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21 Mar 2011, 3:54 pm

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oh my god 30 pounds, such a massive amount of weight to put on. :roll:
glad to know 30 pounds cancels out six years of 'love'.


I gain that much with a coat and a burrito.

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haha, right?
i fluctuate weight all the time.
if my boyfriend dumped me because of that, i'd be better off without him.



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21 Mar 2011, 3:59 pm

I made burritos the other day. They are a cure for many ills... : )


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21 Mar 2011, 4:01 pm

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I made burritos the other day. They are a cure for many ills... : )


They're my crack.


8O









I dream in guacamole.


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21 Mar 2011, 4:01 pm

i'm not a fan.

i prefer sugary things.



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21 Mar 2011, 4:03 pm

He would be very shallow to let his gfs weight become a issue thats so mean he should love her even if she has put on weight and be a supportive boyfriend not a shallow jerk :wink:



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21 Mar 2011, 4:13 pm

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He would be very shallow to let his gfs weight become a issue thats so mean he should love her even if she has put on weight and be a supportive boyfriend not a shallow jerk :wink:


(If you're talking about Hal)
the worst part is that he's not even supportive of her EFFORTS to lose weight. 8O
It would take me at least a month to lose ten pounds, and he writes it off like it's nothing.


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21 Mar 2011, 4:14 pm

i agree.
i say good on her for even trying.
i try to keep in shape for my boyfriend but he wouldn't care if i didn't.



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21 Mar 2011, 4:18 pm

^ You are lucky, sounds like you have found a good man.

As for sugary things, they are my meth.... but then, I have great appreciation for pizza, pasta, thai food, curries, lasagna, mousakka, coffee... : )


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21 Mar 2011, 4:43 pm

Bethie wrote:
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He would be very shallow to let his gfs weight become a issue thats so mean he should love her even if she has put on weight and be a supportive boyfriend not a shallow jerk :wink:


(If you're talking about Hal)
the worst part is that he's not even supportive of her EFFORTS to lose weight. 8O
It would take me at least a month to lose ten pounds, and he writes it off like it's nothing.


Im always supportive I do my best to stand by my girlfriend when im dating some one I just think its not only shallow but really mean for him to not even notice that she is trying to lose weight I put myself on a no carb diet and I try to stay in shape not only to look good but to feel good about myself :D



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21 Mar 2011, 5:08 pm

Joker wrote:
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He would be very shallow to let his gfs weight become a issue thats so mean he should love her even if she has put on weight and be a supportive boyfriend not a shallow jerk :wink:


(If you're talking about Hal)
the worst part is that he's not even supportive of her EFFORTS to lose weight. 8O
It would take me at least a month to lose ten pounds, and he writes it off like it's nothing.


Im always supportive I do my best to stand by my girlfriend when im dating some one I just think its not only shallow but really mean for him to not even notice that she is trying to lose weight I put myself on a no carb diet and I try to stay in shape not only to look good but to feel good about myself :D


Dude. I was on Atkins in high school, and...that was so rough.

You weren't even allowed to eat fruit. (Fruit = sugars = carbs)


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21 Mar 2011, 5:27 pm

Bethie wrote:
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Bethie wrote:
Joker wrote:
He would be very shallow to let his gfs weight become a issue thats so mean he should love her even if she has put on weight and be a supportive boyfriend not a shallow jerk :wink:


(If you're talking about Hal)
the worst part is that he's not even supportive of her EFFORTS to lose weight. 8O
It would take me at least a month to lose ten pounds, and he writes it off like it's nothing.


Im always supportive I do my best to stand by my girlfriend when im dating some one I just think its not only shallow but really mean for him to not even notice that she is trying to lose weight I put myself on a no carb diet and I try to stay in shape not only to look good but to feel good about myself :D


Dude. I was on Atkins in high school, and...that was so rough.

You weren't even allowed to eat fruit. (Fruit = sugars = carbs)


WOW I dont think I could do Atkins I love to eat fruit mostly strawberries dipped in chocolate :) I started the no card diet last week its rough but im losing the weight and putting on muscle



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21 Mar 2011, 5:29 pm

Bethie wrote:
Joker wrote:
Bethie wrote:
Joker wrote:
He would be very shallow to let his gfs weight become a issue thats so mean he should love her even if she has put on weight and be a supportive boyfriend not a shallow jerk :wink:


(If you're talking about Hal)
the worst part is that he's not even supportive of her EFFORTS to lose weight. 8O
It would take me at least a month to lose ten pounds, and he writes it off like it's nothing.


Im always supportive I do my best to stand by my girlfriend when im dating some one I just think its not only shallow but really mean for him to not even notice that she is trying to lose weight I put myself on a no carb diet and I try to stay in shape not only to look good but to feel good about myself :D


Dude. I was on Atkins in high school, and...that was so rough.

You weren't even allowed to eat fruit. (Fruit = sugars = carbs)


I couldnt do Atkins that would be torture



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21 Mar 2011, 5:31 pm

Im trying to lose weight at the moment. trying to lose 20 pounds, have so far lost about 5 pounds, diet is going well though it is a strange sort of diet which involves eating cake every day and exercising quite a bit, mostly core and weight bearing exercises. I find I am putting on muscle, my clothes are getting bigger but not much has showed up on the scales....


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21 Mar 2011, 6:25 pm

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Get out. She's putting you through this after only two months? Disrespectful.

I'm in the same situation. Been dating a girl for 6 years. In the last year and a half she's ballooned up by 30 pounds. I kept my mouth shut for 6 months waiting for her to go back to how she was. Now my friends ask me what's wrong with our relationship. They know there's something off when one partner gains a ton of weight. It's embarrassing because people assume we have all these emotional problems. Finally we joined a gym together and she lost maybe 10 pounds - but it's barely noticeable. She takes an antidepressant so I think this is the main source of the weight gain I'm miserable because I am no longer sexually attracted. The only thing keeping me around is that I love her as a person. But we don't have sex very often anymore. Girls have made passes at me and I turn them down because I couldn't bare to cheat, but I'll admit I'm tempted because I don't get the goods at home anymore. It's not painted red, but it's Hell. Head for zee hills!!


Wow you sound like a really cool person, not. You don't deserve her. Period.



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21 Mar 2011, 6:26 pm

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Get out. She's putting you through this after only two months? Disrespectful.

I'm in the same situation. Been dating a girl for 6 years. In the last year and a half she's ballooned up by 30 pounds. I kept my mouth shut for 6 months waiting for her to go back to how she was. Now my friends ask me what's wrong with our relationship. They know there's something off when one partner gains a ton of weight. It's embarrassing because people assume we have all these emotional problems. Finally we joined a gym together and she lost maybe 10 pounds - but it's barely noticeable. She takes an antidepressant so I think this is the main source of the weight gain I'm miserable because I am no longer sexually attracted. The only thing keeping me around is that I love her as a person. But we don't have sex very often anymore. Girls have made passes at me and I turn them down because I couldn't bare to cheat, but I'll admit I'm tempted because I don't get the goods at home anymore. It's not painted red, but it's Hell. Head for zee hills!!


Im not sure she really needs to go to the gym. In fact, she could easily lose about 180 pounds of useless weight by just ditching you.


Pretty much, he sounds pretty useless if you ask me. Its likely a troll account though, it only has one post. If it's not, god, EWWW gross he's lucky anyone will touch him with a 10 foot pole.



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21 Mar 2011, 6:28 pm

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Im trying to lose weight at the moment. trying to lose 20 pounds, have so far lost about 5 pounds, diet is going well though it is a strange sort of diet which involves eating cake every day and exercising quite a bit, mostly core and weight bearing exercises. I find I am putting on muscle, my clothes are getting bigger but not much has showed up on the scales....


Your waist circumferance is far more important then what you actually weigh in terms of your risk for health complications. It's also a far better indicator of "Sustained" weight loss.

5 pounds can simply be excessive water that has drainned from your body tissue. Not to put a downer on your good work or 'ought

Laz - Knowing how to make a woman feel wanted since 1981 8)


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