Why do Women do this on Dating Sites?

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It's a sausage stuffer, as if sausage making needed more opportunities for dick jokes...

I actually really am tempted to brag about my sausage on dating sites, I think it's *just* close enough to the stupid/clever line to work, plus I do make damn good sausage.

Because they don't care! Just give up and move on!

Well, as an update I messaged her as well as three other women who seemed a great match (and were 90%+ to boot). Only the girl I referenced earlier responded and told me some of the things guys have said. Lets just say I was horrified. They were not only creepy, but bordering on criminal as well! I sent a nice response saying I would like to get to know her after that and so far.... silence. Probably best that way because I got some Cluster B "vibes" from her profile and I don't need another nightmare relationship like that! Par for the course on OKCupid sadly that there seems to be nobody I can connect with. I also messaged a few girls prior and the only response I got was a one sentence "response". Seems the site is still a waste of time! I would love to know where the decent women hang out besides eHarmony?

Well, it's not that I am opposed to international travel (well places like North Korea don't interest me!), but I am not a backpacker and if they are a "standard" tourist, that means they are either a) lying or b) up to their eyeballs in debt. Either way I am not interested. Not to mention I would like a family and I doubt someone like that is even close to settling down.
Personally, now that I finally have a passport, New York City, Las Vegas and Orlando are the only three places I am interested in seeing personally since I have seen almost all of Canada and am embarking on a major trip to Alberta and BC in two weeks. Again, I make about $40,000 and even I needed help from family to help pay for my last two trips so the numbers do not add up.

There's also that thing that it's hard to explore a new place with a partner if they have already been there. I have no issue if they have been places (like the last woman I dated) but her profile was NOT a tourist brochure. There's a difference between being interested in travel (most people are) than to be utterly obsessed Aspie-style and living just to travel.


A little but it was more me being too eager to up my count before I was emotionally ready. It was an error in judgement and I won't do it again. Still, in that case she put in some token resistance but she was quite eager to say the least! I'm really not interested in sleeping with anyone I don't see as potential Wife material and I should have stuck to those guns.

About 10% of the users I message respond by blocking me. I know because I'm a software engineer and I found a way to tell without sending follow up messages (something I never do, since I know its pointless).

Their judgement of me is obviously that I'm some kind of creepy loser, or just plain ugly.

^ Sometimes women get nasty second messages if they didn't reply so they've learned to block people they're not interested in.

Don't get so emotionally invested in online dating. You're gonna make yourself crazy.

Interesting. What do you mean by "token resistance"? I think that implies that not only did you initiate it, but you persisted when she initially resisted! How could you tell the resistance was "token" and persisting is the right thing to do, rather than backing off?

You WRITE INTRODUCTORY EMAILS TO WOMEN ON A DATING WEBSITE BY YELLING THEM YOU ARE A NICE GUY WHO DOESNT TAKE DICK PICS.

That is your problem.

Really.

It's gross, creepy, skeezy and BEYOND inappropriate.

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That seems a bit harsh, the guy is just trying to distance himself from people who really are behaving poorly, albeit clumsily, which shouldn't be surprising given that this is a support site for people with a communications disability.

What point am I missing exactly? also depends on your definition of a decent guy....there very well could be decent guys that would see that and still be interested, they might like that she's in your face blunt about it. How does what her profile says indicate she'd be emotionally unavialible (whatever that even means, honestly I am not entirely clear on that) or that she is too attached to her girlfriends, how do you even know she has any? For all you know she might have mostly guy friends not that you'd like that any better.

Though hypothetically if you made a rant like that you might get responses from people who might see where you are coming from and agree on some points....lol much of my description thing is a rant about me hating society and i still get hit up, sometimes vage stuff that sounds more like someone after a one night stand than any kind of say friendship or actual relationship I don't respond to those but if someone actually says something and it appeals to me than usually I respond. I don't really initially messege people, but in general initiating interaction at all is hard for me. Based on plenty of threads here though I am certainly not what most see as the ideal female to date so what do I know....lol.

You're the one yelling, and it seems you lack reading comprehension skills too, idiot.

I went on a messaging blitz and contacted 10 women with nice, intelligent messages? How many responses? 1. I also had one contact me but seems to have gone silent. Oh well, I am going on a mini-roadtrip with some real life singles this weekend so we will see how that goes.

I wasn't referring to this person, I was referring to women on dating sites in general. Pretty much all but a couple of the women I dated were like that, although I doubt it is intentional or malicious. Basically, they do not make dating a priority and make it difficult to get to know them. I have a busy life too, but I damn well make time for dating!


It's hard to describe but basically she kept asking about my bed, quickly looking in the direction and when I went to pull at her shirt she made the weakest attempt to stop me possible. No doubt she was conditioned to think and act that way like most women, as is they are not allowed to enjoy sex.

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She was blunt and to the point. Sometimes women have to be that way to get her point across. I have a hunch that she might have been an aspie and us aspies usually tell it like it is.

Load of women ASKED me for nudes / dick pics (usually after a naughty talk on voice).

That's very possible. I remember I suspected my ex had classic Autism and even suggested it to her parents at one point but she is a textbook Borderline. Unfortunately, she stopped writing so I will never know. The only other girl to contact me back sounds like a classic Aspie. She mentions about getting along better with the guys, is quite to the point and works in IT. Guess I will find out very soon! One thing is for sure she is quite easy to read at this point in the game.

Traditional definitions of 'isms' include the social power to enforce one's biases, meaning that an 'ism' purported to be against the dominant group or class is not possible without some other circumstances (ownership of housing that the normally dominant person rents, status as an employer, etc) that puts the normally-dominant person under another's power. In other words, a black guy shouting about 'black power' isn't being racist unless he's shouting it to his white underling at work, or from some other, similar place of power.

IN this case, regardless of whether or not anyone here thinks I have any power to enforce any kind of bias, it's a pretty damn well documented fact that men in general behave as though they have a right to female attention. Just walking down the street in normal clothing, women are routinely harassed by men seeking their attention and then insulted or even attacked if they do not provide it.