If you are single are you happy being that way?

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Reading all of your responses, I feel more alone, if that's possible. I can't even make friends; people in "real life" are utterly indifferent to me, it seems. My co-workers regularly meet up for drinks; I've never once been invited, despite the fact that our interactions at work are pleasant, even jovial at times. It's like I don't exist, and it's pretty much always been like this. I envy you lot and your circles of mates...I can't even fathom such a life.

I wouldn't know where to go to meet smart, open-minded guys, either. I mean...there's no way in hell I'd bother with the horrid lowest-common-denominator "meat market" bars around here (NT paradises = my hell), and it's not like I can hike to NYU or MIT and hang out in their student unions... Really at a loss.

Yes, I am single, but I'm strange. Half of the time I desire company, and the other half of the time, l prefer to be alone. Do I want a girlfriend? I think that would complicate things, and I'm probably too much of a p**** to handle that. I really don't know anything about relationships, except I have heard nothing but terrible things about them. Also, I have major trust issues; so I don't think I could handle it.

Not entirely, but I think it's better than the alternative.

I'm single. I have yet to get laid, but I'm getting there.

I am single and i would say i am happy with what i got now but i do get that tinge of loneliness once in a while.

I consider it a blessing and a curse for all the right reasons. sure i have had my bad relationships but i take them as learning experiences in order to find Mrs. right and become a better person.

But i don't wanna stay single forever, i would go mad! i constantly dream of having a long term relationship with that special someone. i have a alot of love to give but its not something to misused!

I'm single and so much happy about that...I want a kid someday..but I don't want a husband..

I love this quote:

“I never married because there was no need. I have three pets at home which answer the same purpose as a husband. I have a dog which growls every morning, a parrot which swears all afternoon, and a cat that comes home late at night.”

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“A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband.”

I find the lack of romance in my life to be quite tolerable these days. I still have very close friends and can pursue my interests, so there is nothing to be terribly upset over. A relationship would be nice, but I'm not going to break down sobbing because I've never been in one yet. That might change if I graduate from college without ever having gained any relationship experience at all, but for now and for the most part I feel that I am happy.

Single, loving it, and NOT "looking."

I'm much too independent of a person to have a partner. I was in a long-term relationship once, and while I enjoyed the company offered, I felt that I needed lots of time by myself. My long term goals and life ahead of me also don't involve a partner or family...I feel that I won't have the time or energy to have such demands in my life. Plus, I have a few close friends for companionship and a few friends with benefits for sex. That's all I need.

Many a guy has relentlessly pursued me, but I'm sticking to my values. I don't understand why most guys assume that just because I'm single that I'm "searching", or that I go by conventional standards of dating/romance. Both are false.

I've done a lot of thinking about this over the past month or so. I've come to the conclusion that I don't do conventional relationships well at all. In fact, I totally suck at it. I tried hard but I've failed in a marriage and I have ended up breaking every conventional relationship I've been in. The only ones that have worked for me are the long distance ones (but they dumped me, for various reasons) Where I can go to his world for a visit, he can come to mine. I think a lot of it is that the people I've been involved in on a daily basis didn't really get my quirks. And raising kids in the midst of it complicates things. The long distance relationships were by far the best ones.

For right now,I'm staying single to do more thinking. There's very few I would let in. One day, I could see myself possibly living with someone when my kids are a lot older. I'd be open to it if it felt right. In the future, I'd like to have another long distance relationship. Maybe FWB. Who knows. I like companionship, I like having someone in my corner, I like being in love. But I need some space so I don't get overwhelmed.

I am single and I do much better in a relationship. I would like to settle down soon.

I'm single and it ranges from lonely to bad to Personal Hell. I much prefer the company and the opportunity to wrap my arms around the one I love.

I was totally single until I was 26 years old. I was not at all interested in being in a realtionship with a male, did not want to get married or have children and could not even imagen doing any of thse things. I was so busy studying, working and traveling that I felt I had no use for any of these things. I had other plans for my life! Of course as all activities that kept me occupied and happy finished or lost their lustre and my friends paired off I began to feel stirrings of wanting something similar to what they all had. However I had major trust issues, didn't feel particualrly attracted to males and was unable to trust my feelings as far as knowing if I liked someone or not.

At 26 I met my husband and although he worshipped the ground I walked on, the idea of being with someone for the rest of my life was not an easy one to get used to. I actually went into counselling for the first time in my life as my life plan and expectations for life had changed so dramatically it sent me into depression. Anyway we have been married for 12 years and together for 17 we have 2 ASDian boys. We are all as happy as clams together

You know I am going to say there are just as many good things to being single as there are to being married or partnered and it's true.... for me anyway. The thing that I have found with most people (single or not) is that they are constantly looking for a way..... any way of not feeling alone. But I have thought about this for a very long time while I was single and while I was in a relationship and here's the bad news folks.

WE ARE ALL ALONE!! !! !! We come into this world alone and we go out the same. Between these 2 events and from time to time we may get the impression that we are a part of another person, but this is all an illusion that is destined to disappear in the blink of any eye. Even the greatest connection I have ever and will ever have, my children is only an illusion. As much as they feel a part of me and I of them, as much as I love them, worry about them, work hard for them, it too will all disappear in the blink of an eye...... and who is left standing there alone?????? More to the point who isn't????? Don't get me wrong I believe whole hartedly that this is the way it should be and it will be.........so why stress. Enjoy your life in what ever form it comes. If you are alone or partnered or somewhere in between, live in the moment don't put anything off for a time when things will be different because they just may never be. What is that expression "Life is what happens to you while you are busy makng other plans"

cheery bye now

I'm not happy about it persay, but I'm not bothered by being single. Much.