Why DO males take the responsibility for initiating?

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I've wondered that for years but I have a pretty legit answer for you on this topic.
Eventhough both men and women have unique genetic and inherit programming, the main cause of today's standards and pressure on men to initiate on many things such as relationships, dating, and commitment, is because of society. Society has molded people into believing that it is acceptable and unacceptable to be certain ways for the approval of the opposite sex. Furthermore, part of the script that society has put on men also includes the fear put on men to change this. This script has been created in the early days when women where mistreated. Women eventually took a stance against that and retaliated for equal rights. Women eventually had more rights and regained power but it unfortunately swung somewhat to the other extreme and stayed that way for several decades now.

I think what really bugs you about this is the fact that you noticing the deeper depth of this issue. You are more aware of things, probably from struggles and a different outlook due to be ASD. Men in truth are very emotional beings and they are forced to suppress these emotions in order be accepted as a "man". The fear of changing this is so ingrained that men judge other men for acting or not acting this way. This causes women to think men are emotionally shallow and don't care when at the same time they are told that being emotional is not attractive. This suppression forces power away from men under the name of them believing they have the power due to initiating things when really the power is brought to women to be the chooser. This creates a sense of un-attainability to women and the opposite in the women's view. Men are accused as being wrong or shallow for being attracted to women's physique often caused by the perspective of un-attainability. As a result women think men are being shallow when in truth women want the same thing as men do. But unfortunately this off-kilter makes certain things that men try to do from the heart un-flattering. Men are looked as shallow and unable to emotionally when in truth they are desiring the opposite. I think it's a real problem.

Fortunately, there are actually groups out there that are trying to correct this. Some of these groups are "Masculinest", (I not a big fan of this group though and feel they are too aggressive and somewhat out of line). In truth men are very emotional and we are taught to suppress our emotions in order to "be a man." What I find interesting is that I actually know some women who think this social pressure they put on men is ridiculous as well! This can however be changed by speaking out. Write a blog or joins some groups that are trying to get the word out on this. I feel like if this is corrected there will be a more balance in regards to male/female and bring more peace into the word which could help ease other issue like the economy and political corruption.

Most of the time I don't even bother initiating conversations, unless she smiles at me. I don't understand how PUAs are capable of approaching every girl they see, and get them to have sex with them.

@infilove. Yes Ive heard of masculinism . I disagree that men should express open emotion to women. A major point of theirs and personal experience is that its a quick turn off for many women. So both men and women pursuing relationships should be reminded of things like that. Some women may think theyre okay with it but ive observed they quickly remember otherwise to their displeasure