Slys dating site advice help thread.

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Not sure if you genuinely mean well or are trying to be humourous to make people who need a smile do so.. but, yeah, No. This is definitely jumping to some serious conclusions and Needs to have an abrupt stop put to this conversation before it’s a runaway train.

Just because someone consoles someone who’s expressing suicidal thoughts because they don’t want that person to end their life doesn’t mean they have any real friendship nor romantic interest in that person. Suggesting so only serves to put pressure on all involved & potentially creates a situation for a lot of hurt and disappointment. That’s my take on it. Your post, whether serious or in jest, is inappropriate.

Sly, just for the record:

I don’t want you to kill yourself, either. But I also have no romantic interest in you. Sorry to disappoint. :p I’d rather that you see that it’s possible for you to get better, to get healthier, to think better thoughts, to not be suicidal, depressed, anxious, nor have your distorted world views - and eventually be a much more datable sly achieving his goal of having a significant other in his life.

I read your post in The Haven that stated that your various health issues just keep getting worse. That’s noteworthy because so did mine at one point in my life, and in that time I approached it with the attitude that if everything is getting worse then that means that something (besides time passing) is causing it to worsen, and thus it was only reasonable to conclude that whatever was causing it could be reversed - I just had to figure out what it was & then do whatever I needed to in terms of diet/medicine to treat it. I believe that nearly all ailments are similar, that there is a cause-effect relationship, and that virtually anything can be treated by one of several different means and people can in fact heal vs accept that they’re just going to get ever worse until they die. But no one in the history of humans, medicine, or healing has ever managed to do any of those things by giving up on themselves or the idea that their ailments can be treated or cured. I wish you’d open your mind to the possibility that you can in fact improve. Then you’ll be able to help yourself do so, and others will be able to help you, too. If I could snap my fingers and make that moment be right Now, I would. But it’s You who has to decide to have that moment for yourself instead of, seemingly, wanting to stay miserable and ever worsening for the attention and sympathy you get from others. If you’re ever going to have a better life you’ve gotta decide to stop doing that and start changing. It’s your life, though, and your choice how you live it. Just seems a shame to live it how you are considering how often you disclose that you’re suicidal. But only you can decide to take the very first steps in deciding you don’t want to carry on thinking and feeling like that, and that quitting your addiction to that state of being and the attention and sympathy you extract from others for it will be worth it if it means you get to actually experience some sort of balance and even happiness in your future. But as long as you decide to keep yourself down, you’ll stay there, and the number of people willing to entertain your distorted perceptions and never ending complaints will continue to dwindle.

Weed is illegal and I don’t do drugs.

No, it isn’t illegal where you live. According to this it’s been legal recreationally since 2015.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/mor ... b65ecedad9

Ever consume alcohol, nicotine, or caffeine? All are drugs. Tylenol, allergy pills, cough syrup? All are drugs.

Besides, my recommendation isn’t for recreational consumption. It’s as medicine. Cannabis is medicine. It alleviates depression, anxiety, stress and many other things. My recommendation to smoke a joint may sound like a joke reference to you, but I legitimately believe in it’s very real medicinal abilities to alleviate many symptoms of stress/depression/anxiety etc w/o harsh side effects. I believe many people would experience at least some temporary relief of their undesirable symptoms by simply lighting up once in a while.

Weed is a hell of a lot better than being a psychopath.

No it just became legal last year but regardless it’s federal illegal and as the Hawaiians found out the government and state is serious that yiu can’t own guns while smoking weed.

You saying I’m a psychopath because I’m sad?

No I am not Sly. The comparison is not directed towards you.

Why would anybody think you're a psychopath, Sly? That doesn't make any sense, man.

There you go with any excuse not to try to help yourself improve in any way.

No, I’m not saying you must smoke weed. Many people don’t for a variety of reasons.

It’s your justifications for not doing it. Tens of millions, if not hundreds of millions, of Americans ignore the federal law on weed because they know its BS and was only ever created to help legalize racism and protect some wealthy peoples business interests that were threatened by hemp production. Most people are able to see the gray area on these prohibition laws and then opt to ignore them.

If anxiety over gun ownership is your issue, I kinda get that. But I’d be willing to utilize any medicine that benefitted my health regardless of whether any law written on paper somewhere said I was allowed to or not. But that’s me and I’m not you. IF I were you AND I’d have a toke if I wasn’t worried about the gun thing, I’d find a way to do so. I’d just be very discreet about it. I wouldn’t tell anyone I was doing it. I’d get some weed and smoke it and see if it helped. It’s an extremely safe medicine to consume, so no real worries there. I’d just do it in secrecy. It’s not like it’s destructive and addictive like meth or cocaine. It’s weed and not such a big deal. Same goes for any other medicine or substance, ie the safest recreational drug on the planet that’s been proven in clinical studies to be able to treat the very worst cases of depression: magic mushrooms. Even IF they’re illegal to consume where you are, I’d be researching them and then finding a way to safely consume them for their medicinal benefit.

I’ve consumed both and know their value. Bs laws won’t prevent me from consuming medicine or virtually harmless recreational drugs. Thank God I’m in Canada and not Saudi Arabia or someplace.

As for guns, I’d give up any material possessions if it meant I could alleviate suicidal thoughts. Guns are just things and they have no use if they’re a constraint to health and happiness.

Or just try nothing different and continue suffering instead. I just don’t see how that’s a better option than trying anything else, whether typically recreational substances, other medicines, reading books and learning, counselling/therapy etc - anything but just carrying on being suicidally miserable. Why would you choose that? I don’t care if you choose to keep your guns and comply with all the laws of your land, but why would you choose to keep yourself so unhappy vs try something to change that? Whether any of my recommendations or someone else’, it doesn’t matter. It just doesn’t make ANY sense whatsoever that you seem to almost make an effort to TRY to keep yourself depressed and miserable vs do anything that MIGHT improve your situation. It’s very weird to me because most people wouldn’t want to stay in that state and would try things to better themselves. If you are trying anything, you haven’t communicated it here on the forums.

I absolutely HATE the smell of weed (we called it "pot" in the 1970s).

You forgot “making a point.”

Yeah it’s oretty bad. I’d rather not date someone who smokes it but I hav to take any woman at this point Ben if she’s abusive.

OR you could do anything to make yourself more attractive to a more desirable woman instead of thinking you need to settle for someone who's abusive.

Losing my guns and my rights would make me super suicidial.
I don’t do drugs or even drink liquor. I’m not into things that alter my mind.
I’d only consider adhd meds as it’s suppose to make me normal and less energized and help my attention span. But I can’t get it

I’ve tried and am trying but nothing I can do will matter.
As others have said we have to aknowledge our level and accept what we can get. I’m a zero. So abusive women is likely all I’d ever be good for.

That's an extreme attachment to material objects. Possess shiny metal *pew pew* shooters or kill yourself? That's not something I understand at all. I'd be pissed if the possessions I value most were taken from me, but I wouldn't be suicidal over it. Especially not now. I'm calmer and more balanced, plus I have the money to replace material stuff if I have to.

That's your choice to make. I know others who don't drink or do any mind altering substances. Shame, really, as some of them have some very real health benefits & can be life changing (for the better) experiences for many people - especially psychedelics like magic mushrooms. Literally the safest reacreational drug in the world, and responsible for amazingly positive change in so many people. There's a reason that visionaries like Steve Jobs say that their experiences with psychedelics are among the most valuable & important experiences of their entire lives. They're also the only substance, that in some cases, has permanently cured treatment resistant depression. Pretty much everyone who ever takes them experiences a rise in their baseline level of happiness. It's, in part, what they're for & why they grow for us to eat.

I can tell you don't like things that alter your mind.. you refuse to learn or do anything that might alter you from your depressed state. Is your aversion to mind altering so strong that you refuse to read books or listen to an audiobook that might make you less anxious and depressed? Seems that may be the case.

I used to take dexedrine (adhd med) at my request. It was the best & healthiest choice of meds for me, however, it had unintended side effects that made certain symptoms much worse over time. It's instant effects were life changing for the better, and even though I took only a minimal dose, over a year or two the compound effects contributed to other problems. Namely, these strong stimulants (that are essentially legalized low dose meth) leach magnesium & sulphur out of our bodies and that allows food acids to build up and f**k with our brain functions in many ways. ADHD meds can be useful, but people need to know everything else they're doing to your body so you can supplement lost minerals etc. I haven't taken any for years because now I don't really need them anymore. Pros/cons, but basically I found there's short term pros and long term cons. To each their own whether they take them or not. Why couldn't you get adhd meds if you wanted them? (assuming you have a diagnosis of Adhd)