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19 Nov 2024, 12:57 pm

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Guess i am on my way to the creep zone


You could always alter your behaviour instead of acting that way. :?


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19 Nov 2024, 1:02 pm

Some people don't have the relevant levels of executive function to monitor their behaviour, especially if those behaviours are ingrained.

Poor Jamesy.



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19 Nov 2024, 1:07 pm

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Some people don't have the relevant levels of executive function to monitor their behaviour, especially if those behaviours are ingrained.

Poor Jamesy.


I'm almost certainly in the bottom 25% when it comes to EF, it's the primary factor in why I was approved for disability.

So forgive me for not seeing poor EF as an excuse for not making an effort to not be a creep once one is made aware they're being a creep. We shouldn't act like it's just fate when it involve conscious decisions.


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19 Nov 2024, 1:20 pm

Do you guys think i am true creep or not?

I noticed this lady I like has not been whatsapping me that much since sunday



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19 Nov 2024, 1:24 pm

I agree with FXE. Try not to label yourself a creep because you can't do much about being a creep.

But if you label the behaviour as creepy, then behaviour can be changed. Preferably to less creepy.


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19 Nov 2024, 1:27 pm

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I agree with FXE. Try not to label yourself a creep because you can't do much about being a creep.

But if you label the behaviour as creepy, then behaviour can be changed. Preferably to less creepy.



She has not been whatsapping me as much or barely at all since Sunday. She used to text me a lot during the week asking what I was doing etc



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19 Nov 2024, 1:28 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
Some people don't have the relevant levels of executive function to monitor their behaviour, especially if those behaviours are ingrained.

Poor Jamesy.


I'm almost certainly in the bottom 25% when it comes to EF, it's the primary factor in why I was approved for disability.

So forgive me for not seeing poor EF as an excuse for not making an effort to not be a creep once one is made aware they're being a creep. We shouldn't act like it's just fate when it involve conscious decisions.


Oh right, I am glad that you have managed not to be a creep, despite your EF issues.

I think for some people this sort of thing can be fate. But obviously I don't know Jamesy or what he is capable of in real terms, I only have his persona on WP to go by. 8)



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19 Nov 2024, 1:30 pm

I am assuming you have been in the creep-zone due to autism before, FXE, and have counter-acted that with efforts via behaviour? Perhaps that is a wrong assumption that I have made?

:chin:



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19 Nov 2024, 1:32 pm

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I am assuming you have been in the creep-zone due to autism before, FXE, and have counter-acted that with efforts via behaviour? Perhaps that is a wrong assumption that I have made?

:chin:



Should I be concerned that she has not messages me on whatsapp much since the weekend? Her boyfriend though has messaged me a few times today asking how i am doing etc



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19 Nov 2024, 1:32 pm

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funeralxempire wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
Some people don't have the relevant levels of executive function to monitor their behaviour, especially if those behaviours are ingrained.

Poor Jamesy.


I'm almost certainly in the bottom 25% when it comes to EF, it's the primary factor in why I was approved for disability.

So forgive me for not seeing poor EF as an excuse for not making an effort to not be a creep once one is made aware they're being a creep. We shouldn't act like it's just fate when it involve conscious decisions.


Oh right, I am glad that you have managed not to be a creep, despite your EF issues.

I think for some people this sort of thing can be fate. But obviously I don't know Jamesy or what he is capable of in real terms, I only have his persona on WP to go by. 8)


I'm not certain that I've always managed to not be a creep, but I have made an effort to learn from those failures.

You're right though that none of us knows what James' floor or ceiling are in terms of modifying his behaviour, but just making excuses and expecting people to not be bothered by it because of those excuses will never lead to any improvement. If he wants to do better he needs to hold himself accountable and make an effort to improve.


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19 Nov 2024, 1:33 pm

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I am assuming you have been in the creep-zone due to autism before, FXE, and have counter-acted that with efforts via behaviour? Perhaps that is a wrong assumption that I have made?

:chin:


No, that's a correct assumption. I'm certainly not perfect when it comes to being perceived as a creep, but I do (and have) made efforts to learn from it when I find out that's how I've been viewed.


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19 Nov 2024, 1:34 pm

Jamesy wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
I am assuming you have been in the creep-zone due to autism before, FXE, and have counter-acted that with efforts via behaviour? Perhaps that is a wrong assumption that I have made?

:chin:



Should I be concerned that she has not messages me on whatsapp much since the weekend? Her boyfriend though has messaged me a few times today asking how i am doing etc


I wouldn't overthink it at this point.

It may just be a coincidence that she has messaged you less recently, or it could be that she has had a discussion with her boyfriend about you, if your crush on her has got back to her, and her and her boyfriend might have decided that she keep her distance from you?

I am sorry that you are in this position of unrequited feelings. That isn't a great place to be.



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19 Nov 2024, 1:35 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
I am assuming you have been in the creep-zone due to autism before, FXE, and have counter-acted that with efforts via behaviour? Perhaps that is a wrong assumption that I have made?

:chin:


No, that's a correct assumption. I'm certainly not perfect when it comes to being perceived as a creep, but I do (and have) made efforts to learn from it when I find out that's how I've been viewed.


I think you come across just fine in terms of creepiness, so you seem to be doing well in this regard. I would give you a low score on the creep scale. :mrgreen:



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19 Nov 2024, 1:36 pm

I am so depressed and have high anxiety. God my life is misrable :(



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19 Nov 2024, 1:37 pm

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I am so depressed and have high anxiety. God my life is misrable :(


*hugs for Jamesy*



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19 Nov 2024, 1:37 pm

blitzkrieg wrote:
Jamesy wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
I am assuming you have been in the creep-zone due to autism before, FXE, and have counter-acted that with efforts via behaviour? Perhaps that is a wrong assumption that I have made?

:chin:



Should I be concerned that she has not messages me on whatsapp much since the weekend? Her boyfriend though has messaged me a few times today asking how i am doing etc


I wouldn't overthink it at this point.

It may just be a coincidence that she has messaged you less recently, or it could be that she has had a discussion with her boyfriend about you, if your crush on her has got back to her, and her and her boyfriend might have decided that she keep her distance from you?

I am sorry that you are in this position of unrequited feelings. That isn't a great place to be.



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