Girl, Four years younger than me is it a no-go?

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What if he had three balls?

Problem is, when you're 18, she will be 14. When you're 21, she will be 17 and people will call you a paedophile. I was accused of such just because I had friends 4 years younger than me when I was in school. Yet I was only trying to make friends since the people in my year (and several years below) bullied me.

I don't know whether it's legal or not at 17 to have a 13-year old girlfriend. It varies depending on what country you're in. In the USA, it varies again depending on what state you're in. In England, having sexual relationships with girls under 16, no matter your age, is, is illegal.

I'm trying to stay out of this now, but I had to comment here, because a 21 year old being with a 17 year old is, unarguably, two people over the age of consent in a relationship, and there is no way you could twist that to make it seem like paedophilia at all.

To make my position on this clear: IMO, any possible relationship between the OP and this girl should not be sexual until both participants have reached the age of consent. However, I see no problem in two teenagers dating each other.

That's when the dagger comes in handy

The only reason these girls think they're more mature than boys of the same age is because they've always been told that they're more mature than boys of the same age. If reality had to bite anyone in the ass, it should be the ass of people who keep telling them this kind of lies. You know, the same people who probably confused "mature" with "obedient" and who would later tear down these girls themselves once these girls didn't turn out to be so obedient after all.



Not only that, I can also imagine this rich man having numerous affairs with different women he barely knows just because he can.

And wasn't Elvis Presley the same person who would hump anything that moves but who would form a relationship with only young (teenage) virgins? Sick, sick sorry excuse of a man.

The difference itself isn't too much, but at your ages it is a big deal. And when you turn 18 you can get charged with statutory rape if you two have sex, and gratification of lust with a minor if you do anything else (kissing, etc--this is in the US at least). Plus it's very likely she isn't even allowed to date (I wasn't at that age), and you will get picked at a lot at school. Just be friends with her or something and maybe when you're older...it's always going to seem like a pretty big difference until she's 18. Depending on how strict her parents are, it MIGHT be acceptable when she's 14 to date, but you can always still get charged with stuff depending on the laws in your area.

When I was in high school a friend of mine who was 18 started seeing a girl who was 14 and even among all our peers his reputation was damaged. Everyone, without exception, saw him as a predator. The whole school looked down on him for it.

Thirteen's too young, even if she looks like an adult, her brain isn't as fully developed as yours and you'd be effectively taking advantage of her, even if you weren't trying to.

If you really like her and don't want to have sex with her, then I don't see why you can't just be friends.

In case maybe this question has been raised already and I missed it: did the girl initiate interest in you rather than the other way round? Is that how come you have a chance with her? If this is correct, I wonder whether she's unaware of the damage it'll do to you if you entered into a relationship with her. Or, indeed, whether it's the case that she IS aware, has singled you out, and is trying to act as some sort of decoy to do that damage, which often is the case when younger, under age girls are pursuing older guys who are anywhere above the age of consent. There was an occasion when under age girls in my neighbourhood got all flirtatious with me and asked me out, which I posted about on WP. It was in a joking way to see if I really would be stupid enough to fall for it, and the only possible motive could have been to get me in deep sh1t. Heck, there were numerous occasions when I was in school and I was placed in this situation when I was exactly your age, with girls exactly the age of the one who's going for you. Aware of exactly what society's reaction would be, all I could do was make a firm point of rejecting each and every advance of this type. Otherwise my life would not have been worth living.