29 May 2020, 4:34 am
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
If I was an aspie man here's what I would do:
I would go and volunteer in an animal shelter, or if I was religious I would do something to help the needy that was affiliated to my place of worship or some other cause I was passionate about requiring compassion and empathy . I would express my compassion in a practical sense if I couldn't verbalize it. I would think there would be a fair amount of smart, caring women volunteering also who I could get to know more than superficially for a lengthy period of interaction who would grow to love, my aspie attributes.
That's what I would do.
I would go and volunteer in an animal shelter, or if I was religious I would do something to help the needy that was affiliated to my place of worship or some other cause I was passionate about requiring compassion and empathy . I would express my compassion in a practical sense if I couldn't verbalize it. I would think there would be a fair amount of smart, caring women volunteering also who I could get to know more than superficially for a lengthy period of interaction who would grow to love, my aspie attributes.
That's what I would do.
Yup,
Religious women may be easier pickings.
My first "girlfriend" was driven by compassion, through her religious indoctrination.
I would also recommend hobby courses and interest groups such as logic classes, bushwalking or arts and crafts, etc, after the CV event.
In the past, I have recommended local autism groups.
Joining an activity which is of interest to "you" is a possible win-win situation.
Hobby courses are expensive. I’d rather spend $300 on console I can use for years then on one pot making class.
I totally agree.
A console is a much better investment than an erky perky girl-germ infested girlfriend.
Much, much, much cheaper also.
Eh I didn’t say that. But paying $300 for hobby class won’t lead to a gf. Any women there would likely see I work min wage and pass. So I’d be throwing money away.
I see you have a defeatist attitude.
*That's* the spirit!
Gurlies like to dance.
Have you considered investing in a pink tutu and white pantyhose?
I don't think that costs anywhere near $US300.
Ballet is an excellent hobby but it's not cheap. Imagine having to buy special shoes that wear out really quickly.
I rock climb.
29 May 2020, 4:45 am
Pepe wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
If I was an aspie man here's what I would do:
I would go and volunteer in an animal shelter, or if I was religious I would do something to help the needy that was affiliated to my place of worship or some other cause I was passionate about requiring compassion and empathy . I would express my compassion in a practical sense if I couldn't verbalize it. I would think there would be a fair amount of smart, caring women volunteering also who I could get to know more than superficially for a lengthy period of interaction who would grow to love, my aspie attributes.
That's what I would do.
I would go and volunteer in an animal shelter, or if I was religious I would do something to help the needy that was affiliated to my place of worship or some other cause I was passionate about requiring compassion and empathy . I would express my compassion in a practical sense if I couldn't verbalize it. I would think there would be a fair amount of smart, caring women volunteering also who I could get to know more than superficially for a lengthy period of interaction who would grow to love, my aspie attributes.
That's what I would do.
Yup,
Religious women may be easier pickings.
My first "girlfriend" was driven by compassion, through her religious indoctrination.
I would also recommend hobby courses and interest groups such as logic classes, bushwalking or arts and crafts, etc, after the CV event.
In the past, I have recommended local autism groups.
Joining an activity which is of interest to "you" is a possible win-win situation.
Hobby courses are expensive. I’d rather spend $300 on console I can use for years then on one pot making class.
I totally agree.
A console is a much better investment than an erky perky girl-germ infested girlfriend.
Much, much, much cheaper also.
Eh I didn’t say that. But paying $300 for hobby class won’t lead to a gf. Any women there would likely see I work min wage and pass. So I’d be throwing money away.
I see you have a defeatist attitude.
*That's* the spirit!
Gurlies like to dance.
Have you considered investing in a pink tutu and white pantyhose?
I don't think that costs anywhere near $US300.
There are other activities that don't cost a lot on money.
Bushwalking, for instance.
Join Extinction Rebellion and wear some "Puppy Dog" eyes, while saving the planet.
The progressive women luv that sort of thing.
Or, as 51(?) said, help out at a soup kitchen for homless people.
Easy peasy.
I live in real world everything cost money. Nothings free.
I’m in a city without a car(cost money) I can’t get to the forest to bush walk.
There’s no volunteer work in my city and to get to the next city takes hours and cost money. I’m not going spend hours on bus to volunteer and cost me money.
You don't have to be religious to enjoy the company of religious groups.
Please don't tell me your area is religion free.
You get a lot of friendly attention if you attend religious gatherings as "non-believer but searching"
29 May 2020, 5:05 am
29 May 2020, 5:14 am
29 May 2020, 6:21 am
magz wrote:
Pepe wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
If I was an aspie man here's what I would do:
I would go and volunteer in an animal shelter, or if I was religious I would do something to help the needy that was affiliated to my place of worship or some other cause I was passionate about requiring compassion and empathy . I would express my compassion in a practical sense if I couldn't verbalize it. I would think there would be a fair amount of smart, caring women volunteering also who I could get to know more than superficially for a lengthy period of interaction who would grow to love, my aspie attributes.
That's what I would do.
I would go and volunteer in an animal shelter, or if I was religious I would do something to help the needy that was affiliated to my place of worship or some other cause I was passionate about requiring compassion and empathy . I would express my compassion in a practical sense if I couldn't verbalize it. I would think there would be a fair amount of smart, caring women volunteering also who I could get to know more than superficially for a lengthy period of interaction who would grow to love, my aspie attributes.
That's what I would do.
Yup,
Religious women may be easier pickings.
My first "girlfriend" was driven by compassion, through her religious indoctrination.
I would also recommend hobby courses and interest groups such as logic classes, bushwalking or arts and crafts, etc, after the CV event.
In the past, I have recommended local autism groups.
Joining an activity which is of interest to "you" is a possible win-win situation.
Hobby courses are expensive. I’d rather spend $300 on console I can use for years then on one pot making class.
I totally agree.
A console is a much better investment than an erky perky girl-germ infested girlfriend.
Much, much, much cheaper also.
Eh I didn’t say that. But paying $300 for hobby class won’t lead to a gf. Any women there would likely see I work min wage and pass. So I’d be throwing money away.
I see you have a defeatist attitude.
*That's* the spirit!
Gurlies like to dance.
Have you considered investing in a pink tutu and white pantyhose?
I don't think that costs anywhere near $US300.
There are other activities that don't cost a lot on money.
Bushwalking, for instance.
Join Extinction Rebellion and wear some "Puppy Dog" eyes, while saving the planet.
The progressive women luv that sort of thing.
Or, as 51(?) said, help out at a soup kitchen for homless people.
Easy peasy.
I live in real world everything cost money. Nothings free.
I’m in a city without a car(cost money) I can’t get to the forest to bush walk.
There’s no volunteer work in my city and to get to the next city takes hours and cost money. I’m not going spend hours on bus to volunteer and cost me money.
You don't have to be religious to enjoy the company of religious groups.
Please don't tell me your area is religion free.
You get a lot of friendly attention if you attend religious gatherings as "non-believer but searching"
If you aproach a religious goup and are honest about having social anxiety issues, which you want to overcome, I doubt they would be unsympathetic.
I guess you missed the point where I suggested Sly should "walk before he runs" by establishing friendships to desensitise himself from his shyness?
BTW,
It has become clear that one of the biggest problems Sly has is due to where he lives.
He has very limited options there.
29 May 2020, 6:44 am
Pepe wrote:
I guess you missed the point where I suggested Sly should "walk before he runs" by establishing friendships to desensitise himself from his shyness?
I indeed didn't notice you suggested it.
Otherwise, yes, obviously you're right.
29 May 2020, 7:50 am
sly279 wrote:
I didn’t get any attention at church.
A bit awkward walking up to a group and saying:
"High, I have social anxiety and would like to get over it, with your help", for sure.
Do they have any activity groups?
Have you asked?
You could talk to a minister/pastor privately for advice about participating in events if they have any.
30 May 2020, 1:13 am
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30 May 2020, 3:11 pm
30 May 2020, 3:19 pm
I guess materialistic BS is to masculinity as sexism was to feminism.
Whatever, I have everything & seemingly, nobody.
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30 May 2020, 3:24 pm
30 May 2020, 3:25 pm
Most people don't want an atmosphere they can hardly ever see through either.
We need more bikes & better architecture in cities. This is obviously a groupthink problem in many ways.
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