11 Apr 2012, 7:47 pm
sunshower wrote:
Zinnel wrote:
sunshower wrote:
But does such a thing exist? The only I get, the less sure I become that it even does. Maybe learning to settle is the only way to be in a relationship.
NO WAY IN HELL!! !
Settling is not how a good relationship work and most of the long lasting relationships I've seen there was no settling involved.
You do realize your only 23 right?(going off your pofile)
A friend of mine is 28 and she is in a relationship with somone whom she would have never dated when she was 23. Not only can your interests change but your perception of people and your interests will also change.
So theirs a good chance that people your not interested in right now will become interesting later. Not because your settling but because your view of the world and the people in it could change.
I hope so.I am 23, that's true, got all the time in the world (well, age is irrelevant when it comes to forming partnerships, you can do it at any life stage). I just... don't want to be making the same mistake over and over. It's a very Asperger's thing to do that, very easy to get stuck in a rut without realizing it. I hate time wasting.
It's not just an Asperger's thing, there are plenty of NTs who get stuck without realizing it and plenty of NTs who are worried about the same thing you are.
If this thing is more than just the fact you've yet to meet the right person and is more about an ingrained subconscious issue you have with people who show interest in you. Then likely it will only "fix" it's self over time or through a life changing event ie. like an epiphany.
11 Apr 2012, 8:14 pm
Would you really want some one with a "mutual interest"
Have you seen the bizzarO Jerry (Seinfeld) 
he was totally up for it then it just became annoying and creepy. Also I can't help think it's kinda narcissistic
wanting a partner to be like yourself.
That and I don't thinkl I'd want some one invading my space in reagrds to special intrests
May be it's just me ?.
11 Apr 2012, 10:12 pm
11 Apr 2012, 11:12 pm
