Quick question about first date

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^ They're in their 30s for god's sake.

I've asked a local female friend, who's soially wise, about this once and she said it's not normal for a genuinely interested girl to be like this and I shouldn't waste my time with such people.

^ fair enough

I wonder how many guys are in it for the free meals, tea/coffee they get.

well you know what they say when you assume something...

you make an ass out of u and me

I never understood this concept.
I'd rather eat ramen noodle by myself than have to sit with someone you aren't really interested in, just to get a free meal.
I'm too nervous to eat anything on a date anyway, and I feel like an ass if I only order a salad or a soup. So I avoid dinner date all together until I'm comfortable with the person.



You need to text her on Wednesday to confirm! Or say that you are looking forward to seeing her. And after the date, text her the next day too.
Remember that next time!

Last edited by Yuzu on 08 Nov 2013, 12:31 am, edited 1 time in total.

She sounds like she knows what she's talking about.

It's also possible that a lot of these women (especially the over 30s) may not actually like behaving this way, but do so because it's culturally expected of them. As I'm sure you are aware, social/cultural pressures are universally overwelming.

Have you made it clear to these girls on your dates that you find "dating games" stupid and tedious? A truly compatible woman would feel the same way and likely be relieved by your cander. She'd be looking for a partner who wouldn't put extra social pressure on her.

Not sure that would work unless you know the person already well enough to trust they are not bullshitting. Otherwise saying 'I hate dating games' translates into 'I can't be bothered to be courteous and considerate'.

I did face one of them about why she never initates with me and she didn't take it well.

She mumbled excuses.

You're making me sound like Raj from Big Bang Theory.
I would have a drink WITH the date but not before they arrive.
But I have to drive to get to anywhere here so as long as I'm driving I'm not going to have a drink. So I don't have a choice but to learn to relax through practice somehow.

If you are the female Raj and Logical Molly is the female Sheldon, we have positions of female Leonard and female Howard to fill.

I reckon Boo is definitely the male Bernadette, don't you?

Touch my boobs.

This joke all came about because I got geeky when explaining the difference between online profiling and monitoring, and explaining that neither of the two necessarily involved stalking. I don't remember Sheldon's character ever doing that, so I don't understand why Shau called me a female Sheldon.

Maybe it's just due to the fact that Sheldon is notorious for correcting people on their choice of words, and explaining to them that they should have used a different word instead, and telling them what said words all mean, when nobody else actually cares. If so, then I am the female Sheldon.

Ways in which I resemble Sheldon:

- I have my spot on the sofa (DON'T SIT THERE)
- I like theoretical physics (but I am so much better than he is. He has no hope of ever winning the Nobel prize).
- I annoy people by telling them trivia they don't want to hear (see above).
- I can't drive a car.


Ways in which I do not resemble Sheldon:

- I am not a touch-phobic. In fact, I am at the opposite end of the spectrum. I am hypersensual. Without going into too much detail, in layman's terms, that means I love physical touch.
- I'm not obnoxiously rude. At least, I hope not.
- I am not a man.

Can't think of any more, but anyway. If you want to call me the female Sheldon, you can. It doesn't really bother me. I will try to take it as a compliment.

Edit: anyway, none of this is relevant to the OP's first date texting dilemma.

Oops. Sorry. Back on topic. Quick!

Last edited by LogicalMolly on 07 Nov 2013, 5:03 pm, edited 1 time in total.

*MEGA HUGS for the lady Sheldon, aka Logical Molly aka Mogical Lolly*

If I've said it, it's definitely a compliment. Let's hear some gluon jokes!


This is most definitely relevant - she can learn about all the interesting things she could be talking about on her dates.

Er, unless she's dating geeks, the men she's dating will not want to hear about the sort of things I have to say!

Maybe I should date science geeks not art/literature geeks. I like logical people.

noone should date art/literature geeks...unless they are into self punishment, obviously