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18 Mar 2010, 1:37 pm

Why post pics? If she looked like Oprah, would he show the pics?



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18 Mar 2010, 1:46 pm

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Why post pics? If she looked like Oprah, would he show the pics?

Why are you so concerned about that anyway? It is probably not a good idea to post any picture on the internet but people take their chances.

You keep hamming in the point, as if somehow Sean is doing something out of the ordinary. Some unvirtuous sin. Relatively speaking we are all guilty of doing something like this.

So he may be bragging, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t have her consent.



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18 Mar 2010, 1:48 pm

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Why post pics? If she looked like Oprah, would he show the pics?


Why are you assuming he wouldn't? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, anyway.



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18 Mar 2010, 1:50 pm

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She doesn't really ask questions, doesn't seem very talkative at all, I fairly have to start and painstakingly steer the conversation myself and well gosh, i'm not all that chatty to begin with. It's a grueling process sometimes, but it is rewarding & i love herrr (: ♥.

She's really sweet, terrified of airplanes, loving, has a terrible lot in common with me, is pretty tolerant of most my quirks, stubborn, shy, cute, silly, talented, & has an amazing collection of books & movies far exceeding mine 8O .
And even all that doesn't even begin to describe her.
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celebrating 3 months today :) .


She's quite the stunner. Combined with being an Aspie, that's one heck of a combo. My best of luck to both of you! ;)



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18 Mar 2010, 1:57 pm

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Well that is hardly clear is it? Especially the bit about being surprised to hear yourself saying it. Sounds more like U-Turn to me, but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt.

But is it likely to change his behaviour taking that tact, that is the question. Also I think it is important to make a distinction between the things you found objectionable and what is harmful. You could have entirely go the wrong end of the still and read into things in your own way. If you are talking about the pics, how do you know he doesn't have permission to post them, and how do you know they haven't already consensually been in public domain? These kind of picture like or or not are common place on social networks. Goofy or selacious, that is subjective. What DavidM said was sleazy but not out of character in these circles, from my understanding.

Playing devil's advocate is uncomfortable have to admit as Seanmw messed up in my view, however he doesn't desive a which hunt form people who are no better than him.


Apparently it's hardly clear to you. Please, don't bother bestowing your passive/aggressive "benefit" of the doubt on me. Why would I care when you've called me a liar? (Or isn't that what I'm supposed to infer with your "Sounds more like a U-Turn to me," comment?) As far as being, "surprised to hear yourself saying it," - what are you talking about?

I am talking about the pics (what else have I been talking about?), and having permission to post them doesn't impact my objection. He and his gf are young, inexperienced, and immature. They don't believe bad things happen to people. They're not all that certain about actions having consequences. They don't know how to adequately weigh risks against rewards. Your argument is, "Gee, all the kids are doing it?" How does that help him mature? How does that help protect her? You think you can say it all better than I can? Have at it - I'm not stopping you.

Trying to explain how to treat a woman with respect isn't a "witch hunt" - that characterization doesn't even apply. And just who the hell are you to decide who is better than whom, or what my motivations are?


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18 Mar 2010, 2:02 pm

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Well that is hardly clear is it? Especially the bit about being surprised to hear yourself saying it. Sounds more like U-Turn to me, but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt.

But is it likely to change his behaviour taking that tact, that is the question. Also I think it is important to make a distinction between the things you found objectionable and what is harmful. You could have entirely go the wrong end of the still and read into things in your own way. If you are talking about the pics, how do you know he doesn't have permission to post them, and how do you know they haven't already consensually been in public domain? These kind of picture like or or not are common place on social networks. Goofy or selacious, that is subjective. What DavidM said was sleazy but not out of character in these circles, from my understanding.

Playing devil's advocate is uncomfortable have to admit as Seanmw messed up in my view, however he doesn't desive a which hunt form people who are no better than him.


Apparently it's hardly clear to you. Please, don't bother bestowing your passive/aggressive "benefit" of the doubt on me. Why would I care when you've called me a liar? (Or isn't that what I'm supposed to infer with you "Sounds more like a U-Turn to me," comment?)

I am talking about the pics (what else have I been talking about?), and having permission to post them doesn't impact my objection. He and his gf are young, inexperienced, and immature. They don't believe bad things happen to people. They're not all that certain about actions having consequences. They don't know how to adequately weigh risks against rewards. Your argument is, "Gee, all the kids are doing it?" How does that help him mature? How does that help protect her? You think you can say it all better than I can? Have at it - I'm not stopping you.

Trying to explain how to treat a woman with respect isn't a "witch hunt" - that characterization doesn't even apply. And just who the hell are you to decide who is better tha
n whom, or what my motivations are?


It does appear Hopegrows as if you are 'going on at him' a bit. And i think your motivations should be questioned. Do you get a kick out of coming on aspie forums to educate them? Thats a bit superior and patronising dont you think? Why do you want to go on aspie forums, why not go on NT forum's, seems you have a bit of a fetish for aspies which is not only patronising but also creepy.



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18 Mar 2010, 2:03 pm

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therange wrote:
Why post pics? If she looked like Oprah, would he show the pics?


Why are you assuming he wouldn't? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, anyway.


Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder. Girls who I've thought to be quite attractive some have thought to be not all that attractive.



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18 Mar 2010, 2:06 pm

So why post 3 pics? To show everyone "Yes, she's hot, and it's not just that one pic."



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18 Mar 2010, 2:07 pm

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So why post 3 pics? To show everyone "Yes, she's hot, and it's not just that one pic."


So you measure someone's attractiveness by the number of photos they have on a single forum thread? She would look exactly the same if it was one photo, and you'd be making the same accusations as well, most likely.



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18 Mar 2010, 2:08 pm

Ok, maybe its just me, but that first picture looks totally "doctored," almost like an animation picture. Very strange.



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18 Mar 2010, 2:11 pm

MichelleRM78 wrote:
Ok, maybe its just me, but that first picture looks totally "doctored," almost like an animation picture. Very strange.


It's just an image effect you get on most cameras/camera phones these days. You can usually turn it on in some sort of "Effects" menu in the options.



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18 Mar 2010, 2:11 pm

therange wrote:
So why post 3 pics? To show everyone "Yes, she's hot, and it's not just that one pic."

I thought he just posted all the pics he had.

If I made a thread about my bf I would probably post his youtubes and all sorts so I think you actually got away lightly! People who are loved up often want to declair it from the roof tops and tell everyone all about it.

I think it would have reflected on you better if you had just been happy for him instead of lectureing him and appearing bitter and resentful and jellous. Lets hope you never make posts or post pictures about a girlfriend you get or we might all remember.

... actually I remember some post you did about a dating site and photos of the pretty women who were chatting with you hmm...



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18 Mar 2010, 2:12 pm

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It does appear Hopegrows as if you are 'going on at him' a bit. And i think your motivations should be questioned. Do you get a kick out of coming on aspie forums to educate them? Thats a bit superior and patronising dont you think? Why do you want to go on aspie forums, why not go on NT forum's, seems you have a bit of a fetish for aspies which is not only patronising but also creepy.


Let me see, here's the list of names I've been called in this thread:

holier than thou
bizarre
annoying
jaded
crucifier
liar
patronizing
witch hunter
Aspie fetishist
creepy

And you're questioning my motives, Lotusblossom?


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18 Mar 2010, 2:15 pm

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therange wrote:
So why post 3 pics? To show everyone "Yes, she's hot, and it's not just that one pic."

I thought he just posted all the pics he had.

If I made a thread about my bf I would probably post his youtubes and all sorts so I think you actually got away lightly! People who are loved up often want to declair it from the roof tops and tell everyone all about it.

I think it would have reflected on you better if you had just been happy for him instead of lectureing him and appearing bitter and resentful and jellous. Lets hope you never make posts or post pictures about a girlfriend you get or we might all remember.

... actually I remember some post you did about a dating site and photos of the pretty women who were chatting with you hmm...


Range, don't take the bait - so totally not worth it.


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18 Mar 2010, 2:17 pm

HopeGrows wrote:
lotusblossom wrote:
It does appear Hopegrows as if you are 'going on at him' a bit. And i think your motivations should be questioned. Do you get a kick out of coming on aspie forums to educate them? Thats a bit superior and patronising dont you think? Why do you want to go on aspie forums, why not go on NT forum's, seems you have a bit of a fetish for aspies which is not only patronising but also creepy.


Let me see, here's the list of names I've been called in this thread:

holier than thou
bizarre
annoying
jaded
crucifier
liar
patronizing
witch hunter
Aspie fetishist
creepy

And you're questioning my motives, Lotusblossom?

so why do you come on aspie forums then when you dont have AS and clearly are snitty about AS people?



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18 Mar 2010, 2:21 pm

HopeGrows wrote:
lotusblossom wrote:
therange wrote:
So why post 3 pics? To show everyone "Yes, she's hot, and it's not just that one pic."

I thought he just posted all the pics he had.

If I made a thread about my bf I would probably post his youtubes and all sorts so I think you actually got away lightly! People who are loved up often want to declair it from the roof tops and tell everyone all about it.

I think it would have reflected on you better if you had just been happy for him instead of lectureing him and appearing bitter and resentful and jellous. Lets hope you never make posts or post pictures about a girlfriend you get or we might all remember.

... actually I remember some post you did about a dating site and photos of the pretty women who were chatting with you hmm...


Range, don't take the bait - so totally not worth it.


Well my Aspie gift is my great memory, and I don't remember that.

And jealous of a 19 year old with an internet girlfriend? Not really, sorry...