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To het & bi women: How do you feel about a relationship w/ a male virgin?
I prefer a virgin, for religious reasons. 5%  5%  [ 1 ]
I prefer a virgin, for non-religious reasons. 5%  5%  [ 1 ]
I don't care either way. 80%  80%  [ 16 ]
I prefer a non-virgin, but virginity is not a deal-breaker. 10%  10%  [ 2 ]
I strongly prefer a non-virgin. 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
Total votes : 20

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07 Mar 2021, 12:55 pm

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Frankly there are always men that would screw anything.

Perhaps you mean "any woman" not "anything".


To be fair, both takes are true. There's men who would screw any woman, there's men who would screw anything.



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07 Mar 2021, 1:13 pm

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To be fair, both takes are true. There's men who would screw any woman, there's men who would screw anything.

There probably are but given the context of the thread. "Pretty much any woman can be sexually active if she wants it."


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07 Mar 2021, 1:28 pm

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To be fair, both takes are true. There's men who would screw any woman, there's men who would screw anything.

There probably are but given the context of the thread. "Pretty much any woman can be sexually active if she wants it."


From what I've seen that's not as true as many people insist it is (which I believe is your point).

This place has always struggled to confront sexist mindsets some posters hold when it comes to women's sexuality.



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07 Mar 2021, 2:29 pm

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If someone has never found a right person by 40, that itself is a red flag.

I would suggest that you not judge others by the same criteria you see yourself as being in danger of being judged by.

If you are ever fortunate enough to meet a woman whom you get along with well enough for a longterm relationship to be feasible, it's best that you and she not judge each other by any a priori categorical criteria. Instead, just make sure you really get to know each other well enough before you make a longterm commitment.


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07 Mar 2021, 2:46 pm

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From what I've seen that's not as true as many people insist it is (which I believe is your point).

This place has always struggled to confront sexist mindsets some posters hold when it comes to women's sexuality.

My only point was that if someone says any woman can get sex because some men will do it with "anything" it sounds like they're calling women things.

I assume there must be women who want sex and can't get it even if there are more men in that position (although that wasn't what I was trying to talk about).


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07 Mar 2021, 5:16 pm

Mona Pereth wrote:
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If someone has never found a right person by 40, that itself is a red flag.

I would suggest that you not judge others by the same criteria you see yourself as being in danger of being judged by.

If you are ever fortunate enough to meet a woman whom you get along with well enough for a longterm relationship to be feasible, it's best that you and she not judge each other by any a priori categorical criteria. Instead, just make sure you really get to know each other well enough before you make a longterm commitment.


My point is that is exactly how I expect women to judge me.



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07 Mar 2021, 6:54 pm

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My point is that is exactly how I expect women to judge me.

And what happens if you are lucky enough to find a woman (close to your age or just slightly younger) who doesn't judge you that way, or who at least is willing to spend time getting to know you?


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07 Mar 2021, 7:04 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
OutsideView wrote:
r00tb33r wrote:
Frankly there are always men that would screw anything.

Perhaps you mean "any woman" not "anything".


To be fair, both takes are true. There's men who would screw any woman, there's men who would screw anything.



Hmm


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Is that an American pie? :scratch:



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07 Mar 2021, 7:07 pm

OutsideView wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
To be fair, both takes are true. There's men who would screw any woman, there's men who would screw anything.

There probably are but given the context of the thread. "Pretty much any woman can be sexually active if she wants it."


Do you believe that the degree of difficulty in finding a sexual partner is the same for both men and women?



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07 Mar 2021, 7:22 pm

OutsideView wrote:
funeralxempire wrote:
From what I've seen that's not as true as many people insist it is (which I believe is your point).

This place has always struggled to confront sexist mindsets some posters hold when it comes to women's sexuality.

My only point was that if someone says any woman can get sex because some men will do it with "anything" it sounds like they're calling women things.

I assume there must be women who want sex and can't get it even if there are more men in that position (although that wasn't what I was trying to talk about).



I took anything more literally and assumed it meant the real life Glenn Quagmires. Especially those who really do view partners as objects and means to an end (regardless of their orientation).



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07 Mar 2021, 8:15 pm

Mona Pereth wrote:
dorkseid wrote:
My point is that is exactly how I expect women to judge me.

And what happens if you are lucky enough to find a woman (close to your age or just slightly younger) who doesn't judge you that way, or who at least is willing to spend time getting to know you?


If we're assuming I also like her, then I would at least spend some time to get to know her.

But keep in mind that my ex acted like she liked me, but turned out to be an emotionally abusive predator.



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08 Mar 2021, 8:04 am

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Do you believe that the degree of difficulty in finding a sexual partner is the same for both men and women?

I'd guess on average more men have more difficulty getting sex they want while more women have more difficulty avoiding sex they don't want.


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08 Mar 2021, 10:54 am

OutsideView wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Do you believe that the degree of difficulty in finding a sexual partner is the same for both men and women?

I'd guess on average more men have more difficulty getting sex they want while more women have more difficulty avoiding sex they don't want.


Nicely put.