Asian men/White women couplings

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Agreed. Hardly any Asian men look like 20 year old J-pop stars. Maybe when they were kids, but not when they grow up.

This is MY definition now, and not the definition of countless Asian and White women? Well I'll be damned. Believe whatever you want, the numbers don't lie.

Um, no...

Where I live, Asian guy-white girl pairings are at least as common as white guy-asian girl. Asian guys may have less muscle-mass naturally, but they can often cater to women who like guys with a smaller build, the skinny jean look, etc. Besides, due to self-selection among some Asian countries, the only immigrants to the U.S. were supremely wealthy Asian families, so their sons tend to inherit the family wealth and/or brains.

There's nothing better than fancy clothes, skinny jeans, and high-earning power or a big inheritance to snag certain white girls.

Irrelevant. Just because it's common in your area doesn't mean anything in the bigger picture. Anecdotal evidence has no weight in science, but raw data does, and the raw data shows that Asian Male/White Female couples are still substantially less common in both the US and New Zealand than the other way around.

I read through more of this thread and I wanted to comment on the xenophobia thing. Yeah, many Japanese people are xenophobic and it's because they are afraid of losing culture. Many of them have never even MET someone who isn't Japanese. It's a fear of the unknown. Especially now that most of the population is old and will die soon, there is a panic regarding preservation of Japanese culture. However, many of the younger Japanese are not as xenophobic. They are wary of outside culture, but are open minded and receptive to it; some of them embrace it. Obviously... lol. The people I know sit back and really consider what they do and don't like about things before blindly accepting them. We are all in our 30s, though. I don't know how the younger generation is.

Personally, I am not xenophobic, but I do like a more traditional Japanese life because it's what feels natural to me. I was born here in the USA, but I didn't become completely Westernized. In fact, despite trying to "go with the flow" and allow my friends to get me to like things or change my way of thinking, it never really worked and I've felt at odds with American culture for my entire life. I'd like to live in a city with a larger Asian population so that I can feel a little more at home. Maybe someday I'd like to live in Asia, but really, I have too many issues that prevent me from doing so, mainly my health.

What I'm trying to say is that there's a difference between xenophobia and living in a way that I enjoy and that I believe in. Just as I live a more traditional life doesn't mean I think EVERYONE should. People should do what's best for themselves; I'm only concerned with my own happiness, not forcing it on everyone else. My way of thinking is heavy influenced by Confucian thought and that is backwards to some people, especially in the West. That's okay. We can learn a lot from each other. I don't believe in "black and white" and am always thinking of new ideas.

I do prefer Asian men, namely Japanese and Korean since cultures are similar. It means a lot to me to be with a man who has the same values, principles, and daily way of life so we can live together harmoniously. My best relationship was with a Japanese man and we understood each other without having to explain a lot. Being with him was like "coming home" and I really don't know how to explain that. It felt very natural without much friction. Having said that, my longest relationship of 6 years was with an Indian man (from India) and most of our difficulties arose from cultural differences; meaning a fundamental way of seeing the world. I got along really well with his family, though! That's one important point: Culture is not only superficial but is a fundamental and deep rooted paradigm through which we see the world. Eastern and Western paradigm is drastically different.

I will be the first to admit that I am physically most attracted to Asian and Native American men. I don't know if it's because of genetics, because I'm part Caucasian, and am rarely sexually attracted to them. Attraction, biology, all that stuff - still remains a mystery to me. I just go with the flow and try not to worry too much.

I find it interesting that people used to think interracial dating was wrong and now people think someone is wrong if they don't date outside their own race or culture. I'm tired of hearing people complain because I am not very much attracted to Caucasian men. I can't help it! It's how I am.

I know there are good and bad people of all races. I think where people go wrong is forcing their ways onto others.

Oh, one last note: The way in romantic relationships are viewed and carried out in Japan vs. the USA is EXTRAORDINARILY different. This point might be moot if the Asian person was born in the States, but there are exceptions (such as myself).

Sounds pretty arbitrary as a geographic region. It's the opposite in northern China, due to the influx of Russian women, if you want to go there.

How is it in Europe? Probably depends on your definition of "Asian" also. If you count the Mideast and India as "Asian," you might get a completely different picture. Or are we only talking about Northeast Asia? Not South Asia or Central Asia at all, right?

The Asian area technically includes Half of Russia, The Middle East, India, China, Tibet, Sri Lanka, Japan, Thailand, Burma, Nepal, Taiwan, South Korea, North Korea, Vietnam, Cambodia, Laos, and Mongolia. The Indian Ocean is mostly Indonesia.

Yes, exactly. Including the Middle East. I saw tons of white girl-arab guy pairings when I was in France. Tons of white girl-Indian guy pairings in Paris (a little bit) and London.

Here again is the proud story of Winston Wu

http://www.happierabroad.com/WinstonWu.htm

Who considers himself "The Most Atypical and Freethinking Asian You Will Probably Ever Meet."

All in all, a very cool guy. And, he's had more p**** than most of us will ever get.

You guys should stop obsessing. Doing so reinforces your belief that women don't like XYZ race, which will show up in your body language, tonality, behavior, etc. You need to let go of this belief and stop thinking about it.

It's no different from how some Blacks think the world is against them. This is victim mentality. STOP IT. If the purpose of this thread is to seek support, you're seeking support for a very unhealthy viewpoint. STOP IT.

That's not why I created this thread. I wanted to give people like me hope for themselves.

I'm not the kind of person who believes in fate, trust me.