Does anyone here feel ugly?

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I don't think I'm ugly per se, but my major stim is picking at every little thing on me (pimples, blemishes, scabs, etc), and if it happens to be on my face that can look pretty ugly. Right now I'm sort of happy because some places I had been picking at on my chin for two months finally healed (I never stopped scratching at them, but somehow they went away anyway).

I'm pretty satisfied with the way I look, though. One thing I don't like about it is that any slightly horny, single guy will start hitting on me if I'm around him for more than a few minutes. I really hate being hit on.

that does sound annoying... but is it really better than no-one hitting on you at all?

i think you look pretty in your avatar

agreed.

I think I was handsome when I worked out and dieted, now the pugginess has taken over. But I've seen beautiful girls call themelves ugly, so I really don't get it. And in the end, all that matters is what the babies look like anyway.

Babies? What matters their looks? I want to avoid spawning anyway. But if they have to happen, for some reason, let them deal with their own demons.

I have the same problem.

Also, I chew my fingernails until I can't reach them anymore... or it starts hurting... whatever comes first.

Not really, but I wouldn't say I'm a looker either.

my nose points off to the left....

Despite the fact that I've frequently been told I'm cute/good-looking/handsome/etc by people who weren't related to me (and thus don't have to feel obliged to say such things), there was a time when I actively loathed looking in the mirror.

Fortunately, I have got past that stage and actually can say without egotism or vanity that I am a pretty good-looking guy.

Yes I am my avatar, but it's been photoshopped and you can only see my head.

im sure you would be attractive not matter how big you are.... i saw a girl the other day who was 'big' but for some reason i found her immensely attractive... i guess we have no control who we find attractive.

Yeah I see what ur saying brother but it more down to your frame of mind and less to do with looks. I think the AS low facial muscle tone doesnt help makes one look miserable all the time. I remember lots of comments from people in the past like 'you never smile!' bla bla

I'm alright looking and depends on the day of the week whether I get attention from women: one day plenty the other they won't look me in the eyes. When I look good, I look alright, when I bad I look like absolute s**t. Its real tiring. Plenty of missed opportunities (Dooh) with cute girls cause I think about it too much and..she's gone!

When you are in a relationship you have a confidence and glow that girls find attractive. You can duplicate this by getting a bit on the side.

You see fairly plain dudes with nice looking women because they excite women, entertain them and have them always coming back for more. It just confirms women want to feel special. Looks are less important to them.

So whether ur 'ugly' or not doesnt bear scrutiny. Hone your comedy skills and make those beautiful girls laugh!!

Hey squatterandtheant, i see what your saying... i do that all the time, i make them laugh, they love to be friends with me, im always there for them when they need it... but at the end of the day they always end up on another guys arm... usually one that treats them horrible... only to have them come back for somone to talk to...

heh... if i wasnt so upbeat i'd be cynical

I used to feel that I was ugly when I was in my teens, but now I am indifferent. I neither view myself as ugly or attractive. I get told I am attractive a lot, but many of these comments are by men who just want a quick shag from me and that's it. So I don't tend to pay attention to them as they are merely buttering me up just for one thing (which I never give them lol).

One day you will end up with someone, trust me. Besides, if that's you in the avatar, you're not that bad looking.

Some women do tend to initially date 'good looking' blokes. I have done this in the past and had one that was an arse and treated me badly (he was boring anyway, so obsessed with himself). Now I tend to go for average looking or cute blokes (my current fella is cute) as they tend to be the genuinely nice guys with good hearts and personalities. I rarely find someone ugly. I may be stereotyping so called 'good looking' men as boring bastards but this way I am finding real men. Plus, because of the personalities of 'average' or 'cute' men, they become far more attractive than the so called 'good looking' male by the day if you are in a relationship with one, I should know. I think my boyfriend is gorgeous and no one else is good enough for me. We work well together as we understand each other the vast majority of the time and try to the rest of the time. He loves my AS traits, finds some of them funny. I love the way he finds something to laugh at every day despite the pain he goes through on a daily basis (he has Crohn's disease and his back is very badly damaged, leaving him in constant pain and cannot work as a result) and the fact that he rarely lets his incapacities get to him. I admire this in him and so his other many wonderful personality traits are allowed to shine through because of his resilience and strength as a person.

As you may have gathered, looks mean nothing to me. But I do find my boyfriend very attractive, moreso now than when I met him.

Thank you fiz,

i guess you are right, its not that i havent had offers, but - like yourself - they are just of a one night sexual nature... not what i go for im afraid, so ive never taken them up on it.

so i should just carry on being a decent caring guy then?