The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
lips type (Dry vs wet) is a very very minor physical trait, someone being that picky about it must be extraordinarily and abnormally shallow, not just within the normal level of shallowness, in a lot of other physical traits/areas - this is a pure logical thinking.
Boo, you have clearly misunderstood. Perhaps this is due to a language barrier. I appreciate that English is not your native language (and I'd just like to take this opportunity to compliment you on how well you write it) so perhaps you don't understand what I mean by "dry" lips.
I don't mean dry in the sense of "not wet." I mean dry in the sense of "not moisturised."
Having dry lips is a VERY, VERY big dealbreaker for me indeed. The reason is that I love kissing.
Kissing is extremely important in any relationship. It's not a "minor" thing at all.
Also, it's not about lip "type," in the sense of the type of lips you were born with. Rather, it's about the
condition of the lips. You can't help the lips you were born with, but you can do something about the condition of your skin.
I find it extremely unpleasant to be kissing someone who has A. bad breath or B. cracked skin on their lips. Therefore, I am not attracted to people who do not brush their teeth or take proper care of their lips, because I know that being kissed by them would not feel nice.
I have been kissed by someone with cracked lips before, and, believe me, it feels absolutely horrible. It basically feels like some dry scales are spiking into your own soft lip tissue and scratching you.
My dislike of being kissed by someone with dry lips does not make me "shallow." It just means that I have certain minimum standards when it comes to personal grooming in the opposite sex.
Let's put it this way: I would not want to have sex with a man who has cracked skin all over his penis. Equally well, I would not want to kiss a man who has cracked skin all over his lips. It both looks and feels disgusting.
Healthy lips and healthy penis are both major dealbreakers that are not "minor" things at all, because kissing and sex are both major parts of a relationship and in order to enjoy them, the other person's body has to be healthy and well looked-after, so that it feels nice when it makes contact with yours.
Perhaps in your country and culture, taking care of the lips to ensure they look and feel kissable is not seen as a major priority. Or perhaps it's only something that women do, and a man using lip balm would be seen as unmanly. Here, in my country, it isn't like that. More and more men are using lip balms and facial moisturisers. Men who have nasty flaky lips are less likely to get kissed. There are more and more ladies who tend to prefer men who are well-groomed. There's even a word for those kind of men: metrosexual.
I like metrosexual men. That doesn't make me "shallow" or "picky." It just means I like a man who keeps himself clean and well-groomed. I don't think that's really too much to ask!
I suspect how representative you are of the typical Western woman because from what I've encountered, they aren't really fond of metrosexuals, yes they like muscles and fit bodies, but not those who use cosmetics, take care too much of eyebrows, hair and the likes.
19 Mar 2014, 11:46 am
