What do men want?

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I dunno. Men are really easy to get. Much easier than women. The only thing with men is you gotta be really obvious. Then with AS, you gotta be even more obvious. Women are like "OMG I BATTED MY EYELASHES AT HIM IN MORSE CODE THAT I LIKE HIM, WHY DIDN'T HE NOTICE?! !!" With AS it's even worse, as I said, I didn't know a girl talking to me liked me until she wrote down her phone number.

And I don't think men are crazy about J. Lo anymore. She's like 50 (my bad, apparently she's only 43.) She doesn't look too marvelous without makeup on (look it up.) I don't think guys actually really even care how female pop stars look actually. They're actually mostly for girls, singing for girls, at least in the States. And they're put there basically just to give women like you the illusion that you can be "cool" and get men if you dress and act as they do. It's the same thing with, say, rappers. It gives men the illusion that they can be "cool" and get girls, guns, cars and be rich if they act/be like said rapper. It's fake. Even if you decide to turn the fantasy into reality, it's not sustainable. Even if you go to clubs all the time and whatever, eventually will come a point when you get tired of it or just get too old and burnt out (and probably STD ridden, alcohol/drug poisoned) for it to work any longer. Then you wanna settle down. But then you'll be too old and burnt out to find anyone because you've spent all your time screwing hundreds of guys/girls and wasting your youth. Then you go and marry/have illegitimate children with someone much less than your ideal because for girls, their biological clock starts ticking and they wanna make babies, or for guys, when they just get bored/tired I guess?

So anyway, if that's the path you want, yes. Dress skimpy as hell. Go to clubs and bars. Get random dudes having sex with you. Eventually you'll have illegitimate children and be a bigger loser than you are now, but at least you were "cool" and got a "guy" and achieved the social goal of reproduction/finding a mate.

I figure until I find a girl I really like, I have to be happy with working on my cars, lifting, and skating, and all my other hobbies. If said girl comes, then she does. If not, then she doesn't. But I don't want the life I've described above. In my case I have to be true to whatever girl comes along, too, and not hide my feelings. That was my biggest problems for both girls I really felt strongly for before.

But yes, the choice is yours.

See not all male singers are out there to get women sexually aroused. Daughtry for instance doesn't do anything for me. His songs are great. You just want to stand up and dance. It's different. So a man doesn't HAVE to have sexual lyrics like Pit does. I know a lot of teen girls LOVE LOVE One Direction. They are ok. It's very upbeat and dance like. But they don't have to put I want to eat you, etc in their lyrics. Is it just excitement? That song by Rihanna and Brittany S and M disturb me. Is the point of dressing like a skank and having lyrics depicting sex just for excitement?

Michael Buble is great. I consider him very Frank Sinatra style. I mean he doesn't need to say sexual stuff. Yet he has tons of fans.

I usually just have the women come to me sadly I dont catch on to their coming on to me right away, like when they twirl their hair and try to give me eye contact and get overly talkative to me. I had one woman tell me I made her feel safe as she kept giving me her drinks to drink while this other guy kept buying her drinks but she was focusing her attention to me.

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Girls don't need super sexual lyrics either. The media just decides that they want that. Most dance music has female singers, and they don't usually sing ridiculously sexual stuff.

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But yes, I mostly listen to things like that. Not Kesha or Lady Gaga (actually I do like a few Lady Gaga songs) or whatnot. Basically I feel modern radio pop music tends to cater to the "let's hook up and go to clubs" thing, for both guys and girls.

And uh, I can pretty much care less how female singers look. As I know I'll probably never even meet them in real life, nevermind get the chance to date them.

I always thought the key to forever love and happiness is that the man or woman have to be good looking. Who wants to date a ugly person, right? The looks is what gets you attention whether you are a celebrity or not. It was always the prettiest girls in high school that had boyfriends. It was the jocks like football players that had girlfriends. That probably continues in college and so on. I don't know. I thought about plastic surgery to improve my appearance.

No, you don't need plastic surgery to get a boyfriend. It's a waste of money and could go terribly wrong. Ugly people get laid, get married, have kids all the time. Not saying you're ugly.

Lindsey Stirling is really cute

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But, she is a Mormon, and probably won't be inviting any audience members for some post-concert coitus.

Now, if Cinthia Fernandez were to invite audience members for some post-performance coitus: it would be difficult to refuse.

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Taylor Swift is cute

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But, after our post-concert coitus, she would probably write an embarrassing song about me.

After seeing that last video, every man should want a pet goat for the lulz!

Taylor Swift and Carly Rae Jepsen (sic.?) are very similar don't you think? Cute all the same

Well, there's a point where it matters and where it doesn't. You shouldn't be a 300lb blob with acne all over you and stuff. But aside from eating good, working out, getting enough sleep and hygiene, you know, there's not much more I think that needs to be bothered with. No need for plastic surgery especially. To say looks doesn't have an effect is a lie, though. I know girls used to give me a lot more dirty looks and whatnot when I was heavier compared to now. I get better service at places, etc. So yeah, having AS, especially with poor social skills, improving your looks is a pretty good way to compensate.

As far as ugly people getting married. Yeah, they do usually. To other ugly folks. If you do not wish for that, then get more good looking.

I think looks matters more for initial attraction. After people initially meet you, if they don't like you/your personality, then you're not gonna have a longterm relationship. Longterm relationships usually have looks/sexual attraction as part of the dynamic, but there's other things going on, too.

One other thing I guess, too, a somewhat dark side of becoming more good looking, you'll get more people liking you. Because you're good looking. Not because of any real innate traits about you. So then you get the moral question of whether or not they like you because of the content of your character or your looks. I posted this in social skills and making friends, someone who didn't talk to me, after I got a haircut he started talking to me. Nothing changed at all besides my haircut. So it certainly makes life easier but it doesn't necessarily mean you'll find people who actually care about you. Basically, the downside is, will the person leave you if you like, get in a car accident or something? You know?

Good looks have nothing to do with forever love. People want to approach people that they are attracted to, but as you meet and talk to a new person, it really is your personality that matters from that moment.

Kids in high school are really just that, kids in high school... People mature up and generally speaking become more appreciative of other traits deeper than appearance when they gain more experience in dating.

Plastic surgery is extreme and very personal choice, it's not something you should go for for the wrong reasons and it is important to love yourself even if one would choose to go to one. I don't think it's the right choice for you under your circumstances, though.

I think I already mentioned, but if you do want to update your appearance, very much can be done with make up and right clothing (much preferable alternative to cosmetic surgery). I can possibly offer some tips there, if you feel like you want any, and there's plenty available online as well.

I'm sure that having confidence in yourself and knowing what kind of man you want in your life would be a great help for you in dating.

You guys focus way too much on celebrities. They're not real people, they are caricatures.
As for my 'celebrity crush';
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Either today or weekend I will take a photo of myself and post on here.

Damn, I really hate Lindsey Stirling.

Ugh it didn't work. I have a JPG picture of me I just took but it's saved on desktop so there is no link to it. How do I post a jpg?

tinypic.com
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