Anti V-Day League (AKA Lonely WP'ers)

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Well looking through this thread, at least I'm not the only one who has no use for it.

I use to think it was rare to be single and alone...and then I came here.

Hey there, I'm a Valentines Day hater. Because someone declared the 14 of February would be the Love and Friendship Day, and by "Love and Friendship" I mean "if you don't have a girlfriend you're a loser". Well, flash news: not having a girlfriend can be due to a real myriad of reasons, from not having time (my case) to not being interested.

And I especially hate when they tell you're supposed to draw your happiness from your date instead of from life itself. That's called dependence and it's a sad, lame thing to do when in a relationship.

I brought chocolate roses for my family members.

It doesn't bother me so much any more, after so many years I'm fairly used to not being with anyone/getting anything.

And last year was the first and last year that I did get something and was with someone! I've had my year, it's someone else's turn now.

Sanctions on my life every Feb 14:

1. Never leave the house.
2. Never switch on the radio.
3. Never watch TV, stick to DVDs etc.
4. Never talk to anyone who is in a relationship if they are likely to talk about what they got.
5. Try not to think about the fact that the holiday even exists.

Anyone else do teh same?!

I never really had a problem with Valentine's Day one way or the other. I don't feel much differently towards it now than the way I felt towards it when I was single.

I don't think Valentine's especially signifies anything deeper than just another holiday that can be fun for those who choose to celebrate it, like any other holiday, including Christmas, Halloween, St. Patricks, etc etc.

Being single on Valentine's Day doesn't mean anything, any more than being single on any other day of the year does. It's just a holiday which is over in 24 hours.

It does if people are using that 24 hours to brag, specifically at you...

I just realized I won't be alone on V-Day after all. I have my brand new HDTV!! !!

It loves me, it told me so.......

How big is the screen?

I may go see a movie on V-Day...it will not be "He's Just Not That Into You."

I don't have any plans for V-Day, it is just like any other normal day to me, anymore. I remember there were a few years where I didn't even notice that the day went by, and then being reminded a few days later. Painful things become blocked over time, as an attempt to ward off depression, but it is only an attempt, because depression is still a frequent visitor. This year I will be aware, but will tell myself that it doesn't matter. Let's just hope the depression isn't too bad.

My husband doesn't even know what day Valentine's day is.

I hope I can have a migraine, and thus lose the entire day.
I am also sick of the shops being full of heart shaped tat, "saucy" gifts and all the other associated nonsense.
And I do not want to hear about acquaintances romantic meals etc etc, as a punch in the face tends to curtail friendships

Oh, I realised it's the day I'm having dermal anchors done. How appropriate, I will be inflicting pain on myself

Lord, that's all we sell where I work. Today was rather depressing, as my coworkers were discussing their plans for the day, what they bought and whatnot. Even the single people seem to have plans; then there's my sorry arse. I DO have to work that night... but I don't really consider that a 'plan'.

I like the idea of sending little V-Day surprises to each other. It'll make me feel better.

I'm still appalled at how a completely inane, utterly hollow holiday will be purposefully used by people to feed their emotional aches and pains when they could definitely see it for what it is and was -- completely hollow and inane. So I'm with Shig...

I'm actually having to extend my trip vising my out-of-country boyfriend because I popped a disc in my back. Such fortuitous luck that I will be thusly spending Valentine's with him. And yet I won't be. No one cares, neither of us have, and I'm not about to whether I'm single or not.

But it does bring back memories of when I was single, and I celebrated with my girl friends instead. I mean, if all it is is letting someone you know in on the fact that you give an ass about them, why shouldn't anyone count? Just because it used to be all about wolf's blood and rice being sloshed around to signify fertility back in the old days doesn't mean it can't be platonic, too, right?

Right!

it's never really meant anything to me or bothered me much. if i was in a relationship i'd probably use it as an excuse to do something really romantic because it's pretty much a "carte blanche" to go crazy without worrying about how it'll be received since it's almost expected. i would consider myself a bit of a hopeless romantic, i really enjoy a good love story, and i like the idea of doing really romantic gestures (i'm talking about stuff that would be meaningful and personal, not just going out to a fancy restaurant and spending a bunch of money on your girlfriend/wife), but it would be hard for me to express it because of my social difficulties and lack of knowledge of relationships and difficulty reading people so i'd err on the side of caution and wouldn't express it until i knew it would be well received.

most years, however, i don't even notice it's valentine's day until i hear something about it, and seeing everything that has to do with valentine's day doesn't really bother me much. i just never really paid any attention to it.

If that's what Valentine is all about, showing you give a damn about your friends, then I feel this makes the holiday automatically invalid. Because you see, real friends don't have to remind each other they care about either.

I'd go out if and only if my friends suggest a plan for Valentine's night, in fact.