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07 Nov 2012, 8:54 pm

no, blaming society can be the cause of many otherthings. but i think i know where shatbat is going with this.



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07 Nov 2012, 9:03 pm

you always do lol
btw where is wolf


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07 Nov 2012, 9:04 pm

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There is no reason why girls would find me unattractive, but they do. I am not contradicting myself, society is not making any sense.

Let me guess your response will be ''blame society blah blah w/er.''


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Sort of. That's my standard response, but I already knew you wouldn't like it, so if I'd used it I'd have included a disclaimer similar to yours :lol:

If society is not making any sense then tell me; why is there so many people who can date just fine? For starters, for every heterosexual woman out there who is dating someone, there must be a guy who is dating her. And if you look at the guys around here, you will see many married aspies, aspies in a happy relationship, aspies who have been in a happy relationship before, aspies who are very upbeat and positive despite not having had one, and they are all playing in a similar field, under similar rules and having similar issues. Also, everything makes sense once you have enough understanding of it.


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07 Nov 2012, 9:14 pm

Not that I'm trying to take sides, but some people just have really sh***y luck in the dating scene for no reason. Hell, look at my dad. He had a lot of money, was handsome, was a generally great person, and had nothing but terrible luck with the opposite sex. He only married my mom because he wanted to protect me. But this applies to every guy in my family, so maybe the fact that my dad got married isn't the best example. But it won't change the fact that he had to settle.


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07 Nov 2012, 9:14 pm

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wtfid2 wrote:
There is no reason why girls would find me unattractive, but they do. I am not contradicting myself, society is not making any sense.

Let me guess your response will be ''blame society blah blah w/er.''


:lmao:

Sort of. That's my standard response, but I already knew you wouldn't like it, so if I'd used it I'd have included a disclaimer similar to yours :lol:

If society is not making any sense then tell me; why is there so many people who can date just fine? For starters, for every heterosexual woman out there who is dating someone, there must be a guy who is dating her. And if you look at the guys around here, you will see many married aspies, aspies in a happy relationship, aspies who have been in a happy relationship before, aspies who are very upbeat and positive despite not having had one, and they are all playing in a similar field, under similar rules and having similar issues. Also, everything makes sense once you have enough understanding of it.
I have said time and time again...as have other males on this board in m situation, that we don't know why we havent had girlfriends. I am white, tall, college educated, more muscular than avg but not disgustingly big, not a goth weirdo, funny, teasing but not a dick. idk why i havent had a gf. I think it's just luck or im ugly, but people here have said otherwise....also hetero woe can cycle through the same pool of men leaving the outcasts stranded in the river of nothingess.


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07 Nov 2012, 9:17 pm

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Not that I'm trying to take sides, but some people just have really sh***y luck in the dating scene for no reason. Hell, look at my dad. He had a lot of money, was handsome, was a generally great person, and had nothing but terrible luck with the opposite sex. He only married my mom because he wanted to protect me. But this applies to every guy in my family, so maybe the fact that my dad got married isn't the best example. But it won't change the fact that he had to settle.
how did marrying her protect you? were you born before they got married?

this guy is a good example,...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pu9jZJ1q88E&feature=plcp


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07 Nov 2012, 9:23 pm

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I have said time and time again... as have other males on this board in my situation, that we don't know why we haven't had girlfriends. I am white, tall, college educated, more muscular than avg but not disgustingly big, not a goth weirdo, funny, teasing but not a dick. idk why i havent had a gf. I think it's just luck or I'm ugly, but people here have said otherwise... also, hetero women can cycle through the same pool of men leaving the outcasts stranded in the river of nothingness.


I might be onto something. Is there something wrong with being black? Or with being short? Or with not having a college education? Are goths weirdos? I sense a negative attitude there; women are good at smelling it and running the other way. Btw, I know a goth "weirdo" who has more women over him than he can handle :lol:

@DAFA: Yes, some people have sh***y luck. But here it doesn't seem to be the case.


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07 Nov 2012, 9:27 pm

wtfid2 wrote:
you always do lol
btw where is wolf


i wouldnt know. im not his babysitter



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07 Nov 2012, 9:33 pm

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wtfid2 wrote:
I have said time and time again... as have other males on this board in my situation, that we don't know why we haven't had girlfriends. I am white, tall, college educated, more muscular than avg but not disgustingly big, not a goth weirdo, funny, teasing but not a dick. idk why i havent had a gf. I think it's just luck or I'm ugly, but people here have said otherwise... also, hetero women can cycle through the same pool of men leaving the outcasts stranded in the river of nothingness.


I might be onto something. Is there something wrong with being black? Or with being short? Or with not having a college education? Are goths weirdos? I sense a negative attitude there; women are good at smelling it and running the other way. Btw, I know a goth "weirdo" who has more women over him than he can handle :lol:

@DAFA: Yes, some people have sh***y luck. But here it doesn't seem to be the case.
no matter what i say you always have a comeback...being white means I am not a minority..meaning there is nothing to discriminate..i nver said being black is bad, im just saying im an average guy with nothing inherently undesireable. being short is undesireable there is no debating that..I am 6'2so good there. Yes there is something wrong with not having a college education ..and once again you are misinterpreting my point which is that I am a good package. Yes goths are weirdos...and good for him lol. You asked if im undesireable and I gave a description of myself..it was not a negative post. You are reading into it negatively. I am very nice to women irl....too nice.


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07 Nov 2012, 9:33 pm

MXH wrote:
wtfid2 wrote:
you always do lol
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i wouldnt know. im not his babysitter
wouldnt know that by your posts.


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07 Nov 2012, 9:34 pm

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DialAForAwesome wrote:
Not that I'm trying to take sides, but some people just have really sh***y luck in the dating scene for no reason. Hell, look at my dad. He had a lot of money, was handsome, was a generally great person, and had nothing but terrible luck with the opposite sex. He only married my mom because he wanted to protect me. But this applies to every guy in my family, so maybe the fact that my dad got married isn't the best example. But it won't change the fact that he had to settle.
how did marrying her protect you? were you born before they got married?

this guy is a good example,...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pu9jZJ1q88E&feature=plcp


Well, when he met her he was lonely, and about 10 months later I was born. That's about as far as I can shorten it. Little did my dad know that my mom was not only really irresponsible, but a drunkard as well. She's toned down the drunkenness in the past year or so, but she's still pretty bad. She's also highly ungrateful and selfish. The screwed up part is my dad wasn't even really attracted to her, he just had terrible luck with women in the past (he ended up marrying a drug dealer at one point who won a child support case against him. More bad luck.) so when he met her he basically tried to force himself to love her, and eventually did, at least for a little while. Then he found out what a crazy person she is, and ended up marrying her since I was about to be born a few months later. How do I know this? He told me this back in 2006 when I turned 18 years old.


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07 Nov 2012, 9:59 pm

wtfid2 wrote:
No matter what i say you always have a comeback...


I can say the same about you.

wtfid2 wrote:
being white means I am not a minority..meaning there is nothing to discriminate..i nver said being black is bad, im just saying im an average guy with nothing inherently undesireable. being short is undesireable there is no debating that..I am 6'2so good there. Yes there is something wrong with not having a college education ..and once again you are misinterpreting my point which is that I am a good package. Yes goths are weirdos...and good for him lol. You asked if im undesireable and I gave a description of myself..it was not a negative post. You are reading into it negatively. I am very nice to women irl....too nice.


Ok. I still got reservations with that. First, there are a lot of short people, black people, uneducated people, who can find women to date and be happy with them, even when having "undesirable" traits. Most of these are external traits anyway. Also, that idea of women you've got in your head, she's nasty isn't she? I can imagine her thinking "Too black. Too skinny. Too much muscle. He's got a big nose" Emperor's Groove style. It's a good thing real women worth dating (and there a lot of them) aren't anything like that :lol:

Also, take a look at this thread: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt211801.html
I saw a lot of things there, and none of them were white tall etc. You said you're funny and can tease which, if true, would work to your advantage, but otherwise you're just making assumptions.


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08 Nov 2012, 3:28 pm

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wtfid2 wrote:
I have said time and time again... as have other males on this board in my situation, that we don't know why we haven't had girlfriends. I am white, tall, college educated, more muscular than avg but not disgustingly big, not a goth weirdo, funny, teasing but not a dick. idk why i havent had a gf. I think it's just luck or I'm ugly, but people here have said otherwise... also, hetero women can cycle through the same pool of men leaving the outcasts stranded in the river of nothingness.


I might be onto something. Is there something wrong with being black? Or with being short? Or with not having a college education? Are goths weirdos? I sense a negative attitude there; women are good at smelling it and running the other way. Btw, I know a goth "weirdo" who has more women over him than he can handle :lol:

@DAFA: Yes, some people have sh***y luck. But here it doesn't seem to be the case.


agree with the goth weirdo. All the weirdos ive ever met had more women than they could handle. Why? Because they werent boring.



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08 Nov 2012, 3:35 pm

MXH wrote:
Shatbat wrote:
wtfid2 wrote:
I have said time and time again... as have other males on this board in my situation, that we don't know why we haven't had girlfriends. I am white, tall, college educated, more muscular than avg but not disgustingly big, not a goth weirdo, funny, teasing but not a dick. idk why i havent had a gf. I think it's just luck or I'm ugly, but people here have said otherwise... also, hetero women can cycle through the same pool of men leaving the outcasts stranded in the river of nothingness.


I might be onto something. Is there something wrong with being black? Or with being short? Or with not having a college education? Are goths weirdos? I sense a negative attitude there; women are good at smelling it and running the other way. Btw, I know a goth "weirdo" who has more women over him than he can handle :lol:

@DAFA: Yes, some people have sh***y luck. But here it doesn't seem to be the case.


agree with the goth weirdo. All the weirdos ive ever met had more women than they could handle. Why? Because they werent boring.


I'm a goth weirdo with more men and women I can handle 8)


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08 Nov 2012, 5:15 pm

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was it by luck? Mine was. Im one the very rare men that had a attractive (I found her attractive) women come to me and
basically asked me out. And pretty much ask me if I want to have sex with her. So if wasn't for her, Im most likely still be a virgin.
Unless society changes I doubt I ever will have sex ever again. ( I don't make enough money for a good escort.)



Was it luck? Welllllllllllllllllllll......perhaps. I made the bold move a placing an ad in The Stranger personals, but in the now defunct "other seeking" category some 14 years ago. The original intent of that ad was to find a new friend who was involved the local g0th scene. So I met her face to face one evening in a cafe and she took me back to her apartment. We didn't f*ck but the next time I saw her was 2 days later and that's when I had my first kiss(she was the one who initiated it! 8) ) So it was the 4th "date" that we finally hitched the woo. She was as odd as I am: EXTREMELY shy and introverted, didn't make eye contact, and never showed her feelings(the relationship lasted 6 months and I swear I never heard he laugh or raise her voice). Now I wont go into any more details but ended up not f*cking anyone for 8 years after breaking up in the spring of '99. I have never had anything as intimate as what I had with her ever since. I had a long distance relationship that lasted almost a year but I never even got to meet that woman. Funny enough I had somebody tell me she'd sleep with me circa 2001 but I was totally not attracted to her. So it looks like you and I are in the same boat.........Unless I get a tremendous mother lode of luck. I don't see how changes in society would improve your luck: Care to elaborate?



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08 Nov 2012, 5:19 pm

MXH wrote:
Shatbat wrote:
wtfid2 wrote:
I have said time and time again... as have other males on this board in my situation, that we don't know why we haven't had girlfriends. I am white, tall, college educated, more muscular than avg but not disgustingly big, not a goth weirdo, funny, teasing but not a dick. idk why i havent had a gf. I think it's just luck or I'm ugly, but people here have said otherwise... also, hetero women can cycle through the same pool of men leaving the outcasts stranded in the river of nothingness.


I might be onto something. Is there something wrong with being black? Or with being short? Or with not having a college education? Are goths weirdos? I sense a negative attitude there; women are good at smelling it and running the other way. Btw, I know a goth "weirdo" who has more women over him than he can handle :lol:

@DAFA: Yes, some people have sh***y luck. But here it doesn't seem to be the case.


agree with the goth weirdo. All the weirdos ive ever met had more women than they could handle. Why? Because they werent boring.



So I am a goth weirdo and still women don't wanna sleep with me! And FYI I have asked numerous women if I'm boring, and the answer is a resounding NO. Women in general, even goth girls, are intimidated by me. Others are irritated by me. And a few are really terrified of me. The thing about me is that my particular case of Asperger Syndrome is quite severe. That is, if you saw a video of me walking down the street or sitting on a bench, or doing anything that people in public do it's totally obvious that I'm abnormal. In addition to be introverted, I'm also very aggressive and that REALLY seems to scare off women. :?