How many of you are adults and have never had a girlfriend?

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I'm technically an adult yet still in education.

Similarly, I wasn't (am not) that bad looking, I think there were other girls that have vaguely approached me but even when I was able to tell (I do understand some social cues here and there), my "Avoidant Personality Disorder" (as would be the best way to explain), prohibited me from really responding to said approaches, uninterested in a relationship.

Really, I'm dying to be in a relationship with someone I feel like I can rely on. Actually for that matter, anyone I feel like I can rely on, but obviously there's something special about relationships. Still, have not yet had a girlfriend; I'm too pessimistic about the relationships (if most end, who's to say mine won't? Why waste my time with someone who isn't the one, only to hate them as an ex afterwards?), and avoidant to do anything anyways.

Never had a BF or dated or Kissed. I see my friends FB info. and am kind of depressed at times. My other friend is encouraging saying haveing a BF is a lot of work you have to compromise and please him etc. IMO NO THANKS! We should be compatiable you should understand my quirks etc. and not put them down and such as my parents have done. I know from experience I don't want a BF like my dad,brother in-law or my friends BF. Also I HATE pet NAMES Your woman WTH! I AM YOUR GIRLFRIEND or use my name Brandy I'm NOT YOUR WOMAN DAMN IT!! ! They also play around oh you're stupid and that's totally over my head I don't think one should play around with words like that. My girlfriend is addicted to Quiznos (is what her BF said about her) and silly back/forth banter. NOT in my relationship!! !!

20 and sort of ambivalent about all forms of relationships.

I just don't want the same things most NTs want, and honestly most aspergians are too out there for me.

Past relationships have failed due to me basically not taking it to the next level, or not being aware that was what was wanted. I consider myself scruffy looking, but I apparently posses some sort of odd charm which makes me tolerable.

Me happily married to a fairly like mind since the 80s, but I cannot say I ever had a girlfriend [though I had female friends and one I have for simplicity's sake called a girlfriend on occasion.

I had a total of about ten outings in my life I could stretch definitions to call a date - but the majority would laugh little heads off at the idea if they knew facts.

Dating isn't really that great. I'd prefer to stay single and not go through the trauma of a break up again.
Dating is a lot of work for me and I'd constantly have to give time to the other person when I want to stay focused on my interests.

I have a girlfriend now so I guess I don't qualify. Off to a grand start though...

I dont qualify. i have had a few relationships so far..

I'm 20 years old. I've kissed a girl (and I liked it) and I've gone on one date with a boy. However, I've never had a full-blown romantic relationship before. I've never had a sexual encounter with anyone either.

Me. I am gay, so I can say GF.

I've made out with girls (and a few boys) but it was always ONLY while drunk. Meaning they were drunk and I was too.

When I fall for people they are generally unattainable or in relationships already. I've always wondered why I do this, but now I believe it's cuz I am afraid of relationships myself. I actually do not care to share my personal space with someone, or give up my free time for them. I can't imagine doing it. I would like to find someone who really "gets" me though. That'd be nice.

I qualify. I haven't looked much for the last 10 or 15 years, though. I've been suffering with severe depression, and dealing with that has been my biggest concern. In retrospect, I missed a couple of great opportunities by being incredibly clueless, but I'm going to blame that on the Aspergers.

i never had anyone either. i thank god for fleshlights and porn.

I didnt begin my first serious (multi-year) relationship until I was 28 or 29. Before that I only had very short term relationships and I didnt even begin those until age 22.

If my current relationship ended it would likely take me some time to reaquire the social skills to get another one.

if you have to "reacquire the social skills", then how do manage to keep your present relationship sans social skills? enquiring minds want to know.

I think what he means is the specific skills that help in attracting a mate (flirting, small talk etc) which are different from those required to keep one. Once you've hooked a fish you don't need to keep using bait so to speak.

This should have been moved, ages ago.

but short of keeping 'em locked up in a cage, it does take certain other skills to keep a person interested in one sufficient to stick around. i believe if you have the attracting skills, you would also have the keeping skills as well, as a bonus.