Good places for Asperger's men to meet women

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Or an aspie meet up.

I met my wife off the internet 10 years ago. The internet is not a bad place to meet but you must exercise caution. The same applies for meeting someone in a real place. If you're the type that can meet people in real life, more power to you. If you're like myself than you will find it easier to interact online. If I had to suggest a physical place to meet people I would have to say make it a place that you find enjoyable and relaxing. Maybe a music shop or park.

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The basic idea is this: determine common social activities you'd like to partake in or possible clubs you'd like to be a member of (maybe write a list), then look for them (it might be easier if you live in a city). I think this post has the right idea. At the very least you do something you enjoy and meet people who have something in common with you. You might also meet friends. You also greatly increase your chances of finding someone interested in you, compared to just lurking around in shops or parks or libraries. If you're a total stranger without some premise for communication, the people you meet are on their guard and you'd be lucky to make a connection with them - it's possible, but not worth the effort when you could be joining clubs.

Online dating cuts out all of the work involved in joining clubs/groups/institutions and meeting new people, which has its advantages to someone unfamiliar with or averse to social interaction. I'd recommend a couple of these sites, but I think they should be supplemented with real-life action which is enriching in many other respects as well.

In graduate school, I worked most of the time in my apartment on my classes and my thesis, but I met my girlfriend in a "movie night" where fellow students met weekly at someone's apartments and watched movies. I was lucky, but not so much as an undergraduate where I also made use of very few social outlets and didn't date anyone. If I could do college over again I'd join lots of societies and really follow through by going to at least the first couple of meetings of each, trying to find social outlets outside of my own class, to increase my share of opportunities.

Do you suppose there's some gulf of understanding between you and the crowd because of the suffering you've endured? I've got news for you, Walter Cronkite. You hate them because you hate that part of yourself. You're a lucky kid. Be comfortable with yourself. I give you permission.

I found a few growing aspie dating pages on facebook. You could also try the direct approach and just post an ad on craigslist seeking a woman with Asperger's syndrome in the title (and put your age or other preferences in the ad). I already have two ads like that running in the 2 nearest cties. That's bound to get some attention and get people to talk about it.

Barnes And Noble. Usually has nice young ladies working, in fact one time I went to the help desk to find a book about the overdiagnosis of ADD and a girl working the counter must have had ADD because she was really interested in me but I was too shy to flirt with her. Not saying that is going to happen, but you'd be buying a book from what is likely a female that is also interested in reading so that is a pretty good starting point. Ironically I thought about this the other day and I went there to buy a book and for the first time ever there were only guys working. foreveralone.jpg

Forgot to mention this approach too. It already worked for me once a few months ago.
I wear it to public events with lots of people, supermarkets, etc. It's unusual and a real attention getter! (and it's on BOTH sides of the shirt)

I am glad it worked for you but many Aspies are notorious for avoiding the limelight.I think many would be uncomfortable with wearing that.

most community college girls are taken from my experience

Exactly what I was thinking, HAHAHA!

I can't tell if you're serious or not, but that's an awful idea.

Any sort of volunteering thing seems like a really good bet. Just the fact that you're there casts you in a good light, and you also have guaranteed common ground to talk about.

I am part of an organization that provides 1-on-1 tutoring to homeless kids. Literally every single tutor (out of ~100 or so that I know) is female except for 2 older men and 1 extremely flamboyant/probably gay guy. Pretty good odds if I was looking...

a party where everyone knows the host is ok though.
my friend's brother (who i am sorta friends with) threw a birthday party and everyone there was really friendly with each other. trying to talk to a girl at a bar seems impossible. talking to a girl there was very easy (i actually flirted with one girl by accident, but then a friend of mine hooked up with her later after i had to leave and so thats a dead path)

going to a party that has a common ground is great since you can act dumb and be yourself and very few people will care since they all assume everyone else there is awesome.

thats a good point.

My first gf was not an "aspie" in the sense that she never was diagnosed with any autism spectral disorder but she had a LOT of aspie-like personality traits. But unlike all other aspie women I've met, in fact, unlike ANY other women I've ever spoken with at the very least(hundreds by now), she did not show her feelings and was pretty much humorless. Nonetheless, aspie women are very rare In Real Life and the chances that I would recognize one without actually meeting her and getting to know her are slim to none. IDK about men, but when it comes to women you can't judge a book by its cover I have seen women who *seemed* as though they had a lot in common with me but getting to know them I realize they were perfectly normal. Many women who are aspies or have that kind of personality seem to have very quiet body language and don't readily convey interest.

Sounds like your cousin and her ex-hubby weren't compatible with each other for the reason that she sounds like a fairly extroverted person. I know NT women who are introverted and not the bar fly type. Particularly once they're married and have kids. But I'm impressed by how unselfish she was regarding the divorce.





This is SO untrue. Recent studies have shown that women on average are less faithful then men. Some NT men will cheat, but they are not the norm. Such men are usually the "alpha male" type: Very high status, extroverted, and with uncanny social finesse. FTR: Most NT women do not place a high value on fidelity despite the fact that society teaches them to. If a woman is not happy with you or doesn't feel that *spark of passion* in the relationship then your loyalty to her means nothing. Most women want men who excite them, even if said men are unfaithful. (Type I)Bipolar women are by far the most prone to sleep around

At an anime convention.