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You can't have form a strong bond, experience good relationship if your brain can't synthesize at least oxytocin and serotonin when even one answer to questions in the first list is "no". This is not some self-help BS, this is a fact.

fusing to accept objective facts, the longer you will suffer.

Professional environment is a very different mode of motivation, it gives you structure and very clear directions, removes decision making factor, you don't rely on ambiguity of inner motivation, a lot of depressed people manage better in professional environment.

As I've explained, brain does that perfectly fine when I am at work.

Your personal biased opinions are not objective facts.

Actually, my work environment is extremely chaotic. I work with severe profound special education students, half of whom are 18 or older. They are physically adults. They can be disruptive and chaotic. One of them is the size of a lineman. Just a few days ago I had one of them decide he didn't want to get on the bus and laid on the ground in the middle traffic. My coworkers and I are often each busy too busy dealing with a certain student to help the others. Nothing you said about a typical professional environment applies here.

And of course you are the one person who is perfectly objective and has biases of their own. Am I right?



Bullsh*t!

Yes, those things are all important. But they are not the only factors. The research you are pulling from took for granted the assumption that everyone has some level of family, social, and sexual connection in their lives and never is never deprived of any of those for any significant amount of time. Chronically lonely people are neglected by research, just like we're neglected in every other aspect of society, and as a result the research fails to acknowledge us. I can attest that I did in the past do everything on your list, and I have reliable documentation from medical professionals that it did not help. And no, all that will not make someone stop caring about being lonely. Anybody who has experienced true long term chronic loneliness knows that, but it is nearly impossible for anyone who hasn't to comprehend that.

I currently work in a severe-profound special education classroom. Working with the children takes my mind off of my
own problems and being around coworkers who are open and accepting of ND people makes my depression go away. I genuinely feel like a completely different person when I'm at work vs home alone. This demonstrates that it is social connection that does the most to combat depression.

Allow me to fix your list for you:

Do you have enough direct sunlight every day?
Do you eat healthy food?
Do you regularly spend time just breathing fresh air, looking at trees, grass, water, animals?
Do you have a good relationship with your family and a thriving social and sex life?

b) those connections that make feel better magically happen much more often and almost effortlessly

Magically Happen What potion do we need to drink or what spell do we need to cast to make the magic happen Do we need to find a voodoo witch or do we need to find Penn & Teller

Do you really want me to explain meaning of word 'magically' used in this context? I know I should be aware that people on the spectrum tend to take words literally, and probably should have used quotation marks, but when I'm talking to high functioning people who are aware of their condition I expect them to understand that it doesn't mean literal magic as well.

This is not my personal opinion, this is human biochemistry. My opinion has no power there, I'm not god almighty.

The word magic is never ever used in any kind of scientific context.

You've contributed your share of advice. That's perfectly okay.
When someone - for any reason - rejects some advice, it's their choice and their responsibility.
You can listen to counter-arguments to think on how to improve your advice - or you can accept that you can't save everyone. What I ask you not to do is entering endless "you're wrong" exchanges with depressed users.
In particular, never use "it's your fault that your're depressed" kind of argument. From the point of view of a person struggling with mental health, it's a perfect example of adding insult to injury.

I agree. There is only so much we can do to get others to understand our perspective on things. After a certain point the more someone pushes, the more steadfast the other becomes on their position. Sometimes it's best if you agree to disagree & move on. That's advice that I know I need to remind myself of more. I can get caught up in a heated debate or disagreement.
I see the "it's your fault that your're depressed" kind of argument as a form of victim blaming sometimes.