The Sex Friend Trend

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It's a double edged sword thing but it's certainly something to at least think about. I know that right now, I have no desire to be extremely close with a girl and be with her every single day and having to be forced to talk to her all the time. With a f*** buddy, I can be with her once and not have to talk to her at all until perhaps a few days or weeks later if we both have the interest of getting together again. Yet, despite my not wanting to get extremely close to a girl, if I found one willing to do me, I'd probably end up getting attached to her anyways because of my lack of experience even though that's not the right thing to do with hook up. I'd probably be too appreciative. I realize that being a virgin for a hook up can also be risky. Being a virgin with a close girlfriend I understand would be the better way to go but these days finding an actual girlfriend is a lot more difficult. The way I see it, as it stands it's either a hook up or nothing.

I come to the realization that I give off too much of the "nice guy" aura for me to make any advancement to something bigger. Guess that's my fault for being the nurturing type. >.<

Wouldn't work for me I wouldn't care if sex was eradicated from the planet. But if it works for folks by all means just do it.

I tried this recently, it lasted about 1.5 months before I got bored with it.

Maybe it would have been better if she didn't live 60 miles away, but I learned that I prefer "real" relationships far more...

Does a real man need to question his libido nightly, or is he mulling over a very long and dull lifestyle with zero benefits and only zero hourly contracts until the big cheques roll in?
I'm just wondering as this guy has got big reason to know he's in the money and whilst flaunting it around might be a stratedgy for attracting women, also a few gold-diggars might be lurking.
Is cheerful conversation the only way to cheer up whats left of a deflated dilemma or is there another way to satisfy a mans die hard ego?

Funny, just the other day I was pondering the concept of unscripted deprogramming. I think peoples' minds naturally pick one another up & so I focus on making that happen.

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I don't think I'd like that...but can't say no other aspies would like that kind of thing, but for me casual sex outside a romantic relationship isn't all that appealing. Of course I have had it happen by mistake, like jumping into having sex with a guy only to have them tell me after a few times they don't want anything long-term whereas I was looking for a relationship. But that's all behind me since I'm in a LTR now and yeah I find sex within that more enjoyable...than the idea of casual sex with various people or having a partner just for sex but not in a relationship with them.

I was kind of trying to write around that - I'm a lot more shy than girls say I should be & nevertheless I'm thankful for great company to say the least. I don't worry much about flightiness & tough workloads normally because there's no reason I see for facts of life to bork great weekwnd plans.

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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos

I have absolutely no interest in the idea of no-strings-attached sex. Sex without strings seems like a waste of everybody's time; for me there has to be an emotional connection.