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this one women, had written only, that she likes to talk about stuff, and everything was filled in with stuff. So I asked, what kind of stuff does she want to talk about, and she writes back, come on dude, is that the best you can come up with? Her profile states she is looking for new friends. (nothing about dating). So I responded saying there wasn't much to go on and that I basically enquired about the stuff, that's all.
to which she replied, saying I shouldn't have anxiety (I was wondering if she knew me somehow) and that I should speak to her like one of the guys. I replied with, well anxiety is part of me and if she wants me to open up then she is just being hypocritical about her true intentions...

ok so no new friend there.

^^^^she sounds like a nightmare, but.... i don't get why you messaged her, unless you really thought she had some sort of sparkling personality hidden under all that "stuff".

those messages are weird. they can be taken as both rude behavior or as trying to help you out in talking to people

online people seem even less real, with just text on a screen. I could be talking to robots for all I KNOW.

hyperlexian, I messaged her with the intention of offering friendship. I posted about my experience here, because I felt that, she would be benefiting about a friendship, but I would be confused later and fall for her so called innocent flirting. I will always be in the wrong with this person while she would like nothing more than just friendship with me. I am just sharing my experience with the guys here, that they should know what they get themselves into when they approach someone like this. I'm not saying she is a bad person, but knowing my self, this is likely what will happen. So I rather avoid the whole thing, and I thought I will be upfront with her and calling her on her intentions and she didn't respond and I left it. I thought I rather share it here, so that if a guy see this happening, they don't end up hating women and blame all women of doing this.

A side note:

When a woman puts on her profile under what she's looking for: "seeking for friends" + "Straight guys only"; then she's lying, she's seeking for a relationship or sex but doesn't want to sound desperate.

That, or she's a mysogynistic homophobe person.

It's no surprise that lots of people (and I'll dare to say, more women) that enjoy creating multiple ads for themselves, each portraying a different personality. On wild party girl, one country girl, one serious student, one steamy sexy, etc, etc. Role-playing. Casting nets into several ponds.

Really... is honesty so dang hard????

^^^ Because it's RARE people role-playing will announce to the world they're lying through their teeth about the personality being portrayed on the screen.

If/when you meet one of these people, they can't keep the charade up forever... a country hayseed can't pretend to be a geek for long, and vice-versa.

This is how I came across her profile, I searched for women in my area, with pictures. She had an avatar that appeared to be photo shopped of a woman's face maybe looking to the side iirc. She was one of few that I clicked on. Why because there aren't that many in my area on okcupid. I only got to read her profile once I was done with the others. I didn't know that her profile stated at the time that she wanted friends only. I read through her profile, and thought, well I could do with some friends. I asked, to which she took 2 weeks to respond to me in some kind of... trying to talk to me like a guy (guys don't write like that), even though she was online anyway. So to me, she was already playing some kind of game with me. I called her on it, she didn't respond. That just shows to me, how in control she wants to be about her game playing. And to what The_Face_of_Boo said, I thought the same at the time.

Well, that's where lots of time & conversation come in handy. It's the only way to see who a person really is - they'll show their true colours at some point. Not even the most skilled sociopath can hide their lies forever!

Not even the best profile can effectively say how a person really is... even on the good side! Pity a number of people I've met didn't want to continue conversation because they required immediate gratification. Their loss. I'm in no rush at all... and I will NOT marry another nutcase!