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are you looking for love?
no, and actively avoiding it 21%  21%  [ 23 ]
no, but I wouldn't mind if it happened 45%  45%  [ 50 ]
yes, passively looking 23%  23%  [ 26 ]
yes, actively looking 10%  10%  [ 11 ]
no, it's just you anna, you asocial weirdo! 2%  2%  [ 2 ]
Total votes : 112

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19 Mar 2009, 2:56 am

anna-banana wrote:
^^ nah, I don't want to make the singles here depressed about the amount of aspies in relationships :p

if you're not single, this is not a poll for you!


I am curious to know though how much aspies (per gender) are in relationship.



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19 Mar 2009, 6:45 am

I'm not looking because relationships are a complete waste of my time - too much BS in exchange for not enough reward.
Also I generally hate people, and I actually enjoy my current life of solitude (I live alone in an apartment), because I can do as I please without anyone else's input.



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19 Mar 2009, 6:50 am

LePetitPrince wrote:
anna-banana wrote:
^^ nah, I don't want to make the singles here depressed about the amount of aspies in relationships :p

if you're not single, this is not a poll for you!


I am curious to know though how much aspies (per gender) are in relationship.


The genderally disinclined....and in abundance!


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19 Mar 2009, 12:13 pm

I chose: yes, and passively looking.

I'm pessimistic regarding these things when it comes to myself. If I feel that there really is a chance and that I would be able to keep her, then I will get a lot more optimistic and try to investigate the possibilites together with her.

These things aren't easy. I'm looking for a good match. Meantime I spend much more time on other things which includes self improvement since that is also a way for me to feel more attractive about myself.


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19 Mar 2009, 12:20 pm

MissConstrue wrote:
LePetitPrince wrote:
anna-banana wrote:
^^ nah, I don't want to make the singles here depressed about the amount of aspies in relationships :p

if you're not single, this is not a poll for you!


I am curious to know though how much aspies (per gender) are in relationship.


The genderally disinclined....and in abundance!


Just for accurate demographic statistical purposes :P.



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19 Mar 2009, 12:42 pm

I chose no, but I wouldn't mind if it happened. It's a pretty accurate description. 8)


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19 Mar 2009, 5:34 pm

passively looking.... <.<



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19 Mar 2009, 6:22 pm

I think it would be nice to have someone at times, but honestly, I have reservations about it. From what I have heard about relationships it sounds like it would really interfere with my life and be the source of more headaches than it's worth. I'm getting used to being single, the change would be hard.

I would like to prove to myself that I could get a relationship, but I might regret it if I actually get into one.


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20 Mar 2009, 2:00 pm

I usually am never looking. I'm perfectly content being alone most of the time and actually prefer it.


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20 Mar 2009, 2:01 pm

LePetitPrince wrote:
anna-banana wrote:
^^ nah, I don't want to make the singles here depressed about the amount of aspies in relationships :p

if you're not single, this is not a poll for you!


I am curious to know though how much aspies (per gender) are in relationship.


that's a whole different poll my friend :wink:


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20 Mar 2009, 2:03 pm

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I would like to prove to myself that I could get a relationship, but I might regret it if I actually get into one.


lol yeah I'd like that too, provided that no one would get hurt in the process.

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im the 1% in the vote. i was just kidding about voting you as a weirdo. i thought there would be others who would have joked, but apparently not. you guys should have some sense of humour. just kidding, but i assume you were leading us into our own sarcasm? im that way, too, but i've found someone i like a lot.


yes! finally! thank you! :D

I was quite disappointed that this option was so unpopular...


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20 Mar 2009, 3:33 pm

im waiting for someone to climb in my window. seriously.

i keep it open for the cat allready, so, you never know.

so far i only got cops :(
sneaky -uckers :(


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20 Mar 2009, 5:48 pm

anna-banana wrote:
GoatOnFire wrote:

I would like to prove to myself that I could get a relationship, but I might regret it if I actually get into one.


lol yeah I'd like that too, provided that no one would get hurt in the process.

diehard wrote:
im the 1% in the vote. i was just kidding about voting you as a weirdo. i thought there would be others who would have joked, but apparently not. you guys should have some sense of humour. just kidding, but i assume you were leading us into our own sarcasm? im that way, too, but i've found someone i like a lot.


yes! finally! thank you! :D

I was quite disappointed that this option was so unpopular...


I think you are asocial weirdo but still far less than me....



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20 Mar 2009, 6:10 pm

I chose No, but I wouldn't mind if it happened

I'm not looking for a partner, and I'm happy being single. Trying to enjoying my solitude, I have scared some guys that were seeking for a relationship with me :lol:

Having a boyfriend sounds like a lot of bull$h!t for me. Too much physical contact, waste of time, . . .

I've never had a boyfriend. . . But, if someday comes "apparently my kind of guy", maybe I would give him a chance.



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20 Mar 2009, 7:24 pm

The problem I have with relationships, is that I don't like all the expectations that come with them.

I start to feel like there are rules I have to follow in order to play the role of "The Girlfriend", but I'm not quite clear on what those rules might be. I seem to be setting myself up for failure.

It's a shame, because I have a side to me that is extremely romantic. The idea is so very appealing, but the practice of it is repellant, LOL

I feel the same way about motherhood. More so, actually. I wonder what causes that.


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20 Mar 2009, 8:01 pm

Philothea wrote:
The problem I have with relationships, is that I don't like all the expectations that come with them.

I start to feel like there are rules I have to follow in order to play the role of "The Girlfriend", but I'm not quite clear on what those rules might be. I seem to be setting myself up for failure.

It's a shame, because I have a side to me that is extremely romantic. The idea is so very appealing, but the practice of it is repellant, LOL

I feel the same way about motherhood. More so, actually. I wonder what causes that.

You would probably have a much better time dating other Aspies, if you could find one in a similar situation.

Me, I look passively, but not actively. I'll keep my eyes and ears open for anyone interesting, but I'm not going to go out of my way to find someone, or get out the megaphone and announce to the world that I'm single.