SilverStar wrote:
OliveOilMom wrote:
Also, I don't think it's shallow to want to be with a man who has a job and has a job that supports him even if it wouldn't support two people. I wouldn't think it was shallow if a man wanted that in a woman either, but man guys are fine with women being housewives, although most of us don't want to do that - I guess I'm not mainstream that way.
Bottom line, most women won't turn you down just because you aren't loaded nor will they dump you if you can't take them out to nice places every week. And, the person who does the asking also does the paying.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a financially responsible partner. I wouldn't date a woman that didn't work, or at least, wasn't making a genuwine effort to find a job. Their salary doesn't matter to me.
There are a lot of "traditional" couples out there that do the whole provider/housewife thing, but that wouldn't work for me, unless it was only temporary (to have, or raise a child, etc.). I think the problem is, many women have jobs and support themselves these days, but they are still looking for the traditional qualities (provider), in a man...this is where things get dicey.
Two people together deciding that one will work while the other will "housewife" is a perfectly valid choice. I couldn't, wouldn't, stay home because I'd go batsh!t crazy without grownups to talk to and an externally imposed schedule but, hey, diff'ent strokes for different folks.
I earn a good living and support myself and my dashund. I don't expect the guys I date to be rich or to cater to my every whim but I do expect them to be independent, self-supporting and financially responsible (ie pay bills on time, live within means, etc).
If the whole provider/housewife thing works for both people, and neither feels cheated, then so be it, but I have known too many couples where the guy works, and the girl just sits at home, and does nothing all day. If that was me, they would be out the door real quick.
I have a cousin that is married and she has never worked a day in her life, and I don't think she ever intends to. That's all fine and dandy, but if one day they would ever get a divorce, she's gonna be hurting.
20 Jul 2015, 2:25 am
