10 Nov 2021, 11:14 am
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10 Nov 2021, 11:28 am
Sweetleaf wrote:
Minervx_2 wrote:
Most of the people in this thread are missing the point! You are all quibbling about bone structure and body shape, but that's irrelevant here.
She shouldn't feel like she's any less of a person because of her body. And you shouldn't be discouraged from dating just because you feel like your body is imperfect. There are a lot of guys who would date her as she is right now.
She shouldn't feel like she's any less of a person because of her body. And you shouldn't be discouraged from dating just because you feel like your body is imperfect. There are a lot of guys who would date her as she is right now.
You are correct about that part, and most people don't even have perfect bodies anyways.
I've got one hiding under layers of padding for safe keepings.
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10 Nov 2021, 11:36 am
Reading the stuff in your post OP, I would def be interested in you if I were single. I can majorly relate to being cynical these days & I may be starting to go down the nihilistic route myself. I also find goths & EMOs very attractive but it's not really about their looks, looks don't really matter to me. I don't subscribe to any cultural group but I have some characteristics of both. My current girlfriend has major issues with depression & self-esteem & I MAJORLY love her. I've had major problems with depression in the past & that's one of the reasons I love her, she's much more relatable to me. Happy people tended to put me down & kept insisting that the reason I was single was because I was depressed & I just needed to snap myself out of my depression before I would ever be worthy of any romantic relationship 
10 Nov 2021, 12:01 pm
10 Nov 2021, 4:32 pm
Minervx_2 wrote:
Most of the people in this thread are missing the point! You are all quibbling about bone structure and body shape, but that's irrelevant here.
She shouldn't feel like she's any less of a person because of her body. And you shouldn't be discouraged from dating just because you feel like your body is imperfect. There are a lot of guys who would date her as she is right now.
She shouldn't feel like she's any less of a person because of her body. And you shouldn't be discouraged from dating just because you feel like your body is imperfect. There are a lot of guys who would date her as she is right now.
Firstly, as I mentioned earlier, most relationships are superficial.
People *do* usually find partners in the physical "league".
It is self-evident.
Simply look at couples.
Secondly, based on what the OP has said, she doesn't seem to have a problem finding a partner.
The problem she has is one of having to *pretend* to be something she is not.
10 Nov 2021, 4:37 pm
Fnord wrote:
Whether a person "should" date or not is a personal choice, not a mandatory act -- there is no "should" involved.
If I did not feel like dating because I was ashamed of my looks, that was MY choice to make, and no one else's.
If I did not feel like dating because I was not attracted to someone else's looks, that was also MY choice to make.
Being shamed for not dating someone to whom I was not attracted never made that person more attractive to me.
If I did not feel like dating because I was ashamed of my looks, that was MY choice to make, and no one else's.
If I did not feel like dating because I was not attracted to someone else's looks, that was also MY choice to make.
Being shamed for not dating someone to whom I was not attracted never made that person more attractive to me.
Agreed.
Self-evident.
10 Nov 2021, 4:44 pm
Sweetleaf wrote:
I am not saying you cannot enhance your body shape, just saying you cannot actually change it...like you can't make your fat deposit in different spots than it does,
"Liposuction" can remove fat deposits.
This is common with celebrities.
Sweetleaf wrote:
widen length between shoulders and widen hips, at least not through feasible means like fitness and eating well.
Shoulder width can be enhanced slightly with muscle development.
Not much a person can do about hip-width.
Perhaps a body transplant?
Sweetleaf wrote:
Its a good thing to enhance ones body shape, but if you are trying to enhance the wrong shape that will probably just lead to disappointment.
Agreed.
10 Nov 2021, 4:52 pm
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10 Nov 2021, 4:59 pm
funeralxempire wrote:
Exactly, one isn't going to grow longer collarbones or a differently shaped pelvis and ribcage even if they can impact the soft tissue on top of their skeleton.
"Body Implants".
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https://www.google.com/search?q=%22Body ... CA0&uact=5
"Boob job".
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10 Nov 2021, 5:02 pm
Sweetleaf wrote:
Minervx_2 wrote:
Most of the people in this thread are missing the point! You are all quibbling about bone structure and body shape, but that's irrelevant here.
She shouldn't feel like she's any less of a person because of her body. And you shouldn't be discouraged from dating just because you feel like your body is imperfect. There are a lot of guys who would date her as she is right now.
She shouldn't feel like she's any less of a person because of her body. And you shouldn't be discouraged from dating just because you feel like your body is imperfect. There are a lot of guys who would date her as she is right now.
You are correct about that part, and most people don't even have perfect bodies anyways.
Speak for yourself.
10 Nov 2021, 5:13 pm
nick007 wrote:
Reading the stuff in your post OP, I would def be interested in you if I were single. I can majorly relate to being cynical these days & I may be starting to go down the nihilistic route myself. I also find goths & EMOs very attractive but it's not really about their looks, looks don't really matter to me. I don't subscribe to any cultural group but I have some characteristics of both. My current girlfriend has major issues with depression & self-esteem & I MAJORLY love her. I've had major problems with depression in the past & that's one of the reasons I love her, she's much more relatable to me. Happy people tended to put me down & kept insisting that the reason I was single was because I was depressed & I just needed to snap myself out of my depression before I would ever be worthy of any romantic relationship
Following your genetic coding is understandable, but there is life beyond relationships.
Also, consider that most relationships are superficial, and there is no guarantee of "Happily living ever after".
We are driven by our sexual drive to procreate, using an evolutionary context.
The feeling of luv and bonding is simply a chemical reaction created by organic drugs such as oxytocin.
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Why is oxytocin called the love drug?
Oxytocin is a hormone and a neurotransmitter that is involved in childbirth and breast-feeding. It is also associated with empathy, trust, sexual activity, and relationship-building. It is sometimes referred to as the “love hormone,” because levels of oxytocin increase during hugging and orgasm.
Oxytocin is a hormone and a neurotransmitter that is involved in childbirth and breast-feeding. It is also associated with empathy, trust, sexual activity, and relationship-building. It is sometimes referred to as the “love hormone,” because levels of oxytocin increase during hugging and orgasm.
The whole process can be blissful, but there is a heavy compromise involving personal autonomy.
Handle with care.
10 Nov 2021, 5:17 pm
smartHulk wrote:
But you can lose excess fat and pear/apple obesity patterns would not apply to you at all. You can widen your shoulders by increasing volume of your deltoid muscles. You can make your hips more pronounced by increasing volume of your glutes and fasciae latae muscles. You can slim down your waist by improving tone of your core muscle corset. This is very feasible with proper diet and couple 30 min workouts a week. Yes, you can't make your bones longer or shorter, but thinking of soft tissues, especially fat, as something you have no control over is just wrong.
Agreed.
