16 Jan 2009, 9:36 pm
Kangoogle wrote:
sunshower wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
I wouldn't worry about it too much... Hale bopp can be a little defensive at times if provoked, and rightly so, although at other times she is a nice person...
Tias, on the other hand, well Tias is just a prick to everybody, even me...
Oops, did I say that aloud? I meant, uhh, [Edited for content by Sinsboldly]...
Tias, on the other hand, well Tias is just a prick to everybody, even me...
Oops, did I say that aloud? I meant, uhh, [Edited for content by Sinsboldly]...
It's not the individuals that bother me, it's the group mentality. And I don't care what an individual person is like, it's irrelevant, there's no excuse for ganging up and bullying an individual, no matter what that individual might have done. There are better ways to deal with the problem.
I'm not angry at any particular individuals on the site, I'm trying to deter bullying behaviour. I can't and won't stand idly by and put up with it without speaking out.
Looks like the OP's problem might be solved...
This reminds me a little of an incident that happened at school. A gang of people were bullying this guy (who I believe was AS), and I stepped in and told them to stop it. They instantly turned around and started teasing me about being in love with the guy.
Classic bully tactics.
This way, you either side with the victim and become a victim yourself (new fodder), or you are forced to retract your defense of the victim by saying you are not romantically interested in the victim, thus giving them the sort of reaction they've been looking for, and they latch onto you; their new victim.
Sorry, won't work on me.
Although, everything aside, I do see the humour in your comment.
16 Jan 2009, 9:37 pm
pakled wrote:
Well, there's someone for everyone, as long as
You're in the game (have to play to win)
You have realistic standards (although with 7 billion people, or roughly 3.5 billion women, chances are good that she's out there; but she lives in China or Indonesia, etc)
You have something to offer. The first person you have to win over is yourself.
It's not being patronizing. I believe everyone here can find someone, eventually. They may not be perfect (who is?), but between the two of you there might be enough common ground to establish a relationship (which is why they're called relationships, instead of orders..
It's not always on the first try; you have to get up off the rodeo floor, dust yourself off, and get back in the saddle again.
You're in the game (have to play to win)
You have realistic standards (although with 7 billion people, or roughly 3.5 billion women, chances are good that she's out there; but she lives in China or Indonesia, etc)
You have something to offer. The first person you have to win over is yourself.
It's not being patronizing. I believe everyone here can find someone, eventually. They may not be perfect (who is?), but between the two of you there might be enough common ground to establish a relationship (which is why they're called relationships, instead of orders..
It's not always on the first try; you have to get up off the rodeo floor, dust yourself off, and get back in the saddle again.
Good advice.
16 Jan 2009, 9:37 pm
16 Jan 2009, 9:44 pm
sunshower wrote:
Kangoogle wrote:
sunshower wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
I wouldn't worry about it too much... Hale bopp can be a little defensive at times if provoked, and rightly so, although at other times she is a nice person...
Tias, on the other hand, well Tias is just a prick to everybody, even me...
Oops, did I say that aloud? I meant, uhh, [Edited for content by Sinsboldly]...
Tias, on the other hand, well Tias is just a prick to everybody, even me...
Oops, did I say that aloud? I meant, uhh, [Edited for content by Sinsboldly]...
It's not the individuals that bother me, it's the group mentality. And I don't care what an individual person is like, it's irrelevant, there's no excuse for ganging up and bullying an individual, no matter what that individual might have done. There are better ways to deal with the problem.
I'm not angry at any particular individuals on the site, I'm trying to deter bullying behaviour. I can't and won't stand idly by and put up with it without speaking out.
Looks like the OP's problem might be solved...
This reminds me a little of an incident that happened at school. A gang of people were bullying this guy (who I believe was AS), and I stepped in and told them to stop it. They instantly turned around and started teasing me about being in love with the guy.
Classic bully tactics.
This way, you either side with the victim and become a victim yourself (new fodder), or you are forced to retract your defense of the victim by saying you are not romantically interested in the victim, thus giving them the sort of reaction they've been looking for, and they latch onto you; their new victim.
Sorry, won't work on me.
Although, everything aside, I do see the humour in your comment.
There was a third option, go up and snog him openly. Would have been hilarious and have made big fools out of the bullies.
Btw, my previous comment was meant in jest, I just thought the whole thing was rather ironic.
16 Jan 2009, 9:57 pm
Kangoogle wrote:
There was a third option, go up and snog him openly. Would have been hilarious and have made big fools out of the bullies.
Btw, my previous comment was meant in jest, I just thought the whole thing was rather ironic.
Btw, my previous comment was meant in jest, I just thought the whole thing was rather ironic.
To the second line of your comment; I apologize if my response came out a bit harshly, I thought it might be that, but the first option seemed much more likely. I hope I haven't hurt your feelings in any way.
To the first line of your comment; you really have no idea, do you...
(I'm assuming you're someone who hasn't been bullied at school)
16 Jan 2009, 10:44 pm
16 Jan 2009, 10:45 pm
16 Jan 2009, 10:54 pm
16 Jan 2009, 11:20 pm
sunshower wrote:
Kangoogle wrote:
There was a third option, go up and snog him openly. Would have been hilarious and have made big fools out of the bullies.
Btw, my previous comment was meant in jest, I just thought the whole thing was rather ironic.
Btw, my previous comment was meant in jest, I just thought the whole thing was rather ironic.
To the second line of your comment; I apologize if my response came out a bit harshly, I thought it might be that, but the first option seemed much more likely. I hope I haven't hurt your feelings in any way.
No,no, don't worry about it. Tbh I tend not to take internet forums too seriously anyway, but some here do so on occasion I err on the side of caution a wee bit.
Quote:
To the first line of your comment; you really have no idea, do you... (I'm assuming you're someone who hasn't been bullied at school)
(I'm assuming you're someone who hasn't been bullied at school)They certainly tried, but I was pretty creative at getting them a lot harder than they could get me. My advice was assuming a certain style of doing it, I forget that most Aspies are not too good at theatrics.
17 Jan 2009, 12:13 am
17 Jan 2009, 12:47 am
Kangoogle wrote:
sunshower wrote:
Kangoogle wrote:
There was a third option, go up and snog him openly. Would have been hilarious and have made big fools out of the bullies.
Btw, my previous comment was meant in jest, I just thought the whole thing was rather ironic.
Btw, my previous comment was meant in jest, I just thought the whole thing was rather ironic.
To the second line of your comment; I apologize if my response came out a bit harshly, I thought it might be that, but the first option seemed much more likely. I hope I haven't hurt your feelings in any way.
No,no, don't worry about it. Tbh I tend not to take internet forums too seriously anyway, but some here do so on occasion I err on the side of caution a wee bit.
Quote:
To the first line of your comment; you really have no idea, do you... (I'm assuming you're someone who hasn't been bullied at school)
(I'm assuming you're someone who hasn't been bullied at school)They certainly tried, but I was pretty creative at getting them a lot harder than they could get me. My advice was assuming a certain style of doing it, I forget that most Aspies are not too good at theatrics.
I'm actually a theatre person, but I think in this situation making out with the guy would only egg them on to new heights/extremes. That would be playing right into their hands. Not to mention, the idea of making out with someone I'm not close to/in love with/at least attracted romantically to is repulsive to me (not the person, not at all, but the act, although I guess it could constitute acting, but not in this circumstance).
17 Jan 2009, 12:54 am
17 Jan 2009, 12:59 am
17 Jan 2009, 9:27 am
17 Jan 2009, 2:30 pm
sunshower wrote:
Kangoogle wrote:
sunshower wrote:
Kangoogle wrote:
There was a third option, go up and snog him openly. Would have been hilarious and have made big fools out of the bullies.
Btw, my previous comment was meant in jest, I just thought the whole thing was rather ironic.
Btw, my previous comment was meant in jest, I just thought the whole thing was rather ironic.
To the second line of your comment; I apologize if my response came out a bit harshly, I thought it might be that, but the first option seemed much more likely. I hope I haven't hurt your feelings in any way.
No,no, don't worry about it. Tbh I tend not to take internet forums too seriously anyway, but some here do so on occasion I err on the side of caution a wee bit.
Quote:
To the first line of your comment; you really have no idea, do you... (I'm assuming you're someone who hasn't been bullied at school)
(I'm assuming you're someone who hasn't been bullied at school)They certainly tried, but I was pretty creative at getting them a lot harder than they could get me. My advice was assuming a certain style of doing it, I forget that most Aspies are not too good at theatrics.
I'm actually a theatre person, but I think in this situation making out with the guy would only egg them on to new heights/extremes.
Do it the next day. And the day after that. They would get bored and pee off quite quickly.
Quote:
That would be playing right into their hands. Not to mention, the idea of making out with someone I'm not close to/in love with/at least attracted romantically to is repulsive to me (not the person, not at all, but the act, although I guess it could constitute acting, but not in this circumstance).
Its up to you I guess - though doing it as an act would be quite fun.
17 Jan 2009, 4:03 pm
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