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11 Oct 2011, 9:57 pm

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There are no red flags. Men will put up with a lot more from a woman than a woman will from a man.

seems like a whole lot of women put up with physical abuse from men, which happens much less often in reverse. not much is bigger than that. really, i rather wish they didn't put up with it. i wonder what the red flags for that are?


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11 Oct 2011, 10:05 pm

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A hostile woman like this:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=igWbih3CiVo[/youtube


Watch out for:
-Over the top niceness with no actions to back it up
-Nagging you for marriage within weeks of meeting or months.
-Excessive need for attention
-Catty attitude towards women and feels entitled to the most attention
-Insults you, degrades you, picks fights with you.
-Brings up things you did wrong years ago if you mention something she just did
-Refuses to accept responsibility for actions.
-If saying sorry you realize she isn't really as she keeps doing the same mistake over and over.
-Punches you.
-Controlling.
-Blames all abuse she does to you on you as if you started it but you did not.

and i agree with these ^^^^


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12 Oct 2011, 2:37 pm

I feel this is topic I can add some substance to and maybe put some perspective to having dealt with this personally time after time. I'm 40, obviously AS but undiagnosed, recently divorced, and have found the dating scene hasn't changed now that I'm older and more experienced. There are two scenarios here. Are you persuing or being persued? If you're persuing you have to have some knowledge of who there friends are. I have found that if their friends (NT's) don't accept you into their social circle, they will pressure the woman stop seeing you. The woman may actually like you but never underestimate peer pressure. If you are being persued make sure the best you can that it is genuine interest, not a ploy to get you to make an ass out of yourself or so they can take advantage of you to manipulate someone else. All of this has happened to me. Other than the obvious signs of abuse and or criminal behavior the red flag lists shouldn't be a reason to not try or give it a shot. Ya, like AS doesn't put up alot of red flags? Think about it.



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12 Oct 2011, 2:45 pm

Adam82 wrote:
There are no red flags. Men will put up with a lot more from a woman than a woman will from a man.

... as long as he is still "getting some". ;)


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12 Oct 2011, 10:03 pm

Fnord wrote:
Adam82 wrote:
There are no red flags. Men will put up with a lot more from a woman than a woman will from a man.

... as long as he is still "getting some". ;)


Because the less-than-Adonis-like man will know he will have trouble finding someone else if the relationship fails. That's why guys will put up with a lot more from women. Especially Asperger males who are at a disadvantage, anyway.

Women these days have the option of picking and choosing partners. At their leisure, mostly.

My list:

-Shallow
- Stupid
- Feminazi
- Yuppie
- Princess- like
- slu*ty
- Bitchy



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12 Oct 2011, 10:40 pm

Adam82 wrote:
Fnord wrote:
Adam82 wrote:
There are no red flags. Men will put up with a lot more from a woman than a woman will from a man.

... as long as he is still "getting some". ;)


Because the less-than-Adonis-like man will know he will have trouble finding someone else if the relationship fails. That's why guys will put up with a lot more from women. Especially Asperger males who are at a disadvantage, anyway.

Women these days have the option of picking and choosing partners. At their leisure, mostly.

My list:

-Shallow
- Stupid
- Feminazi
- Yuppie
- Princess- like
- slu*ty
- Bitchy


that sounds like an alternative version of the Severn Dwarfs! Calm down my friend, you as a man have time on your side. your 29 yr old female aspie equivalent may (possibly) have more options but for how long?? her biological clock is ticking fast - your's isn't and never will be


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23 Oct 2011, 12:21 am

i didnt read the whole thread, so sorry if this has been said before:

its a massive red flag if you set up a 'date' or 'time to hang out' etc, then she cancels without giving an alternate time.

if she flirts with other guys when you are around, and flirts with you too.

if shes willing to break up with her boyfriend to be with you. (she'll prolly end up breaking up with you to be with someone 'better')



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23 Oct 2011, 1:50 am

Is already in a relationship



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23 Oct 2011, 3:04 am

blunnet wrote:
But, is there such a thing as a "perfect woman" and "perfect man"?


For the individual, yes. For everyone - no.


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Speaks very poorly of all her exes. A sure sign of empathy problems or simplistic thinking. You're next.


Or the other way around: wont stop talking about her ex, which makes you question why you asked her out in the first place.


Anyway:

- Disrespectfully talks in a phone to her friend during the date and doesn't excuse herself and says "i'm busy, can i call you back?"
- Reveals that she lied in her presentation.
- Jumps to conclusions instead of asking "What do you mean by that?"
- Thinks that you have to have a academic degree to think (Friend of mine's ex GF - she was a total idiot).
- Says negative things about men who might have aspergers and comes across as really unempatic.


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23 Oct 2011, 4:01 am

Adam82 wrote:
Fnord wrote:
Adam82 wrote:
There are no red flags. Men will put up with a lot more from a woman than a woman will from a man.

... as long as he is still "getting some". ;)


Because the less-than-Adonis-like man will know he will have trouble finding someone else if the relationship fails. That's why guys will put up with a lot more from women. Especially Asperger males who are at a disadvantage, anyway.

Women these days have the option of picking and choosing partners. At their leisure, mostly.

My list:

-Shallow
- Stupid
- Feminazi
- Yuppie
- Princess- like
- slu*ty
- Bitchy


The fact you think most men struggle to find someone (false) has nothing to do with what women put up with in a relationship.

From your list you seem like you don't put up with much.



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23 Oct 2011, 6:08 am

She used to be a man



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31 Oct 2011, 3:58 pm

Worst things about the female gender:

believes in feminism

bases worldview on MTV and mainstream media

practices eugenics, weeds out men who are *equal* or below them

obsessed with power and security in men, instead of getting her own life together. You have to bold as brass to expect the men you date to have a job and security, when you have NONE yourself, and have absolutely NOTHING to bring to the table yourself, except for a stinky hole. Women like that, are the ultimate trash and degradation of the world. Sorry! just had to say it.

likes the pedestal power from society, hates men

Pretty much everything with good anaklyzation can be a red flag. They are the flawed, destructive gender of the human race. ;)



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31 Oct 2011, 5:18 pm

vilin66 wrote:
Worst things about the female gender:

believes in feminism

bases worldview on MTV and mainstream media

practices eugenics, weeds out men who are *equal* or below them

obsessed with power and security in men, instead of getting her own life together. You have to bold as brass to expect the men you date to have a job and security, when you have NONE yourself, and have absolutely NOTHING to bring to the table yourself, except for a stinky hole. Women like that, are the ultimate trash and degradation of the world. Sorry! just had to say it.

likes the pedestal power from society, hates men

Pretty much everything with good anaklyzation can be a red flag. They are the flawed, destructive gender of the human race. ;)


Even in jest this is a very sad thing to post, hopefully you will lose friends for this unkind act, and learn being bitter and nasty is not a likeable quality in anyone



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31 Oct 2011, 5:27 pm

why? because I'm anti-gender roles? and I don't support one gender supremacy?



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31 Oct 2011, 7:14 pm

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why? because I'm anti-gender roles? and I don't support one gender supremacy?


I think he means because you're deluded and you also hate women.



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01 Nov 2011, 2:37 am

hale_bopp wrote:
vilin66 wrote:
why? because I'm anti-gender roles? and I don't support one gender supremacy?


I think he means because you're deluded and you also hate women.


Despite hale_bopp being from a diametrically opposed point on the planet (NZ - UK) to yours truly, I think we both agree that Vilin66s' misogyny is somewhat off-putting.