Well I think one thing I've noticed is that my intentions have definitely been misconstrued.
I never said I didn't want to be friends with these women. I would love to be friends with them, but that wasn't my point in initiating contact with them in the first place. I've don't look at it that I've ever hidden the fact that I wanted to Date them, not just be their friend. It's easy to see why I would get unhappy about it and then maybe not wind up being their friend afterwards? It's seldom painful to be around them, but whats painful is listening to them talk about their relationship problems when the whole reason I know them is because they didn't want that with me.. It's hard not to think about that.
And basically from the two that I talked to most recently, it's that they all feel I'd be great catch if they were ready to "Settle down".. but just not right now. the problem with that is, I've been told that for the last 10 years or so. I'm now 27, By the time any of them are ready to settle down I'll be even older, Meaning I've lost out on all the teens and 20's years of relationship building because I just come across as too old a soul for them to be interested in me romantically. This leads to something of a problem where because I've lost out on the last 10 years, I'm closer to being a 20 year old emotionally and maturity wise than I am a 30 year old, so I don't want a 30 year old Woman, I want a 23-26 year old.. but they still aren't ready to settle down.
I assume they just find me to dull to fathom spending a lot of time with.. even though that simply isn't true. I like doing lots of things.. just not raucous things like going to parties..
24 Jan 2012, 7:37 am
