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11 Nov 2012, 12:09 am

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Unfortunately, a lot of times, trying to simply be respectful and not force yourself on them gets read as not being interested in them physically or emotionally.


Thus force yourself on them and don't really respect their limits? ;)


Well no, that'll make them blow the rape whistle. Honestly, what works for one female doesn't necessarily work for another. I think what matters a lot more than what you do is whether or not they find you attractive. if they find you attractive enough to want to have sex with you, then they don't mind so much when you force yourselves on them. You might not even have to force yourself on them at all; they'll just accept it, or they might pounce on you.



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11 Nov 2012, 12:13 am

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well, no I don't look for silly type ladies. Most of the women I hit on or talk to are 19-20 years old that work at the gym I go to.
Yeah, I hear you about if a woman has no romantic feeling for me then she is never going to.
I don't know I just want to get lucky, go up to some 20 year old woman and talk to her and right there she fall in love with me.
Has not happen yet.

You might start trying women who aren't a decade younger than you.


Well, I was about to suggest the same thing, except it never occurred to me you were 29... I wouldn't really even consider talking to a woman who isn't AT LEAST 21. Even that can be too young. When they're that age, they tend to not have a damn clue what the hell they want. They're just outta high school and usually looking to just have fun or use some guy who's willing to support them. That, and if you're like 30 and hitting on them, they probably think you're really creepy. They might go for it if you have a buncha money, though. But then they'd just be using you, and that's no good either. Also, I think girls at the gym want to just go to the gym and not have guys hit on them.



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11 Nov 2012, 10:07 am

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Toadofsteel hasn't posted in ages. I wonder what's happened to him. I used to like him.


Yeah, I got momentarily excited because I thought he was back again, until I realized this is an old thread. I hope the fact that he's not posting anymore just means he's met someone and is now happily coupled.



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11 Nov 2012, 6:39 pm

DerStadtschutz wrote:
Keyman wrote:
DerStadtschutz wrote:
Unfortunately, a lot of times, trying to simply be respectful and not force yourself on them gets read as not being interested in them physically or emotionally.


Thus force yourself on them and don't really respect their limits? ;)


Well no, that'll make them blow the rape whistle. Honestly, what works for one female doesn't necessarily work for another. I think what matters a lot more than what you do is whether or not they find you attractive. if they find you attractive enough to want to have sex with you, then they don't mind so much when you force yourselves on them. You might not even have to force yourself on them at all; they'll just accept it, or they might pounce on you.

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If you're contemplating "forcing" yourself on a woman, please don't. If it were me, regardless of how old you are or what you look like, you'd get a knife in the ribs, not a rape whistle. I'm not exaggerating or kidding there.



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11 Nov 2012, 8:06 pm

LKL wrote:
DerStadtschutz wrote:
Keyman wrote:
DerStadtschutz wrote:
Unfortunately, a lot of times, trying to simply be respectful and not force yourself on them gets read as not being interested in them physically or emotionally.


Thus force yourself on them and don't really respect their limits? ;)


Well no, that'll make them blow the rape whistle. Honestly, what works for one female doesn't necessarily work for another. I think what matters a lot more than what you do is whether or not they find you attractive. if they find you attractive enough to want to have sex with you, then they don't mind so much when you force yourselves on them. You might not even have to force yourself on them at all; they'll just accept it, or they might pounce on you.

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If you're contemplating "forcing" yourself on a woman, please don't. If it were me, regardless of how old you are or what you look like, you'd get a knife in the ribs, not a rape whistle. I'm not exaggerating or kidding there.


Allow me to rephrase... I don't mean literally force yourself on her, but I mean... Some guys are just extremely persistent and don't let up short of forcing themselves on one. In any case, yes, actually forcing yourself on someone is terrible.



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11 Nov 2012, 8:50 pm

DerStadtschutz wrote:
Keyman wrote:
DerStadtschutz wrote:
Unfortunately, a lot of times, trying to simply be respectful and not force yourself on them gets read as not being interested in them physically or emotionally.


Thus force yourself on them and don't really respect their limits? ;)


Well no, that'll make them blow the rape whistle. Honestly, what works for one female doesn't necessarily work for another. I think what matters a lot more than what you do is whether or not they find you attractive. if they find you attractive enough to want to have sex with you, then they don't mind so much when you force yourselves on them. You might not even have to force yourself on them at all; they'll just accept it, or they might pounce on you.


I think that if you're forcing yourself on someone, they may have a good reason for "blowing the rape whistle".


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11 Nov 2012, 11:24 pm

Who_Am_I wrote:
DerStadtschutz wrote:
Keyman wrote:
DerStadtschutz wrote:
Unfortunately, a lot of times, trying to simply be respectful and not force yourself on them gets read as not being interested in them physically or emotionally.


Thus force yourself on them and don't really respect their limits? ;)


Well no, that'll make them blow the rape whistle. Honestly, what works for one female doesn't necessarily work for another. I think what matters a lot more than what you do is whether or not they find you attractive. if they find you attractive enough to want to have sex with you, then they don't mind so much when you force yourselves on them. You might not even have to force yourself on them at all; they'll just accept it, or they might pounce on you.


I think that if you're forcing yourself on someone, they may have a good reason for "blowing the rape whistle".


I meant that more as being persistently hitting on a woman, not literally physically forcing yourself on top of her. What I was trying to say originally is that you have to show some sort of interest, but not friendly interest. because that tends to be read as though you just want to be friends and not lovers. But also, there are some women who don't seem to mind just being grabbed and groped randomly. I wouldn't recommend just going around doing this though.

Also, I agree that would be a good reason to blow the whistle.

I need to choose my words more carefully...



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12 Nov 2012, 2:51 am

This is forcing in the social sense, not physical. Like alpha males that has a very persistent and close interaction and just keeps on until the opponent gives in. Some girls don't think males that doesn't do this as "worthy" and in effect makes this kind of behavior rewarded and spilling over to other girls that doesn't appreciate it at all.



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12 Nov 2012, 4:20 am

DerStadtschutz wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
DerStadtschutz wrote:
Keyman wrote:
DerStadtschutz wrote:
Unfortunately, a lot of times, trying to simply be respectful and not force yourself on them gets read as not being interested in them physically or emotionally.


Thus force yourself on them and don't really respect their limits? ;)


Well no, that'll make them blow the rape whistle. Honestly, what works for one female doesn't necessarily work for another. I think what matters a lot more than what you do is whether or not they find you attractive. if they find you attractive enough to want to have sex with you, then they don't mind so much when you force yourselves on them. You might not even have to force yourself on them at all; they'll just accept it, or they might pounce on you.


I think that if you're forcing yourself on someone, they may have a good reason for "blowing the rape whistle".


I meant that more as being persistently hitting on a woman, not literally physically forcing yourself on top of her. What I was trying to say originally is that you have to show some sort of interest, but not friendly interest. because that tends to be read as though you just want to be friends and not lovers. But also, there are some women who don't seem to mind just being grabbed and groped randomly. I wouldn't recommend just going around doing this though.

Also, I agree that would be a good reason to blow the whistle.

I need to choose my words more carefully...


Oh, ok, fair enough. :)


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