I have had feelings for a friend of my brother's who is also friendly with me for about a year. He seemed friendly, nice, even a bit flirtatious, and we seemed to get along well. He was funny, smart, and kind (I'd thought).
So after months of just hoping something would happen, I shot him a message saying "Hey, do you wanna hang out sometime, I know the semester is busy for both of us but you're fun to talk to
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He invited me to a religious club thing (he's Jewish) and I'm not Jewish, so I was super lost, but I was like, I don't know what's gonna happen, but I'll go.
When I go, he's not there for the first half hour, so I start talking to other people (I'm trying to put myself out there more). Then he shows up, says hi to me briefly, then says "I'm gonna sit over there", sits at the table across from me, and talks to his friend all evening. I keep chatting with the people at my table but I'm feeling increasingly more awkward, so after I finish the snack that I brought with me (because you need to order food) I say goodbye to everyone and leave.
After that, I'm kind of upset because it felt like he hadn't been interested in speaking to me and instead wanted to promote an event. I felt really left out. I sent him a message on instagram which says: "Hey, [name], I'm glad that you invited me to Hillel, it was really fun to meet new people, and they're all really nice. But I wanted to tell you that when you didn't talk to me during dinner even though you invited me, it very much hurt my feelings. It sent a message to me that you weren't really interested in spending time with me, and that was really not polite. (From my perspective.) I wanted to let you know, because if there was some kind of misunderstanding, I'd like to clear the air so that there isn't any bad blood between us. I apologize if this is too lengthy or blunt, but I prefer to be kind of direct because miscommunication kinda sucks."
It doesn't seem like he's seen the message yet, and I don't know if I come across as overly clingy or emotional. I'm really just trying to be up front so that he knows how I feel about the situation, then can articulate how he feels. In my experience, guys don't really like being direct. That said, neither do girls. No one seems to like difficult conversations, so I hope he doesn't leave me on read (or just ghost me completely). It would be really sh***y of him to do that. Plus, he is good friends with my brother and I don't want to have a blow up that makes them feel awkward with each other either.
For what it's worth, you were totally reasonable in what you said and how you felt, imo.
Kudos.
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I hope things have developed in a positive way, further down the thread.