to all of the constant attention they've been getting since then, women are forced to, have no choice but to learn how to talk to men, and they gain it right away by doing nothing since they don't have to open their mouth first."
I thought that was bang on, very dead on there, at the same time, its a reminder of my life-long hatred, resentment towards the gender role, social-norm, that guys have to be the initiators, open our mouth first in front of a woman, etc. Its probably the only thing i've always hated about being born male.
It is easier to "talk" to women on forums like this one, rather than in person.
I suggest you "practice" here and on other like forums.
nevertheless, its just that it irritates me a lot when people say that women need skills as well in order to get a date or get a boyfriend, have success in dating on their part, i don't see how, why or how do women need skills when women normally play a passive role and don't have to escalate anything on their part?
