The continuing saga of my first Girlfriend...

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So it's still far to call her your "first girlfriend".

Anyways, I agree with maku ...there' no way to know if she really likes you till you ask her out, you can't relay on signs analysis and observations forever --> those can be very misleading. That's the hardest part but you have to do it in order to know the answer, there's no other way.

What would be the straight up best way to extract the info I need?

If I just come straight up and ask... I'm worried about it turning into something awkward......... *sadface.jpg*

I'd just ask her if I were you. It doesn't sound like you have a whole lot to lose. I hope shes not just trying to avoid an awkward moment, but you don't have much to lose other than having to cut it off with her if she says no.

*sigh* I hate to do this - but there are awkward moments in life. And if you spend your life avoiding them, then there isn't a whole lot of living one can do while buried in a shelter. Extracting info? This is a person, not a database. One can be indirect; ask her to go out sometime, invite her to spend time with you, see if she expresses interest. Time is an interesting thing; we tend not to waste it when it comes to sharing it with others.

Can it be awkward? Damn right. Will it continue to be awkward if you don't make a decision of some sort? Yes. So it's a damned-if-you-do-damned-if-you-don't situation, except that you're not going to find out anything if you do nothing. From what I can tell, you two have been flirting, perhaps hanging out a little bit. Unless you've talked, she isn't your first girlfriend - but she has the potential to be. So why waste the potential with anxious unknowing?

There is no easy way - risks, rejection and awkwardness are part and parcel of this whole deal.


M.

Congratulations!

This all sounds so wonderful. Talking to women as friends is very pleasant. There seems in my case to be a bit of a pattern in my case of the girl acquiring a boyfriend before I gather the courage to ask her out.

^^^^

this has to do with my previous post how?

Likely responding to start of thread, not end.


M.

Oh...what if she has a bf and I don't know it?

Then she probably would've said when you asked her out the first time.

I'd advise just letting her do what she wants to do; she may feel a little pressured by your constant attention.

If you've already asked her out and gone out together in a 'date' setting, it's unlikely she has a boyfriend. Expecting someone to starting date you exclusively after the first date may be far from practical or reasonable. Take it easy, and focus on spending time together - not obsessively, just making it quality time.


M.

OK guys...I just took a leap off the edge, and let's just hope that I don't hit the ground...

This is what I sent her....[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YZGHnpd4F5M[/youtube]
If you can have this translated, please do.

This may sound weird, but this is exactly how I felt during those first few moments....

Merry Christmas.. and if you open this after Christmas, happy new year.

hello?

thanks alot...

Thanks for what? Man, this thread is confusing. What's the actual topic?

So far as I can tell, he basicly asked a girl out and she said she first wanted to know him better, and takes that as his girlfriend, when they still aren't actualy dating.
And he keeps posting/bumping, so people can see and comment, As he likes getting feedback, mainly poseyiv feedback.

He actualy hasn't told how old he and that girl is, migth actualy only be they are 15 or something, lol.