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04 Feb 2022, 10:28 pm

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I mean it's not like younger women/girls are throwing themselves at older men.

I think the laws of attraction may have already sorted this for you so I wouldn't stress.


All that means is that its already too late for me. I don't like women my age.


I think you have to come to terms with reality that your target market is women your age and slightly (a couple of years) younger.

If age is an issue then realistically you need to search overseas where women from more "traditional societies" are amenable to marry a more mature stable man who wants to have children or settle down.



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04 Feb 2022, 10:50 pm

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I mean it's not like younger women/girls are throwing themselves at older men.

I think the laws of attraction may have already sorted this for you so I wouldn't stress.


All that means is that its already too late for me. I don't like women my age.


I think you have to come to terms with reality that your target market is women your age and slightly (a couple of years) younger.

If age is an issue then realistically you need to search overseas where women from more "traditional societies" are amenable to marry a more mature stable man who wants to have children or settle down.


I've been thinking about that some time, just because of how poor my luck has been with women locally. Problem is I don't have the means to just travel the world to meet women.



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04 Feb 2022, 10:58 pm

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I've been thinking about that some time, just because of how poor my luck has been with women locally. Problem is I don't have the means to just travel the world to meet women.


Why not start with online dating sites that have women from "non-American" backgrounds. I could give you an easy angle, enrol yourself for online Spanish classes and then join a south American online site saying you want to practice your Spanish and meet girls. You could also meet hispanic girls on regular local dating sites.

South Americans are very flexible with age of potential partners. I work with a lady from Venezuala here in Melbourne and she is so nice. She is half my age but we get on really well.



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04 Feb 2022, 11:09 pm

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I've been thinking about that some time, just because of how poor my luck has been with women locally. Problem is I don't have the means to just travel the world to meet women.


Why not start with online dating sites that have women from "non-American" backgrounds. I could give you an easy angle, enrol yourself for online Spanish classes and then join a south American online site saying you want to practice your Spanish and meet girls. You could also meet hispanic girls on regular local dating sites.

South Americans are very flexible with age of potential partners. I work with a lady from Venezuala here in Melbourne and she is so nice. She is half my age but we get on really well.


My concern with long distance dating is that I can't know if I really like someone until I meet her in person. I don't mean what she looks like, but personality and chemistry and how play off of each other. If I talk online to someone in another country, it will cost a lot of money to a range meeting her in person. And I don't want to end up wasting a bunch of time and money only to find out we don't click well in person.



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04 Feb 2022, 11:23 pm

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I've been thinking about that some time, just because of how poor my luck has been with women locally. Problem is I don't have the means to just travel the world to meet women.


Why not start with online dating sites that have women from "non-American" backgrounds. I could give you an easy angle, enrol yourself for online Spanish classes and then join a south American online site saying you want to practice your Spanish and meet girls. You could also meet hispanic girls on regular local dating sites.

South Americans are very flexible with age of potential partners. I work with a lady from Venezuala here in Melbourne and she is so nice. She is half my age but we get on really well.


My concern with long distance dating is that I can't know if I really like someone until I meet her in person. I don't mean what she looks like, but personality and chemistry and how play off of each other. If I talk online to someone in another country, it will cost a lot of money to a range meeting her in person. And I don't want to end up wasting a bunch of time and money only to find out we don't click well in person.


How about starting with Spanish/hsipanic girls in your town?



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04 Feb 2022, 11:40 pm

cyberdad wrote:
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cyberdad wrote:
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I've been thinking about that some time, just because of how poor my luck has been with women locally. Problem is I don't have the means to just travel the world to meet women.


Why not start with online dating sites that have women from "non-American" backgrounds. I could give you an easy angle, enrol yourself for online Spanish classes and then join a south American online site saying you want to practice your Spanish and meet girls. You could also meet hispanic girls on regular local dating sites.

South Americans are very flexible with age of potential partners. I work with a lady from Venezuala here in Melbourne and she is so nice. She is half my age but we get on really well.


My concern with long distance dating is that I can't know if I really like someone until I meet her in person. I don't mean what she looks like, but personality and chemistry and how play off of each other. If I talk online to someone in another country, it will cost a lot of money to a range meeting her in person. And I don't want to end up wasting a bunch of time and money only to find out we don't click well in person.


How about starting with Spanish/hsipanic girls in your town?


They're all married.



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04 Feb 2022, 11:44 pm

dorkseid wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
dorkseid wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
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I've been thinking about that some time, just because of how poor my luck has been with women locally. Problem is I don't have the means to just travel the world to meet women.


Why not start with online dating sites that have women from "non-American" backgrounds. I could give you an easy angle, enrol yourself for online Spanish classes and then join a south American online site saying you want to practice your Spanish and meet girls. You could also meet hispanic girls on regular local dating sites.

South Americans are very flexible with age of potential partners. I work with a lady from Venezuala here in Melbourne and she is so nice. She is half my age but we get on really well.


My concern with long distance dating is that I can't know if I really like someone until I meet her in person. I don't mean what she looks like, but personality and chemistry and how play off of each other. If I talk online to someone in another country, it will cost a lot of money to a range meeting her in person. And I don't want to end up wasting a bunch of time and money only to find out we don't click well in person.


How about starting with Spanish/hsipanic girls in your town?


They're all married.


How big is your local area?? you know you can drive to meet people as well



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05 Feb 2022, 12:12 am

one additional problem with lucking into meeting somebody attractive my own age, is that they ALL expect their partners to have their similar level of life experience, and i have not had life experience commensurate with my age.



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05 Feb 2022, 1:04 am

I don’t have as much “life experience” as most 61-year-olds.

I don’t feel women dislike me because of that.



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05 Feb 2022, 1:10 am

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I don’t have as much “life experience” as most 61-year-olds.

I don’t feel women dislike me because of that.

you live in a big city full of liberal people who are not tradition-bound yahoos barely one step removed from "deliverance." out here, you have to have a common frame of reference with people, about everything in life. people look at me and can tell i'm an innocent like a deer in the headlights. my own sister described me as "squeaky-clean."



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05 Feb 2022, 1:16 am

Women frequently like “squeaky-clean” types after they’ve had enough of the “alpha” types.



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05 Feb 2022, 1:19 am

39-year-old women are frequently cute :heart:



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05 Feb 2022, 1:20 am

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Women frequently like “squeaky-clean” types after they’ve had enough of the “alpha” types.

i am your age and if it hasn't happened by now, too GD late as i am worn out and ready to shuffle off the mortal coil.



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05 Feb 2022, 3:38 am

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No.

We want someone who is interested in who we are, not just what we look like. We want someone to make the effort to get to know us, not the effort to trick us with tactics to get into our pants.


Can you see the difference?


That's what I've always done. And I got rejected or friend zoned every single time.


Aye, but they have to be attracted to you back or it won't turn into anything.

Some of us aren't that attractive and it's not just about what we look like. I'm presentable, but there's something about my manner that isn't appealing to men and that's that.



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05 Feb 2022, 6:07 am

hurtloam wrote:
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No.

We want someone who is interested in who we are, not just what we look like. We want someone to make the effort to get to know us, not the effort to trick us with tactics to get into our pants.


Can you see the difference?


That's what I've always done. And I got rejected or friend zoned every single time.


Aye, but they have to be attracted to you back or it won't turn into anything.

Some of us aren't that attractive and it's not just about what we look like. I'm presentable, but there's something about my manner that isn't appealing to men and that's that.


That's the problem. Women never find me attractive. As I said, I'm unlovable.



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05 Feb 2022, 6:10 am

a cold comfort, at least you are not the only one here in those straits.