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09 Jan 2012, 8:14 pm

I have learned one thing in my 49 years on this weird planet..
There is NO PERFECT match. Not for me, not for anyone. If you are really lucky you find someone you click with. And they with you. The rest is work. No magic needed. Relationships involve work.
Now I just have to find a female who realizes this simple fact of life.
My main problem is getting close to someone INITIALLY. Dates are rare...
And when I was last truly in love, it took me 6 weeks to get up the courage to try to hold her hand..

Matt.

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09 Jan 2012, 9:35 pm

I should not get a girlfriend. I want to, but there are too many reasons why I should not.

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09 Jan 2012, 10:17 pm

Well, the fact that practically no one on campus knows I'm gay could probably be called an impediment.

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09 Jan 2012, 10:38 pm

dianthus wrote:

Because I'm a hopeless romantic, and need to have the ultimate spiritual connection with someone. Anything less won't satisfy me.

There are plenty of girls who like romance.

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09 Jan 2012, 11:02 pm

chrissyrun wrote:

dianthus wrote:

Because I'm a hopeless romantic, and need to have the ultimate spiritual connection with someone. Anything less won't satisfy me.

There are plenty of girls who like romance.

dianthus is a girl & I think she might be looking for a guy but I'm not sure. But there are guys who feel the same way. I would love to have that kind of connection with someone

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09 Jan 2012, 11:03 pm

extreme fear of intimacy, and constant anxiety.

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09 Jan 2012, 11:05 pm

nick007 wrote:

chrissyrun wrote:

dianthus wrote:

Because I'm a hopeless romantic, and need to have the ultimate spiritual connection with someone. Anything less won't satisfy me.

There are plenty of girls who like romance.

dianthus is a girl & I think she might be looking for a guy but I'm not sure. But there are guys who feel the same way. I would love to have that kind of connection with someone

I'm not so sure I'd use the word spiritual, but I agree. I don't see why anyone would settle for less.

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09 Jan 2012, 11:31 pm

Boxman108 wrote:

nick007 wrote:

chrissyrun wrote:

dianthus wrote:

Because I'm a hopeless romantic, and need to have the ultimate spiritual connection with someone. Anything less won't satisfy me.

There are plenty of girls who like romance.

dianthus is a girl & I think she might be looking for a guy but I'm not sure. But there are guys who feel the same way. I would love to have that kind of connection with someone

I'm not so sure I'd use the word spiritual, but I agree. I don't see why anyone would settle for less.

Sorry!

I didn't pay attention, kinda out of it right now.

:lol:

Good thing I'm looking for a guy as well. :roll:

Or ya never know :wink:

But seriously....I have slept less than 3 hours today, my brain is on totally fried mode right now.

Spiritual and romantic are 2 different things. I would wish for both. :heart:

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09 Jan 2012, 11:44 pm

chrissyrun wrote:

Boxman108 wrote:

nick007 wrote:

chrissyrun wrote:

dianthus wrote:

Because I'm a hopeless romantic, and need to have the ultimate spiritual connection with someone. Anything less won't satisfy me.

There are plenty of girls who like romance.

dianthus is a girl & I think she might be looking for a guy but I'm not sure. But there are guys who feel the same way. I would love to have that kind of connection with someone

I'm not so sure I'd use the word spiritual, but I agree. I don't see why anyone would settle for less.

Sorry!

I didn't pay attention, kinda out of it right now.

:lol:

Good thing I'm looking for a guy as well. :roll:

Or ya never know :wink:

But seriously....I have slept less than 3 hours today, my brain is on totally fried mode right now.

Spiritual and romantic are 2 different things. I would wish for both. :heart:

My brain never works regardless of how much sleep I get. You should count yourself lucky.

Yeah I guess they are. Spirituality's never been that crucial for me...then again I guess it makes sense what with having no religion. Maybe I should get that fixed with surgery.

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09 Jan 2012, 11:52 pm

Boxman108 wrote:

chrissyrun wrote:

Boxman108 wrote:

nick007 wrote:

chrissyrun wrote:

dianthus wrote:

Because I'm a hopeless romantic, and need to have the ultimate spiritual connection with someone. Anything less won't satisfy me.

There are plenty of girls who like romance.

dianthus is a girl & I think she might be looking for a guy but I'm not sure. But there are guys who feel the same way. I would love to have that kind of connection with someone

I'm not so sure I'd use the word spiritual, but I agree. I don't see why anyone would settle for less.

Sorry!

I didn't pay attention, kinda out of it right now.

:lol:

Good thing I'm looking for a guy as well. :roll:

Or ya never know :wink:

But seriously....I have slept less than 3 hours today, my brain is on totally fried mode right now.

Spiritual and romantic are 2 different things. I would wish for both. :heart:

My brain never works regardless of how much sleep I get. You should count yourself lucky.

Yeah I guess they are. Spirituality's never been that crucial for me...then again I guess it makes sense what with having no religion. Maybe I should get that fixed with surgery.

Lucky to be half-awake and focused? :lol:

Definitely! I could click with a few people romantically...and there are even less I could spiritually....but both is near impossible...but I'm going to have faith and hope.

Moat aspies dislike religion unfortunately

Your brain or the no religion thing? :scratch:

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10 Jan 2012, 12:07 am

chrissyrun wrote:

Lucky to be half-awake and focused? :lol:

Your brain or the no religion thing? :scratch:

Well it would seem nice to be able to have faith in something. Maybe I'm just too cynical or something. It hasn't helped that some people have made me out to be some kind of devil just because of it. I understand that they don't speak for everyone, and their are atheists who are just depressing to be around, but still, it's people like that that make me wary of joining any sort of group. I guess that doesn't necessarily mean I couldn't just be part of the religion and not the church.

But yeah, being able to not be stupid would be a good thing for me, as well.

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10 Jan 2012, 12:38 am

I gave up, it wasn't worth the heartache.

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10 Jan 2012, 2:42 am

I'm in a relationship now, but with someone who has Aspie traits since he was the only person who would put up with me for the most part. It's the only reason why we're still together.

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10 Jan 2012, 3:11 am

I'm autistic (I think) :roll:

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10 Jan 2012, 4:00 am

I have almost no self confidence and I am unable to hide it, that's why I am single.

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10 Jan 2012, 4:48 am

^^^
you ain't the only one. :hmph:

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