How do guys approach women in America?

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To the OP's question, I can only add that America's big. How people act and react depends a lot on where you are. The US is a lot like 50 different countries that happen to use similar variants of English and happen to have the same currency and to be bound by the same Federal legal codes.

In New York City, my sister is careful not to do more than make momentary eye contact with any stranger. Otherwise it's just an invitation for a proposition she hasn't time to deal with. This is common for many women throughout the City.

In contrast, women living in places like Raleigh, North Carolina or Austin, Texas, will often say "hi" to a stranger on the street. Then again, the men living in those same towns will do the same also. If my sister were to behave in Milwaukee as she does in Manhattan, she's be considered unnaturally cold, or angry, or who knows what; anything other than at peace with herself and her surroundings.

Your own instincts are still your best bet, even if you feel that you can't trust them very far.

There could be many reasons why this is happening to you. Do you dress seductively ,make eye contact or encourage these men [perhaps unknowingly]in any way?Most intelligent men will not approach a woman that they feel they have no chance with .With a few alterations you may be able to reduce the amount of men approaching you Many people with AS would envy your situation as attention from the opposite sex is difficult to obtain let alone getting into relationships.

Half the time, I'm dressed in baggy cargo pants and a t-shirt. I don't do eye-contact, and am actually rather non-reactive.

Envious, eh? Yeah, I got that impression. Personally, I don't think it's anything to envy. The men that do this are generally pervy and aren't the sort a woman really wants attention from.

Of course I am envious of someone getting a lot of attention from the opposite sex when because of my AS I definitely struggle with that. Now that you have clarified your situation [these aren't men you would be interested in ] it makes more sense ..Some women claim they have so many men after them and it isn't something that someone who struggles with that sort of thing would want to hear.

Have you decided which state, or general geographical area you'll wind up in. Are you wanting a place with hot/humid as hell summers with dry winters, etc? As for being approached, I wouldnt know as I dont because I have no wish to viewed as creepy . . . which I probably still am just because I don't talk to anyone. Anyway, good luck on your choice.

a thick ass wallet

I've never been approached. I have no clue.

lol, difficult attribute to have in this economy. Of course it is qualifying

WTF?

Money buys sex, not love - it doesn't mean f*ck-all where it counts...

I use my southerner charm and hospitality when approaching women

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