Are you content with dying alone and unloved???

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Not really, but I think it will happen anyway.

I've never understood the saying "dying alone." Everyone "dies alone," unless you die with a lot of other people in a plane crash or something.

One cannot predict their future but we can get clues on what the future would be like. For instance, I know for a fact i'm never going to be a center in the NBA because i'm way too short. Getting a girlfriend/boyfriend is not impossible even if your brains tricks you into saying otherwise and who knows, you might find one before too long.

However it is a well known fact that time does add up and if you do nothing to try to interact with women, then life will pass you by. If you see a girl you like, you have to break out of your shell and go talk to her. You're scared because you make her a big deal and you're scared of getting rejected. That's why it's best to talk to a girl you find interesting ASAP because the longer you wait, your obsession with her grows and it will make it that much harder to talk to her and not to mention you won't be able to deal with being rejected as well. Sure if you never talk to girls, a few girls may try to hit on you but this is uncommon and there's no guarantees you would be attracted to this girl.

Trust me it's better to just get it over with and talk to her then to not do anything and obsess over her for weeks. (trust me I know) Because if you ask for her number and she says yes, congratulations and you will be happy you talked to her. If she says no, at least you tried and sure you may be sad for a couple of days but it sure beats never attempting to talk to her and obsessing over her for weeks, or even months. Plus you will feel good about yourself after you have done it because you took a risk. Just walk up and talk to her and watch for signs of interests and then ask for her number or email address.

Also don't get too emotionally attached to just one girl you met where you're like I have to have this girl or else my life would be empty. You need to have options.

It seems like your really not okay with it lol.

When I die I want it to be for a reason. I want to go out with a bang.

I'm afraid this is my fate. I'd quite like someone to spend the rest of my life with.

I had a crush on this girl at school when I was 6.
For a few years I would have this fantasy of her crying as she looked down on me lying in my grave.

Looks like my fantasy will come true, (except for the bit about there being a girl there crying.)

I don't care. I'll be dead. I won't have any regrets because I will not be conscious.

Just been looking though some photos albums. I have a lot of good memories in my life so far and there will be more good memories to make. I will think of those things on my death bed.

I've told myself that I will die alone because I've been alone for most of my life, but I'd rather not end up that way. I don't enjoy being alone & i'm trying to change it. But, at the same time, I'd prefer it if my passing didn't grieve anyone. Tupac said he didn't want anyone to mourn him when died because he was never happy here. I could say the same.

Thanks to a career that allowed me unique opportunities for meeting people gradually, over the phone, instead of being thrown into social interaction over my head, I've had multiple relationships in my life, but for the past six years have lived in near total isolation. I thought I knew what loneliness was, from years of youthful pining after mush and romance. I had no idea what a physical ache it could become, to be so far removed from all human contact.

I've loved passionately, deeply, and cynically played the field, but I have never, ever been able to make any kind of relationship stable and long-lasting. Even those that should have worked eventually soured and ultimately became a living nightmare. Sometimes I was the problem, sometimes the other person became unbearable, sometimes we just had to agree there was nothing we could agree on.

Its as though the Holodeck is stacked against me and the program of my Matrix simply does not allow for fulfillment and happiness. There seems to be no workable scenario in which I am allowed to truly connect with another human being. To ask if I am content with that reality seems oxymoronic. It is a state of discontent. No, I am not okay with it, but I don't seem to be capable of sustaining any other condition, at least not for more than brief periods, always followed by a predictable and inevitable crash.

At this point in life, dying holds no fear for me, I would welcome ringing the curtain on this pathetic tragedy. Romance would be wonderful, but I'm no longer foolish enough to waste hope on that. I'm far more panicked, terrified and overwhelmed at the idea of navigating the remaining years alone, with virtually no Executive Function. Within the next few short years, I will lose my parents, the only people I could always turn to when I was not up to the task of being a normal grown-up. I don't know how to repair my own vehicle when it breaks down, I cannot negotiate a deal without being hoodwinked and cheated, I am overwhelmed by government paperwork and legalistic mumbo-jumbo, incapable of defending my own interests against The System and can barely manage money well enough to pay rent, monthly utility bills and grocery shop.

What I need is a trustworthy partner to help me keep from being run over by the train of life. Even then, the likelihood of both passing simultaneously, sweetly holding hands is irrationally improbable, meaning one would be left to finish up alone. I couldn't, in good conscience, ask another person to risk that inevitable abandonment and loss. I don't know how normal humans manage, I really don't.

If I'm dead, then I'm dead. And no regrets. I'm ready to leave and move on if time comes, and if there are no 'chances'. XD
Loved or unloved. With someone or alone. With dreams fulfilled or not. With a meaningful or meaningless cause.
Simply time doesn't care, and fate is a funny thing.

If anything, I would rather die sooner than to live long enough to become bedridden or incapable for the rest of my days.

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I'm not content about it by any means, but there doesn't seem like any realistic way to avoid it.

Do I want that to happen to me? Hell no. Looking at my life, based on everything, it is the most probable outcome.

I will be 30 very soon, no girlfriend ever, no female friend in over a decade, virgin, a very caring and helpful person, just not looked at as a "normal" human. Only have acquaintances, nobody to truly count on as a friend.

There will be a time when I will figure I am too old and will never even consider love again. When I can't go places or have sex or walk, I will just keep to myself until I become fertilizer.

I don't look for love now due to a few things that I wrote above, and the fact that I still live at home at my age, and from what I have always seen, women don't like that. I have had no problem affording an apartment for years, but I own a business and have a lot of big equipment and hobbies that the only way to move is into a house that I cannot afford. Another reason I think I haven't moved is that I hate being alone and it is nice to live where people don't mind that you are weird.

If I could find that one shy girl, or one that accepts me and truely loves me for who I am, I would be complete. I don't want my life to always be alone. It scares me how fast life is flying by. Some days I physically ache from loneliness. Besides family, I haven't even had a hug, or been kissed in 9 or 10 years. It really kills your spirit some days. I wish it upon nobody.

How does it matter whether you’re content with something you have no choice about?

What actually troubles me is that I can’t be completely sure I have no choice, and have no idea how to find out and try to make use of any remote, stray chance I might still have. But, realistically, failure is the only outcome it’d be sensible to bet on.

No. Even if I'm still single, I'm still loved by a lot of people in my life. I doubt I'll remain single forever, though. Eventually I'll meet the right person and have a proper relationship.

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