Looking 4 a hillbilly aspie girl.

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What? This thread is hilllllarrrrrrrrrrrrious

Really? I thought it was just dumb.

I still don't think what the original poster started this thread with was nearly as innane or as visually biggoted or as gender issued as the rest of the posts and whole discussion that followed (did he not say he was giving them chances but got sick of the results?) . Still, if it helped you all face your issues over this I guess I won't complain - just don't try and pin what this turned into back on him.

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That's because it is, some people obviously have nothing better to think about other than not giving fat girls a chance. Well I'm glad your lives are so easy guys, they must be if you can be that selective and that prejudiced. Good luck with your shallow, sad, pathetic easy little lives.

Some people watch too much Jerry Springer

No, we can just make fun of it.

I'd just like to say sorry to SamhainKing in case he seriously wants a goth and we made fun of him.

Thanks Ticker. I used to have a negative perception of you, but now I like you. So even if this tread has been dumb, I haven't laughed so much since Cartman had an alien radio antenna come out of his arse, and I think its been good.

I think some of you girls take things a bit seriously. I find rubinesque figures attractive, but its not cool to say it.

Haven't you ever said a throw away line and had someone ask what you mean,
then you think I don't know, I didn't think you would ask ?

IMO men (incl 47 yo me) are not much more mature than teenages like Vinzer (sorry Vinzer). I can say things behind WP's veil of annonymity as if I were talking with "the boys" having a few beers" - things I don't really mean. It doesn't mean I'm a mysogonist, just a boy in a middle aged body.

Lighten up, and remember that some things are said tounge in cheek. You can always click on Stop watching this topic

PS - watching any Springer is watching too much

Who are you referring to? Clearly it is wrong to be mean to, or insult, or make fun of overweight people.

However, it is reasonable (and not shallow) to be unwilling to date a substantially overweight (or underweight) person.

I vaguely remember you once wrote a rant about how you hate it when women are underweight. I agree. But if you hate it when they are underweight, to be consistent you must also hate it when they are significantly overweight, because both are bad states. If you only hate underweight and think overweight is fine (or vice-versa), then you are being a bit of a hypocrite.

I think that a big problem with this thread is that no-one defined just what they meant by overweight.

Is overweight just a few pounds, or does it mean morbid obesity? Because I've got a feeling that the people who don't like fat girls are thinking the latter, and the people that are getting offended are the ones who can't understand why a few pounds over matters.

Just a thought....

Err...are my posts on silent or something? Would anyone here wanna date someone who's really jealous and is cramping your style by getting up in any girl's face who even says hi who knew you from highschool just because she's insecure? Women hate it and so do guys. He says 'overweight' in connection from prior experience with jealousy, DID give them a chance, and all of a sudden 'overweight' just dominates the whole thread.

I don't know, I guess I'm talking to the deaf right now because everyone's politically correct button got hit and that seems to short-circuit logic for most people.

That is shallow and prejudiced. You are saying that "they're over a certain weight range, so they are instantly not my type"

What you are saying is shallow, as you are stereotyping "significantly" overweight girls. Surely you can give them a chance instead of just classifying them as all the same? Just because a girl does not conform to your physical standards does not mean that she is automatically insecure or jealous. It's attitudes like this towards overweight girls that cause insecurity in the first place.

I don't care what a prospective mate looks like on the outside, all that matters is that she is not abusive emotionally. I try to limit it to other Aspies, but if there is an NT who will be able to see that I won't be making a lot of money while I'm going to school full-time, that is just as good.

Tim

It's not that I hate one and think the other is fine. I just think, like you pointed out, that it is wrong to be mean to people who are overweight, as it is to those who are underweight. My rant on underweight people was partly based on myself. I had an eating disorder and people used to shun me (no one would date me) because I didn't look nice. It's almost like no one wanted to take the time to get to know me based on the way I looked and I found that very hurtful. Plus, in a world where thare is a vast choice of different foods to choose from, there is no need to be underweight (not that I am trying to promote obesity here, I think we should all just eat in moderation). How can someone justify being too thin when there is pleny of access to food? What I did to myself was so very stupid. I just hate seeing others making the same or similar mistakes when you could be leading your life. Overeating, however, is just as bad I will agree as this is just as silly and damaging but in a different way. But as far as getting to know someone or wanting to date someone, it should never be based on weight. I've dated people of all different shapes and sizes. But then I don't really have a specific type. I hope this has clarified some things that may have been misconstrued by my previous post.

That's nice but I think that's a little too idealistic for most people. In reality, most people will select a mate, with at least some emphasis on their physical appearance. If a person isn't attracted to their partner's body type then there'll be a lack of sexual 'chemistry', and an entire aspect of the relationship will be missing.

I make an effort to stay reasonably healthy, fit, and within the healthy weight range. If someone is failing to do the same, then they are not good enough for me. I have standards. Why should I date someone who falls below my standards?

Requiring that a partner be reasonably healthy, fit, and within the healthy weight range is CERTAINLY NOT too much to require, and there is nothing shallow about it.

Shallow is when you refuse to date someone because they do not have your favorite hair color. Sensible is refusing to date someone who is neglecting or abusing their body.