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25 May 2010, 12:20 am

September 12, 2008.

I was 22, she was 27. That had also been the day of my first kiss, and I had only held hands with a girl in an affectionate way for the first time about a month before that.

Some may think it's strange that I got such a late start at anything having to do with girls, yet knocked off all the significant milestones in a matter of about a month. I had simply decided that after 22 years of nothing I was ready, so I made things start to happen. Just the decision to get into the dating world, combined with a bit of recently-discovered confidence, went infinitely further than wishing ever did. It also helped that this woman liked the idea of showing a new guy the ropes. :D



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25 May 2010, 12:34 am

I was 19, she was 21. It was around April 10-17, 2000. Do I regret it? No. Do I wish I had done it earlier? Yes. I had several chances starting at 16. It could have been 18 (a few days before my 19th birthday), I got so damn close yet I was extremely awkward. I just didn't know what to do. I had watched sex education videos twice in high school and I still felt like an idiot that night. She was 17 or 18, not sure on the year. Not that we cared anyway.



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25 May 2010, 12:38 am

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September 12, 2008.

I was 22, she was 27. That had also been the day of my first kiss, and I had only held hands with a girl in an affectionate way for the first time about a month before that.

Some may think it's strange that I got such a late start at anything having to do with girls, yet knocked off all the significant milestones in a matter of about a month. I had simply decided that after 22 years of nothing I was ready, so I made things start to happen. Just the decision to get into the dating world, combined with a bit of recently-discovered confidence, went infinitely further than wishing ever did. It also helped that this woman liked the idea of showing a new guy the ropes. :D


I think supportive experienced people who take on Virgins are a good thing to have in the world, with two if the Virgins are read up enough they can be fine gaining experience off each other, I've known lots of cases where this is true. I think people judge others for being "virgins" too quickly.

Also 22 isn't what I would call a late start, I'd call it normal. Most of the people I know hang out with, and I don't hang out with unattractive people who can't get anyone - did not lose it until they were adults, that is, over 18.



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25 May 2010, 12:47 am

Blasty wrote:
September 12, 2008.

I was 22, she was 27. That had also been the day of my first kiss, and I had only held hands with a girl in an affectionate way for the first time about a month before that.

Some may think it's strange that I got such a late start at anything having to do with girls, yet knocked off all the significant milestones in a matter of about a month. I had simply decided that after 22 years of nothing I was ready, so I made things start to happen. Just the decision to get into the dating world, combined with a bit of recently-discovered confidence, went infinitely further than wishing ever did. It also helped that this woman liked the idea of showing a new guy the ropes. :D


I think supportive experienced people who take on Virgins are a good thing to have in the world, with two if the Virgins are read up enough they can be fine gaining experience off each other, I've known lots of cases where this is true. I think people judge others for being "virgins" too quickly.

Also 22 isn't what I would call a late start, I'd call it normal. Most of the people I know hang out with, and I don't hang out with unattractive people who can't get anyone - did not lose it until they were adults, that is, over 18.



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25 May 2010, 2:54 am

hale_bopp wrote:
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But that doesn't make sense... it seems like my efforts to be as selfless as i can and to take other people's needs into account is what has prevented me from getting into any relationships at all...


Note I'm talking about sex, not relationships.


Yes I understand that. But as I personally don't want to have sex outside of a relationship, i'm afraid as to what my inexperience will do if i ever actually do get into one... I'm fine without it regardless of relationship status, but i'm worried that my inexperience will inevitably lead to any (sexually active) woman i was hypothetically with to leave me...



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25 May 2010, 4:51 am

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But that doesn't make sense... it seems like my efforts to be as selfless as i can and to take other people's needs into account is what has prevented me from getting into any relationships at all...


Note I'm talking about sex, not relationships.


Yes I understand that. But as I personally don't want to have sex outside of a relationship, i'm afraid as to what my inexperience will do if i ever actually do get into one... I'm fine without it regardless of relationship status, but i'm worried that my inexperience will inevitably lead to any (sexually active) woman i was hypothetically with to leave me...


Yes I understand what you mean. It can be a hard thing to deal with, but a lot of women your age are just as inexperienced themselves. you could always find someone in their late 20s?



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25 May 2010, 10:04 am

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You've got absolutely no idea what you're talking about. It's a complete joke. The last bit really is the punchline. There is so, SO much more to great sex than just knowing where to put it and what do do with it.


Like what?

(I know that sounds insulting, but i'm actually curious as to this... i've felt that because i fell so far behind compared to my peers in this regard there was no way i could catch up.)


Well really the secret is all about how the person behaves during it, how they treat their partner, what they do, then small details that are specific to each couple, it's all about communication and consideration.

A lot of men never get this no matter how many people they've been with. Also selfishness can ruin what could be a great lay.


It sounds to me that you are getting sex and relationships confused with each other, my man.

And you still didn't answer the whole of my last post either, you just acted like a five year old then came up with a bunch of crap relating to the last paragraph.



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25 May 2010, 10:21 am

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It sounds to me that you are getting sex and relationships confused with each other, my man.

And you still didn't answer the whole of my last post either, you just acted like a five year old then came up with a bunch of crap relating to the last paragraph.


Well I understand that other people don't mind sex outside of relationships, but it's a personal choice i've made. I just can't see myself putting forth all the effort that having sex has under normal circumstances. My hand uses less energy and gets me off faster, and I don't have to worry about its emotional well-being. But on the other hand, if an emotional connection was there, i can imagine that it would make the experience several orders of magnitude more enjoyable, hence why i want at least a relationship in place beforehand.



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25 May 2010, 10:27 am

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It sounds to me that you are getting sex and relationships confused with each other, my man.

And you still didn't answer the whole of my last post either, you just acted like a five year old then came up with a bunch of crap relating to the last paragraph.


Well I understand that other people don't mind sex outside of relationships, but it's a personal choice i've made. I just can't see myself putting forth all the effort that having sex has under normal circumstances. My hand uses less energy and gets me off faster, and I don't have to worry about its emotional well-being. But on the other hand, if an emotional connection was there, i can imagine that it would make the experience several orders of magnitude more enjoyable, hence why i want at least a relationship in place beforehand.


That's your choice to make, and I respect that. My post was aimed at hale_bopp.



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25 May 2010, 10:51 am

Oh, sorry... I saw the "my man" in your post and thought you were referring to me because hale was a woman...



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25 May 2010, 10:57 am

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Oh, sorry... I saw the "my man" in your post and thought you were referring to me because hale was a woman...


Oh, I thought she was a male due to the avatar :lol:



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25 May 2010, 12:00 pm

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Oh, sorry... I saw the "my man" in your post and thought you were referring to me because hale was a woman...


Oh, I thought she was a male due to the avatar :lol:


She HAS to have that avatar. If she used her own pic, she'd get too much unwanted attention. ;)



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25 May 2010, 12:02 pm

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Oh, sorry... I saw the "my man" in your post and thought you were referring to me because hale was a woman...


Oh, I thought she was a male due to the avatar :lol:


She HAS to have that avatar. If she used her own pic, she'd get too much unwanted attention. ;)


Very true, this is basically a forum full of desperate lonely guys (no offense to anyone BTW, just joking around, I am one such guy anyway) :lol:



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25 May 2010, 5:06 pm

I've got nothing more to say about your your posts, i've said my piece on the matter. Maybe in 10 or 20 years you will realise that you're wrong.

It might be different with men, so maybe I'm just applying all the nasty sh*t that happened to me at the hands of men as a young girl to everyone.



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25 May 2010, 7:28 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
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You've got absolutely no idea what you're talking about. It's a complete joke. The last bit really is the punchline. There is so, SO much more to great sex than just knowing where to put it and what do do with it.


Like what?

(I know that sounds insulting, but i'm actually curious as to this... i've felt that because i fell so far behind compared to my peers in this regard there was no way i could catch up.)


Well really the secret is all about how the person behaves during it, how they treat their partner, what they do, then small details that are specific to each couple, it's all about communication and consideration.

A lot of men never get this no matter how many people they've been with. Also selfishness can ruin what could be a great lay.


"Like what?"

Like timing. We men are in the unfortunate position of really having to hold back in sex. Women take a lot more time to get "there", not to mention can have a lot more fun for a longer amount of time than men can. It sucks, but that's just the way it is. The best thing a guy (in my opinion) is be more playful before, don't get in such a hurry to get things started, and do everything he can to help the lady get to the finish line first. And any little thing that doesn't necessarily require quite that much effort to make a woman feel like she isn't just being used to help you get off.