01 Jan 2012, 8:42 pm
01 Jan 2012, 8:45 pm
There's like a whole generation of late 20's to early 30's guys posting I just noticed. I'm wondering why that is. 
01 Jan 2012, 8:47 pm
chrissyrun wrote:
mitch413 wrote:
Living at home with my folks and not having any freedom or independence doesn't help matters either. This is not going to change until I can find some sort of job. Girls don't seem to like guys that don't have a good job, which is why I've pretty much avoided dating sites lately.
I'm glad I came across this forum. Although it likely won't change my dating situation at all, knowing that my situation isn't totally unique does provide me with some consolation.
I'm glad I came across this forum. Although it likely won't change my dating situation at all, knowing that my situation isn't totally unique does provide me with some consolation.
That line....
Describes me PERFECTLY...that's why I'm DYING to go to college. Except I'm young and pretty, so guys will still hit on me on dating sites, but not quality ones. No wait, there was a handful of good ones (I can count them all on one hand) but each of them had a personality conflict. Awesome
Understand the feeling.Although college had its fair share of challenges, I miss the independence that went along with it. I also liked having some semblance of structure to each of my days with classes and homework and stuff. I went to grad school after college, and liked that too. I even did a little teaching, which was a bit of a hurdle at times.
I tried Aspie Affection, but found the site to be frustratingly buggy. They need to upgrade the software. In addition, the site doesn't get too much traffic either. I might give an NT site a try when I feel a burst of courage.
01 Jan 2012, 8:59 pm
mitch413 wrote:
Although college had its fair share of challenges, I miss the independence that went along with it. I also liked having some semblance of structure to each of my days with classes and homework and stuff. I went to grad school after college, and liked that too. I even did a little teaching, which was a bit of a hurdle at times.
I tried Aspie Affection, but found the site to be frustratingly buggy. They need to upgrade the software. In addition, the site doesn't get too much traffic either. I might give an NT site a try when I feel a burst of courage.
Yea....I went for half a semester and was kicked out because I underestimated it. I NEED my own bedroom for sleeping issues.
I long for independence...I hate living at home, and just being here...though I have more than when I was younger.
I had an issue with structuring my classes, and I had 0 schedule.
Wow, sounds like fun. Why do you not have a job then? You have a degree and experience.
Oh, that site is lame, okcupid has a lot of creepers, datehookup thing is pathetic, ummmmmmmmm, yea...I have bad opinions about all dating sites....but maybe that's just because I don't take em too seriously
Well good luck. 
01 Jan 2012, 9:35 pm
chrissyrun wrote:
mitch413 wrote:
Although college had its fair share of challenges, I miss the independence that went along with it. I also liked having some semblance of structure to each of my days with classes and homework and stuff. I went to grad school after college, and liked that too. I even did a little teaching, which was a bit of a hurdle at times.
I tried Aspie Affection, but found the site to be frustratingly buggy. They need to upgrade the software. In addition, the site doesn't get too much traffic either. I might give an NT site a try when I feel a burst of courage.
Yea....I went for half a semester and was kicked out because I underestimated it. I NEED my own bedroom for sleeping issues.
I long for independence...I hate living at home, and just being here...though I have more than when I was younger.
I had an issue with structuring my classes, and I had 0 schedule.
Wow, sounds like fun. Why do you not have a job then? You have a degree and experience.
Oh, that site is lame, okcupid has a lot of creepers, datehookup thing is pathetic, ummmmmmmmm, yea...I have bad opinions about all dating sites....but maybe that's just because I don't take em too seriously
Well good luck. If it's an option, I'd recommend a quiet off-campus apartment. I was able to sleep and study well away from the noisy, chaotic dorms. I quit after a year and half of dorm hell, but went back to college at another school a year later and had my own place. The other good thing about this is you can surround yourself with people only when you want them. It's not like they're always there in a dorm. Having an out to my own oasis was what saved my college career.
I have a degree in a field that has a very limited job market, which makes landing a job exceedingly difficult. In addition, I struggle with interviews and networking. As such, I'm going back to school (again!) in a few weeks to retrain for another career in IT.
I'll probably give match.com or okcupid a try when I have my own place, hopefully later this year. Since I live at home, I have little privacy from my parents and don't like them snooping on my computer and online social life.
01 Jan 2012, 9:47 pm
01 Jan 2012, 10:10 pm
mitch413 wrote:
If it's an option, I'd recommend a quiet off-campus apartment. I was able to sleep and study well away from the noisy, chaotic dorms. I quit after a year and half of dorm hell, but went back to college at another school a year later and had my own place. The other good thing about this is you can surround yourself with people only when you want them. It's not like they're always there in a dorm. Having an out to my own oasis was what saved my college career.
I have a degree in a field that has a very limited job market, which makes landing a job exceedingly difficult. In addition, I struggle with interviews and networking. As such, I'm going back to school (again!) in a few weeks to retrain for another career in IT.
I'll probably give match.com or okcupid a try when I have my own place, hopefully later this year. Since I live at home, I have little privacy from my parents and don't like them snooping on my computer and online social life.
I have a degree in a field that has a very limited job market, which makes landing a job exceedingly difficult. In addition, I struggle with interviews and networking. As such, I'm going back to school (again!) in a few weeks to retrain for another career in IT.
I'll probably give match.com or okcupid a try when I have my own place, hopefully later this year. Since I live at home, I have little privacy from my parents and don't like them snooping on my computer and online social life.
Yea...but those are expensive.
I have to get my parents to pay, but then they'll want me to get a job.
I was in a dorm-apartment thing...basically the only difference was that it was off-campus and had a kitchen. I shared a bedroom, I had clean checks and curfews, ad I had evil roommates. NEXT TIME. I get my own bedroom, I can share every other room, but not where I sleep.
That's why I am on medical deferment, because I couldn't deal with the roommates and stress and smells and stuff, so I used my Autism. Otherwise I would been dead meat and NO university would ever want me. But it's biting me in the butt because NOW I am probably not gonna get into another Uni because of my Autism.
Oh, that stinks. I want an accounting degree...I've heard that field is big.
I did one group interview....it was awful.
Well good luck with that.
Yea, good idea. Do you lock your bedroom door and have your own laptop? Nobody wants to dare enter my room, I can keep it clean...but since I don't have to...it is dirty and pungent. I sometimes get sick of the smell
(mostly not though). Is match.com free?
02 Jan 2012, 4:53 am
02 Jan 2012, 9:49 am
chrissyrun wrote:
mitch413 wrote:
If it's an option, I'd recommend a quiet off-campus apartment. I was able to sleep and study well away from the noisy, chaotic dorms. I quit after a year and half of dorm hell, but went back to college at another school a year later and had my own place. The other good thing about this is you can surround yourself with people only when you want them. It's not like they're always there in a dorm. Having an out to my own oasis was what saved my college career.
I have a degree in a field that has a very limited job market, which makes landing a job exceedingly difficult. In addition, I struggle with interviews and networking. As such, I'm going back to school (again!) in a few weeks to retrain for another career in IT.
I'll probably give match.com or okcupid a try when I have my own place, hopefully later this year. Since I live at home, I have little privacy from my parents and don't like them snooping on my computer and online social life.
I have a degree in a field that has a very limited job market, which makes landing a job exceedingly difficult. In addition, I struggle with interviews and networking. As such, I'm going back to school (again!) in a few weeks to retrain for another career in IT.
I'll probably give match.com or okcupid a try when I have my own place, hopefully later this year. Since I live at home, I have little privacy from my parents and don't like them snooping on my computer and online social life.
Yea...but those are expensive.
I have to get my parents to pay, but then they'll want me to get a job. I was in a dorm-apartment thing...basically the only difference was that it was off-campus and had a kitchen. I shared a bedroom, I had clean checks and curfews, ad I had evil roommates. NEXT TIME. I get my own bedroom, I can share every other room, but not where I sleep.
That's why I am on medical deferment, because I couldn't deal with the roommates and stress and smells and stuff, so I used my Autism. Otherwise I would been dead meat and NO university would ever want me. But it's biting me in the butt because NOW I am probably not gonna get into another Uni because of my Autism.
Oh, that stinks. I want an accounting degree...I've heard that field is big.
I did one group interview....it was awful.
Well good luck with that. Yea, good idea. Do you lock your bedroom door and have your own laptop? Nobody wants to dare enter my room, I can keep it clean...but since I don't have to...it is dirty and pungent. I sometimes get sick of the smell
(mostly not though). Is match.com free?Working part time while in school is a good idea because you can get experience while in school. This is probably one of the reasons why I don't have a job right now. Employers these days are much more concerned with experience than education. If you think the load will be too much, maybe being a part time (as opposed to full time) student with a part time job is a good idea. It may take longer to finish school, but this way you'll have money for an off campus apartment.
Just because you're on the spectrum doesn't mean that a University will reject you. So, if you want to go to another school, I'd recommend applying. Don't withdraw officially from the old school until you've accepted an offer from the new one. Depending on the country, many schools in the US, Canada, and Europe are required by law to provide reasonable accommodations to anyone who has a documented disability.
When I lived in the dorms at my first college, yes I would lock my door. I had a laptop and didn't want anyone stealing it. Unfortunately, you just can't trust your neighbors that much. I don't think match.com is free. I believe you have to pay after a free trial period.
02 Jan 2012, 11:23 am
chrissyrun wrote:
There's like a whole generation of late 20's to early 30's guys posting I just noticed. I'm wondering why that is.
I am one of them, but I have noticed this tread too here on WP, it's seems that most guys in the 21-40 age are struggling to find someone where as most girls seem to be finding someone. Maybe it's because the guy is meant to chat to a girl first
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02 Jan 2012, 11:28 am
AlienRed wrote:
chrissyrun wrote:
There's like a whole generation of late 20's to early 30's guys posting I just noticed. I'm wondering why that is.
I am one of them, but I have noticed this tread too here on WP, it's seems that most guys in the 21-40 age are struggling to find someone where as most girls seem to be finding someone. Maybe it's because the guy is meant to chat to a girl first
I think it's partly because Aspergers is more common for guys than women & that it tends to be easier for women to get dates due to the social rules.
02 Jan 2012, 12:48 pm
I have had one for the past 5 months. He's lovely and we're happy.
02 Jan 2012, 2:58 pm
02 Jan 2012, 5:49 pm
mitch413 wrote:
Working part time while in school is a good idea because you can get experience while in school. This is probably one of the reasons why I don't have a job right now. Employers these days are much more concerned with experience than education. If you think the load will be too much, maybe being a part time (as opposed to full time) student with a part time job is a good idea. It may take longer to finish school, but this way you'll have money for an off campus apartment.
Just because you're on the spectrum doesn't mean that a University will reject you. So, if you want to go to another school, I'd recommend applying. Don't withdraw officially from the old school until you've accepted an offer from the new one. Depending on the country, many schools in the US, Canada, and Europe are required by law to provide reasonable accommodations to anyone who has a documented disability.
When I lived in the dorms at my first college, yes I would lock my door. I had a laptop and didn't want anyone stealing it. Unfortunately, you just can't trust your neighbors that much. I don't think match.com is free. I believe you have to pay after a free trial period.
Just because you're on the spectrum doesn't mean that a University will reject you. So, if you want to go to another school, I'd recommend applying. Don't withdraw officially from the old school until you've accepted an offer from the new one. Depending on the country, many schools in the US, Canada, and Europe are required by law to provide reasonable accommodations to anyone who has a documented disability.
When I lived in the dorms at my first college, yes I would lock my door. I had a laptop and didn't want anyone stealing it. Unfortunately, you just can't trust your neighbors that much. I don't think match.com is free. I believe you have to pay after a free trial period.
Yea, that's the one big thing I need, experience. I like that idea....now if I could only get the schooling in order and get hired. Well, I have a 4-year scholarship (if I even get to use it
).It does if you don't want to show proof of it (which we have, but my mom believes they don't need...plus it takes weeks to obtain) I am on medical deferment from one right now...problem is the next semester there is in April.
There were no locks on the doors there....it was pathetic. My roommates would leave our apartment door open 90% of the time! So scary, I worried fro my laptop.
I hid my laptop usually. Yea...I am on okcupid and datehookup. I've met a few interesting people, made some new friends but no good mormon boys 
AlienRed wrote:
I am one of them, but I have noticed this tread too here on WP, it's seems that most guys in the 21-40 age are struggling to find someone where as most girls seem to be finding someone. Maybe it's because the guy is meant to chat to a girl first
Yea, most girls...but not all.
I think it is, and because ANYONE with aspergers/autism can seem awkward at first or in general.
nick007 wrote:
I think it's partly because Aspergers is more common for guys than women & that it tends to be easier for women to get dates due to the social rules.
It happens to girls as well though.
Due to social rules of guys asking first...but that's the way the system is set up...if ya can't beat em, join em.
Tom5 wrote:
No I don't have a girlfriend and probably never will.
The good-looking women are all taken and I don't want a fat and ugly chick. I want a good-looking girlfriend.
The good-looking women are all taken and I don't want a fat and ugly chick. I want a good-looking girlfriend.
Ya know, for a lot of guys on here, I say they probably could, and have a chance to find one....but for you, I agree...you probably won't have a girlfriend.
But it's not because of your reasoning, there are plenty of cute and skinny girls*cough, cough* (and girls can be pretty and fat, I have friends who fall under this category who are in relationships) you are just being mean and obviously a girl wants a mean guy
02 Jan 2012, 6:56 pm
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