She is asking for it

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I have seen many women dressed far more 'provocatively' having coffee or going about their day. I think if she was sitting their looking bored I would assume she was bored and drinking a coffee.
I am kinda jealous that it is socially acceptable ( to a degree ) for women to get all dressed up and muck around with make up n stuff. Whenever I see a women walking by wearing dramatic make up and interestingly dressed I always feel like I have just walked by an opera.

Most people don't normally dress like that, the main reason I see anyone dress that way is for business (studies show that guys are more speedy when attractive women are present).

I did go through a skinny jeans phase myself. I really didn't think I had much going for me other than looks, so trendy clothing was meant to maximize that feature. Did get hit on by a lot of guys. Did not want it from any of them, just some value as a human being.

It never occurred to me that someone would start a thread asking whether a person in a photo was asking to be raped, because no one would ever ask for that and the question would make no sense. I assumed it meant asking for attention, despite the obvious association of the phrase with rape. I know that there are people who believe that nonsense about wanting rape, but I just never expect to encounter them no matter how often I actually encounter them. I have to keep up some illusions, or I'd never leave the house.

If someone dresses like that, I wouldn't want to make her feel uncomfortable. In part because no one deserves to be made to feel uncomfortable about harmless actions like how they dress, and in part because I'd have a happier life if more people dressed that attractively. I might have a harder time suppressing any overt reaction to the way the motorcycle guy is dressed, but he also doesn't deserve to be made to feel uncomfortable.

Rape culture is a thing, but you can't ask aspies a vague question and then characterize their answers as being in response to a specific question. It doesn't make sense to do that to anyone, but especially aspies. Wanting to make a question or a response be about your hot-button issue is normal, but not really rational.

And now I've noticed he's wearing heels.

Men are literally humans, and just like every human, have the will to decide if they want their actual behavior be controlled by their instincts or their intellect.

Its nothing else like cake. The instinct says "Eat the cake." but our finally behavior towards the cake, depends on, if we decide that we want to give in to our instincts, or not. Its not about being a man or a woman, but simply about what desicions we do, and if we think an certain behavior of ourselves is tolerable or not.

Thoughts are fast and free, but the external behavior you finally show, ais in control of yourself. And if that behavior is sh***y, then its sh***y, and sh***y behavior is not literally for anyone.

I didn't mean you specifically. How about: If people are asked a vague question, then it doesn't make sense for anyone to characterize their answers as being in response to a specific question? Does that make more sense?

When you said that you have absolutely no idea what I was talking about did you mean that you didn't understand any of the rest of what I said? Also, when you say there's no need for hostility, did you mean to suggest that my comment contained any hostility?

LOL, I suppose this is an aspie board, but in all fairness, if we were capable of disambiguate communication, we wouldn't be here in the first place.

She is asking to look sexy. Mmmmhhmmmm. And what's wrong with a little hair? I came with lots, and extra fluid in my scrotum.

For some reason I was thinking about this thread this morning, and it occurred to me that the interpretation of someone's intent for desiring sexual attention (or not) is generally not based strictly on how they dress. There's a lot of body language and facial expression involved, too (UH-OH!).

What makes the girl in the first photo look provocative in that photo is not her clothing, it's how she's wearing it. The fact that she is exposing the tops of her stockings and even part of her a$$, together with the pouty "come-hither" look on her face is what leaves me with the impression that she is VERY interested in receiving sexual attention.

For example, if she were wearing that outfit walking down the street, eyes forward, not exaggeratedly swinging her hips, I would NOT think she was looking for sexual attention. Same as if she was sitting in a cafe reading a book without her unmentionables showing.

Does anyone else see the male picture as a satirical reference to the slew of sexy women in advertising? After seeing issues of Hot Rod and various motorcycle magazines, I do and find it worth a chuckle.