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Tim I think we all develop a picture of what we find attractive as we get older. My ex-husband lost a lot of weight in a span of a couple of years. I use to hate to even look at him (in reality it had nothing to do with the weight lose, but the fact he was very cruel and abusive to me.) I thought when I filed for divorce I would never look at a skinny person again. I actually told my friends that very thing. Then I find myself totally smitten with a tall, skinny man that just happens to have Aspergers. We are just really good friends right now, but if I had stayed to my list of what I thought was perfect for me I might never have given him a second thought. And now I think about him several times a day. I think you are short changing yourself out of not giving some really nice people a chance. After all when the lights are turned off what does it matter?

Or in the case of killing yourself, death...

How can I afford a $37,000 car if the combined income isn't at least $100,000, and where I depend solely on my own income?

If these criteria aren't reasonable, then what are?

Find someone that cares about you as a person and will accept you as you are. You should be able to do the same for her. As you get older the most important thing is having a value system that is compatible. It would be wise to realize that boobs sag, the car will break down, and ambition comes from being interested in life. I know several couples that marry because of that first attraction and when that starts to fade, they have little to keep them together. If I was to ever marry again I would want someone that had at least 90% of the same values I have. Looks has very little to do with anything as far as I'm concerned, but what's inside of the heart has everything to do with it. Don't sell yourself short and try to find your DREAM GIRL. After all if she was all the things you request and didn't care about you, what would you actually have?

I don't understand...you reject the possibility of dating an NT on the grounds that they are shallow and materialistic, and then you set up a criteria with income, degree, and breast requirements? How can you even demand to date only those with degrees and moderate income if you are still a student without a job? Nobody has a criteria like this, you're setting yourself up for disappointment.

She was one of the few people on here who was goal-oriented. There have been time where I would come on here and every other thread was about video games. I tried being myself and being insightful and trying to help others, but it was always the trolls and the gamers and the slackers that were well-liked.