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The Grand Inquisitor
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30 Jul 2020, 8:38 am

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I meant your mind, mostly, when I said “equipment.”

Ahhh, thanks. I thought that was what you meant, but wanted to be sure.

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What’s wrong with your appearance? You look like a man who’s into muscle cars—nothing wrong with that. Or like some guy from ZZ Top. Nothing wrong with that, either. A “normal” sort of guy from many parts of the USA.

I have a lazy eye, not the best facial features, my hair is already thinning and my hairline has started to recede in the past couple of years so I'll probably be bald before I'm 30, poor posture and loose skin from weight loss.

Not to say that there's absolutely nothing nice about my appearance, but judging by the fact that women seldom seem to find me attractive, the feedback I get on my appearance is mostly negative and I've been singled out as a virgin without ever mentioning anything about sex or relationships more times in real life than women have signalled that they find me attractive in real life leads me to believe that I'm not doing particularly well in the looks department.

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I understand why you dropped out from university—but I wish you would have graduated.


The truth of the matter is it wasn't the right course for me. I wish I'd had a greater understanding of my strengths and propensities in high school. That way, I would have been able to get a greater amount of assistance from the school career guidance counsellor in finding the right fit for me employment-wise. I'm still lost on that front, and I wonder how different my life would be if I'd been able to make the right choices after high school and get my career path figured out early, as opposed to still being pretty clueless now.



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30 Jul 2020, 9:16 am

There are people who are downright ugly who are successful with women. You don’t fit into the “downright ugly” category.

You’re not Brad Pitt, either. Then again, I’m certainly not him, either. Very few men are. The picture in my avatar is me. Do you feel my looks would attract throngs of women?

You’re a regular-looking guy. Your posture is okay, based on your picture.

You might become more attractive to women once you go bald. Women seem to have a thing for bald men.



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30 Jul 2020, 10:27 am

i have a lazy eye and a big bent broken nose.

Both can be fixed though



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30 Jul 2020, 1:13 pm

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I think my dating issues are multifaceted. Lack of access is part of the equation, but so is asperger's-related awkwardness and social deficits, as well as my appearance. Maybe women think I'm boring as well.


I had a long beard at your age.
I was advised to get rid of it.
Women generally aren't that keen on beards, well, at least back in my day.

Beards are more fashionable, now, but unless you are looking for a rebellious bikie chicky babe, I suggest you trim it right back.

I am talking from experience. 8)
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30 Jul 2020, 1:17 pm

Jamesy wrote:
i have a lazy eye and a big bent broken nose.

Both can be fixed though


Fix them.
It will help your self-confidence and self-esteem.
Seriously.

Yes, I know it is a bit superficial, but most people/relationships are, sadly. 8)
Blame evolution. :roll:



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30 Jul 2020, 1:23 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I meant your mind, mostly, when I said “equipment.”

What’s wrong with your appearance? You look like a man who’s into muscle cars—nothing wrong with that. Or like some guy from ZZ Top. Nothing wrong with that, either. A “normal” sort of guy from many parts of the USA.

I understand why you dropped out from university—but I wish you would have graduated.


I believe most women aren't into long beards.
Make a poll? <pant> :mrgreen:



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30 Jul 2020, 1:41 pm

Pepe wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
i have a lazy eye and a big bent broken nose.

Both can be fixed though


Fix them.
It will help your self-confidence and self-esteem.
Seriously.

Yes, I know it is a bit superficial, but most people/relationships are, sadly. 8)
Blame evolution. :roll:





How do you fix a lazy eye then? :?



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30 Jul 2020, 2:05 pm

Jamesy wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
i have a lazy eye and a big bent broken nose.

Both can be fixed though


Fix them.
It will help your self-confidence and self-esteem.
Seriously.

Yes, I know it is a bit superficial, but most people/relationships are, sadly. 8)
Blame evolution. :roll:





How do you fix a lazy eye then? :?


*You* said "Both can be fixed".
I believe exercising the eye will do the trick.
Google it and also see an optometrist and ask. ;)



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30 Jul 2020, 6:50 pm

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There are people who are downright ugly who are successful with women. .


I think its important to be realistic and truthful. You are suggesting that downright ugly men can successfully date any woman and we both know that's not true unless they are rich, powerful or famous.

What is important is that men who are are downright ugly can be confident in themselves and patient and eventually find a life partner. They can be happy with their lives. That is certainly possible.



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30 Jul 2020, 7:23 pm

I didn’t say “any woman.” I don’t believe I can date “any woman.” I would be presumptuous and arrogant if I thought that way. And I’m not “downright ugly.” Neither is GI. Neither are most people.

I am “realistic and truthful.”

All I said is that even downright ugly people could be successful with woman. I didn’t say anybody could be successfully with “any woman.”



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31 Jul 2020, 1:05 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
I meant your mind, mostly, when I said “equipment.”

Ahhh, thanks. I thought that was what you meant, but wanted to be sure.

kraftiekortie wrote:
What’s wrong with your appearance? You look like a man who’s into muscle cars—nothing wrong with that. Or like some guy from ZZ Top. Nothing wrong with that, either. A “normal” sort of guy from many parts of the USA.

I have a lazy eye, not the best facial features, my hair is already thinning and my hairline has started to recede in the past couple of years so I'll probably be bald before I'm 30, poor posture and loose skin from weight loss.

Not to say that there's absolutely nothing nice about my appearance, but judging by the fact that women seldom seem to find me attractive, the feedback I get on my appearance is mostly negative and I've been singled out as a virgin without ever mentioning anything about sex or relationships more times in real life than women have signalled that they find me attractive in real life leads me to believe that I'm not doing particularly well in the looks department.

kraftiekortie wrote:
I understand why you dropped out from university—but I wish you would have graduated.


The truth of the matter is it wasn't the right course for me. I wish I'd had a greater understanding of my strengths and propensities in high school. That way, I would have been able to get a greater amount of assistance from the school career guidance counsellor in finding the right fit for me employment-wise. I'm still lost on that front, and I wonder how different my life would be if I'd been able to make the right choices after high school and get my career path figured out early, as opposed to still being pretty clueless now.


I started going bald before I got my first kiss. I think it was like around 22. I was bold by 24 I think although I don’t remember now.

For attractiveness, your overall health mental and physical if you feel good about your future or not, if you exercise and cook at home - those matter so much. I’d you don’t exercise and cook at home, you get unenergetic and more pessimistic and more irritable and your posture gets bad and how you feel pushed people away. It’s that overall feel from a person that can push people away.



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31 Jul 2020, 1:44 am

Pepe wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
How do you fix a lazy eye then? :?
*You* said "Both can be fixed".
I believe exercising the eye will do the trick.
Google it and also see an optometrist and ask. ;)

My husband has lazy eye, I don't think it's fixable in one's thirties - but it's invisible and not very influencing his functioning. How does it affect your love life?


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31 Jul 2020, 4:51 am

magz wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
How do you fix a lazy eye then? :?
*You* said "Both can be fixed".
I believe exercising the eye will do the trick.
Google it and also see an optometrist and ask. ;)

My husband has lazy eye, I don't think it's fixable in one's thirties - but it's invisible and not very influencing his functioning. How does it affect your love life?




Well I am just guessing it negatively effects my attractiveness



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31 Jul 2020, 4:53 am

Jamesy wrote:
magz wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
How do you fix a lazy eye then? :?
*You* said "Both can be fixed".
I believe exercising the eye will do the trick.
Google it and also see an optometrist and ask. ;)

My husband has lazy eye, I don't think it's fixable in one's thirties - but it's invisible and not very influencing his functioning. How does it affect your love life?

Well I am just guessing it negatively effects my attractiveness

In what way?


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31 Jul 2020, 6:04 am

magz wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
magz wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
How do you fix a lazy eye then? :?
*You* said "Both can be fixed".
I believe exercising the eye will do the trick.
Google it and also see an optometrist and ask. ;)

My husband has lazy eye, I don't think it's fixable in one's thirties - but it's invisible and not very influencing his functioning. How does it affect your love life?

Well I am just guessing it negatively effects my attractiveness

In what way?




i suppouse people are most attracted to symetrical faces



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i suppouse people are most attracted to symetrical faces

In theory, maybe. In practice, people in happy, healthy, long-living relationships almost never look like celebrities.


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