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If it wasn't for my mom's cousin and his wife, I would consider dating non-Christians.

I am the only Lutheran in my family. Everyone else in my family is evangelical.

Whoever I date doesn't necessarily have to be Lutheran, though.

you're 28, don't you think you're old enough to make your own decisions about who to date?

I do make my own decisions, but I am concerned about how some members of my family will react.

when it comes to the woman you're going to spend your life with, who cares what your family is going to think. if she's perfect for you in every way but she's not a christian, are you going to turn her down?

Absolutely not, unless they are very devote. Many religious people hardly practice their religion very strictly, which makes their believes a minor aspect of their personality rather than an important aspect of their daily life.

The girl I like right now is Muslim as in: believing in Allah and in the teachings of Muhammad. But she does not follow Islamic rules at all, or only very occasionally. So she is religious because she does believe in the creationist views of Islam, but as long as she does not organise her life around those believes it is not an aspect of her life that would conflict with my atheism.





Tim, I would really advise you to ignore your family if you meet a woman with whom everything feels right. If your family is anything concerned about your happiness, they will accept any girl you wish to love. If they don't do that, you should not waste any time being concerned on how they think, because then they clearly are not concerned with how you feel or think neither. Your future wife is someone you will be with every day, so isn't she a lot more crucial in your life than an uncle or cousin?

Personally, I would not care at all what my family thinks. Only my parents I am close with, and they would accept any choice of partner I make. They know the girl I like is Muslim, they don't care and even encouraged me to tell her that I like her. Maybe some more devote members of my family would find it unacceptable that she has another religion than the christian religion in the family, but I would really not care a second what they think. If I find a woman I love enough to want to be with, then the thoughts of some long-distance aunt or uncle is totally unimportant to me. All that matters then, is the girl I want to be with.

dude your like 30
grow a spine and tell them to eff off

And that includes the person you considered a 'crook'?



Are you the same guy that could not wait until marriage for sex and wanted to dump christianity because it had too many rules?

I can understand that you have to keep everyone sweet if your family is funding you education.

Once you get your degree are you going to run off to California and become a hipster?

Or ay least far enough away to live your own life a get a different outlook.

oh, timmy, tim, tim. i shake my head over you.

i haven't checked in on WP in months, but it's funny, all the things that never change... (which is what i like of course, that i'm able to keep up.)

one of the constants being you and your posts. someday i will sign in and you will be happily married and my whole universe will skew.

now tim, i am trying to mean this in the nicest, albeit exasperated, way...

most of your posts say you want a romantic partner who is female, Aspie, Christian, and likes south park. though sometimes you switch to liberal, and always they need to want sex all the time. you complain all the "good ones" are already taken, and too many females are shallow and just care about money, or security, or looks, or whatever rejection you have recently suffered. of course, you also want nympho-south-park-junkie to have huge boobs, so she also had to be dumb enough not to see the double-standard there, but still really clever and fun and smart about everything else, as well as be attracted to plain men with no money.

when i say it like that, doesn't it seem silly? i know it sucks to be alone, it's nice to have someone, anyone around. but if you could just reign in all of that a bit, you would have much better luck with women. try not to focus on finding this imaginary girl so much and maybe a nice real one will fall into your lap.

Nearly everyone who likes South Park is either an atheist or agnostic.

And nearly everybody I talk to says that women don't watch South Park, because it's "a guy's show". That is not true, because I know quite a few, including several Aspies, who watch it.

I wouldn't change my religion for anything, my partner would have to accept it. If they truly care about you, it shouldn't be a problem.

who cares!!

god, I_Am_andaJoy is right
you have no idea what you want, and base the whole idea of trying to find women on a stupid tv show

Yes, but it is these people to whom I refer.

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